Why do some DIS'ers

[Mellie2162]

I don't judge where you go on vacation and I don't think you should judge others!

Ok, I really think this thread went the wrong way. Let me re-phrase again and see if this helps.

I understand the whole wanting to go to WDW every year and if my circumstances allowed I would do it myself. I get that its a preference where to go and what you want to do and by no means am I judging people for where they vacation every year. That is not the question at all.

My question was why some feel that it is a necessity, a need, a HAVE to go there to the point where they argue with spouses or spend money they dont have to do it.

Im not talking about folks who can afford to go and choose to go there. Im asking about folks who either cant afford to go and do everything they can to get there or argue with their spouse about it. Im also not basing this question on the one particular post everyone is talking about, Im referencing a lot of different posts through the years.

I think I better go back to work and get off the boards for a while today. Im obviously not making sense.

 

[cabanafrau]

I was just responding to what you said about people enlisting help of the kids to get what they want.

When I went on to explain my parents and their situation, I was responding in general to an attitude that I see here quite frequently, not necessarily one that you have, sorry for any confusion.

I just went back and read the post on the other poster on the budget board, and as I suspected her DH sounds like my father so this is where I was drawing my experience from. Apparently he didn't vacation as a child and now he is following in the same trait. I hate to se that for any family, travel should be included in the family if at all possible, and no not just do WDW but anywhere but apparently that isn't the way it is working in this family so far.

I haven't seen the thread being referred to in this thread, so I can't even comment on that. I'm not referring to any specific thread in my comments, just several I've seen here in the last few years.

 

[KimR]

No, Mellie, I think you're making perfect sense. It's just that so many of us are used to hearing 'you're going to Disney AGAIN?', 'why not go go somewhere else for a change?', 'don't you get bored?'...etc, etc. it's easy and natural to assume that this was just another one of 'those' threads.

 

[mhsjax]

I haven't seen the thread being referred to in this thread, so I can't even comment on that. I'm not referring to any specific thread in my comments, just several I've seen here in the last few years.

My apologies then, we are talking about 2 different things. It was just to coincidental for this post to come up after the one on the budget board. the one on the BB was posted at12:30 am and she was upset with hubby about a WDW vacation, and now the OP posted this thread around 7:00 am and asking about why people go every year and fighting with spouse over it. Just a little to close for me to believe that this post was not related to the one over at the Budget board.

 

[cabanafrau]

Ok, I really think this thread went the wrong way. Let me re-phrase again and see if this helps.

I understand the whole wanting to go to WDW every year and if my circumstances allowed I would do it myself. I get that its a preference where to go and what you want to do and by no means am I judging people for where they vacation every year. That is not the question at all.

My question was why some feel that it is a necessity, a need, a HAVE to go there to the point where they argue with spouses or spend money they dont have to do it.

Im not talking about folks who can afford to go and choose to go there. Im asking about folks who either cant afford to go and do everything they can to get there or argue with their spouse about it. Im also not basing this question on the one particular post everyone is talking about, Im referencing a lot of different posts through the years.

I think I better go back to work and get off the boards for a while today. Im obviously not making sense.

Aw, I think you've made perfect sense. Sometimes it's awkward to convey what we want in writing & it's very easy to be misunderstood. Remember people read things through the filter of their own experience.

I'm sure many people reading this do only vacation at Disney. I'm sure they get comments from family, co-workers, friend & neighbors because of this & feel sensitive. I'd bet that those who love cruises, golfing vacations, what have you go through the same thing.

How people choose to vacation is their choice.

 

[FireDancer]

Oh wait, I think maybe im misunderstood. I dont mean why do you go back to WDW year after year...Heck if I could afford to go I would too, I love the world..my question was why do some folks feel the need to have to go even if their circumstances dont really allow them to...does that make sense or am I still not phrasing it right?

I have noticed that as well. By all means if it is within your budget and you want to go, not need to go or have the right to go notice, go.

Some people give off the vibe that they have some sort of primal need or right to be in Walt Disney World and will incur a mountain of debt to do it. If a spouse brings up that they can't afford it instead of looking at them like the sensible person they are looked at like some kind of kill joy or like they lack the magic.

Downgrading to a value, staying off site at the Days Inn, driving instead of flying, or deciding to go with single park tickets instead of parkhoppers makes sense if you are traveling on a budget. Making hotdogs in your coffee pot or raiding a salad bar to make a free salad are just beyond ridiculous.

I love to travel and do so multiple times a year. I try to make it down to WDW about every other year and try to make it to Europe as often as possible. I would not, however, take a trip I couldn't afford just because I wanted to and if circumstances change for me and I can't travel I will stop. Part of being a responsible adult is saying no when it is necessary IMO.

 

[mhsjax]

Ok, I really think this thread went the wrong way. Let me re-phrase again and see if this helps.

I understand the whole wanting to go to WDW every year and if my circumstances allowed I would do it myself. I get that its a preference where to go and what you want to do and by no means am I judging people for where they vacation every year. That is not the question at all.

My question was why some feel that it is a necessity, a need, a HAVE to go there to the point where they argue with spouses or spend money they dont have to do it.

Im not talking about folks who can afford to go and choose to go there. Im asking about folks who either cant afford to go and do everything they can to get there or argue with their spouse about it. Im also not basing this question on the one particular post everyone is talking about, Im referencing a lot of different posts through the years.

I think I better go back to work and get off the boards for a while today. Im obviously not making sense.

You are making sense, but you r post sounds exactly like the other one people are talking about, bad timing I guess.

In answer to your question, I don't know. Sometimes you do have to fight for what you want, especially if you can afford it. I wanted to go to CA, DH wouldn't budge. I won. We could afford it at the time, I fought for my desire to go. I don't as for much and by golly he was taking me. Again we had the meney

 

[Toad_Passenger]

Ok, I really think this thread went the wrong way. Let me re-phrase again and see if this helps.

I understand the whole wanting to go to WDW every year and if my circumstances allowed I would do it myself. I get that its a preference where to go and what you want to do and by no means am I judging people for where they vacation every year. That is not the question at all.

My question was why some feel that it is a necessity, a need, a HAVE to go there to the point where they argue with spouses or spend money they dont have to do it.

Im not talking about folks who can afford to go and choose to go there. Im asking about folks who either cant afford to go and do everything they can to get there or argue with their spouse about it. Im also not basing this question on the one particular post everyone is talking about, Im referencing a lot of different posts through the years.

I think I better go back to work and get off the boards for a while today. Im obviously not making sense.

I think you're making perfect sense, but it doesn't change my answer that different people have different reasons.

It's not my place to judge whether or not someone can "afford" to go to Disney if they have to charge the whole trip, or sell off some things to make it work. I am also not in any place to judge people if they have to argue or "convince" someone in their family to try and go. Sometimes people are in a situation that we are unfamiliar with (as a PP mentioned about a Father who didn't want to go anywhere)

As I said, I understand your original point, but it doesn't change the answer. If someone feels the need to go every year and they do whatever it takes to make that happen, than that's their life and their responsibility.

 

[Pig Pen]

Why do people feel the "need" to go, even in adverse circumstances?

Maybe WDW is an escape from reality where they don't have to think about real life...even for a short time?

It works for me.

 

[Robinrs]

We used to go to Orlando 3 to 6 times a year when my son was younger, it's an 8 hour drive or a 1 1/2 hour plane trip so it was handy. Now that he's older and over it we go to other places. I loved our trips back then but it was for then, and I never felt the need to explain my purpose to anyone.

I am not a big Disney fan, I'm a Universal person, and still have our APs for there. We MIGHT go this year, maybe not. Like everyone said, it's a personal choice.

 

[grafxgirl]

We go every year because we are DVC, and don't have to worry about not being able to afford it. We bought into DVC when I was 6 months pregnant with our first child because we had the funds and knew that we would want to vacation there with our kids. We don't always do the same thing over and over again. We have some traditions that are must do's, but each time we plan a trip, we do things that we haven't done yet, and eat at places we haven't eaten. We don't spend all our time in the parks because there are plenty of things to do outside of the parks throughout WDW, which means our park hoppers usually last us 3 years, and we drive so we don't have to pay for airfare, just gas. We also enjoy the cruises, and as the kids get older we will do DL and some of the adventure packages. My husband and I are lucky that we have careers that allow us a good amount of time off throughout the year, so we also take mini vacations or weekend getaways with by ourselves or with our kids, that are not Disney related.

I don't know...why do some people go to the beach every year, skiing every year, to the mountains every year?

 

[Acklander]

I guess everyone needs something to look forward to, so for some people that thing is Disney. Nothing wrong with looking forward to something fun in life, otherwise, what's the point?
I guess we could just focus on working, chores, the day to day mundane things but that's boring, and while I'll travel to other places besides Disney, and maybe a trip has to be cancelled because life gets in the way, I'll still always be dreaming about the next get away with my family or friends.

 

[quandrea]

We go twice a year. We both work very hard and our trips to Disney are an Excellent way to recharge. We treat our DVC membership like our cottage. The Disney trip is good for us--relaxing but busy--what we want in a holiday. We love not having to worry about anything--finding a good restaurant, parking, landing in a bad neighbourhood. We save that stuff for our other adventures. Disney is just an easy, fun go to holiday. It is literally a second home for us.

 

[grafxgirl]

She isn't lying to him. They have gone with DH while he was on a business trip and the kids love being there. She planned a trip even and presented it to DH and DH apparently had a fit. Said they are spoiling the kids rotten and they are saving for a house, so no vacations until then.

Poster said they do have a small CC bill but they are paying it off and also said that she wouldn't go unless they had the cash to pay for it.

For some reason some people here think she is lying and using her kids to get hubby .

I know they are saving for a house, but seems to me that people don't know what a happy medium is.

So they save for the house, no vacations. They purchase house, what next, they need to work on the house, the yard needs to be resoded, something breaks in said house. There is always something, much like having kids, there is no perfect time and if you have the cash, then go for it.

I know this is more info that you asked for, I just don't get why some people are so upset by this woman wanting her hubby to go back to Disney.

Spoiling the kids rotten...if you knew my husband's family. The grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings... everyone is a DVC member so the little ones grow up with Disney being a normal thing. The running joke in our family is our kids are "Disney snobs"

 

[Planogirl]

Some people are still missing the point. Oh well.

OP, I get what you are saying. DS has been to Florida 14 times and he's 17 so I guess that we fit into that every year category. We don't only visit WDW but that destination is certainly one that we always visit.

It's not a need for us and I wouldn't go if DS wasn't just as interested. At least not so often. DH has only been a few times and that's fine. I would never try to force him to go or go if money was an issue. He isn't interested in traveling elsewhere but if that came up I'd certainly respect his desire to travel to certain places.

I get your point and I don't understand it either.

 

[CdnCarrie]

I'm just curious about why the OP hasn't been to WDW since 2000 and is not planning a trip there why they would be posting on a DISboard community board? That seems odd to me.

But I do agree that I find it strange to go every year. We have gone 3x in the last 4 years as we have young kids and it's just such and awesome/easy trip with little kids (child friendly, lots to do for all ages, no worry about transportation, etc.) But now they are older we are branching out and trying different things. We'll still be going to WDW but only every few years.

 

[Mellie2162]

I'm just curious about why the OP hasn't been to WDW since 2000 and is not planning a trip there why they would be posting on a DISboard community board? That seems odd to me

You're kidding me right?

Oh Lord, I really need to get off these boards today.

 

[CdnCarrie]

You're kidding me right?

Oh Lord, I really need to get off these boards today.

No not at all!

I totally get what your saying with your original post and agree with you 100%.

But I do find it weird that if you haven't been to WDW in 10 years and aren't planning a trip why you would hang out here. I don't unless I'm planning a trip or just back and having post trip letdown. LOL. Sorry but I do find it odd.

Kind of like me hanging out on sports boards when I don't watch sports. Don't really understand why......

 

[Pakey]

No not at all!

I totally get what your saying with your original post and agree with you 100%.

But I do find it weird that if you haven't been to WDW in 10 years and aren't planning a trip why you would hang out here. I don't unless I'm planning a trip or just back and having post trip letdown. LOL. Sorry but I do find it odd.

Kind of like me hanging out on sports boards when I don't watch sports. Don't really understand why......

Maybe because you've only been on the dis for a year? If I never went back to Disney again, I'd still be on these boards. I have friends here. I don't find it odd at all.

 

[Pakey]

My husband doesn't care for WDW but we go because I love it. We used to take every vacation to WDW but we have reached a compromise where only one vacation a year is to WDW and the other vacation has to be somewhere we've never been before. Now my husband doesn't resent going to WDW as much because it isn't all my way or all his way.

Like everything in a relationship, you have to find a balance. I enjoy going but it isn't a need. I never felt like I was depriving my children if we didn't go to Disney every year, every 2 years. When the boys were young, we did a lot of cheap camping vacations and their memories of those are just as special as the Disney trips. It's the time together that matters, not the location.