Why do people post such things? Really?

[Carly_Roach]

Sometimes you simply can't skip over them because the TMI part doesn't rear its ugly head until halfway through the post.
For example, the thread on the Disney For Families board right now about the pregnancy. My first thought after reading the beginning was CONGRATS, AWESOME, FINALLY! Then the part about the other kids being in the next bed during it just hit you like a train....didn't see it coming and there is no stopping it.
Other threads, yes, by the title you can tell whether or not it should be opened. Ex: periods

In those situations (and yes I've been caught by them too), you back out of the thread and remember the title so you don't ever open it again. YOU are in control. YOU can choose whether to continue reading or not.

If you have no problems surfing channels on your TV and changing the station if/when something objectionable comes across the screen, then you should have no problems finding another thread here that won't skeeve you.

And before someone asks:

skeeve

(verb) to gross out; to digust; to make your skin crawl, sometimes with undertones of sexual deviance/perversion

It really skeeved me out when he ate the gummy bear off the floor in the movie theater.
or
Twenty-year-old guys who date girls too young to drive really skeeve me out.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

My point wasn't even if things gross somebody out but I do think telling everyone that you conceived with your kids 2 feet away from you is in that category. I also don't get people who tell the whole Dis exactly when they are going to "try". Of course to each their own on that topic.

My point was that people come on here talking about their children. This is not some anonymous place. Many people have pictures and links in their signatures. Would you really be okay if you found out that your Mom was posting on a message board about how fat you were? Or what if they were telling everyone that you were intimate for the first time? I don't know any young girls who want to share the joy of their first period on the internet. I just wish people would really think about how their children would feel if they saw some of what they posted.

 

[nmmom95]

Sometimes you simply can't skip over them because the TMI part doesn't rear its ugly head until halfway through the post.
For example, the thread on the Disney For Families board right now about the pregnancy. My first thought after reading the beginning was CONGRATS, AWESOME, FINALLY! Then the part about the other kids being in the next bed during it just hit you like a train....didn't see it coming and there is no stopping it.
Other threads, yes, by the title you can tell whether or not it should be opened. Ex: periods

That's exactly what I thought about that thread! I rarely open the TMI threads, but I wasn't ready for that little bit of info. Squick is a good word for it, Carly!

 

[luvmy3]

My point wasn't even if things gross somebody out but I do think telling everyone that you conceived with your kids 2 feet away from you is in that category. I also don't get people who tell the whole Dis exactly when they are going to "try". Of course to each their own on that topic.

My point was that people come on here talking about their children. This is not some anonymous place. Many people have pictures and links in their signatures. Would you really be okay if you found out that your Mom was posting on a message board about how fat you were? Or what if they were telling everyone that you were intimate for the first time? I don't know any young girls who want to share the joy of their first period on the internet. I just wish people would really think about how their children would feel if they saw some of what they posted.

I would rather my mother post those things on an internet message board rather than talk to people (friends and family) that actually do know me. You can see a pic and my name here but you still don't know me.
If my dd who I have talked about had a problem then I wouldn't do it, but I also don't post any of my kid's names or pics here. I realize that if someone really wanted to find that info they could, but I think the average DISer doesn't turn into a stalker when someone posts about their dd's first period. If they do then I would say they are the one that has a problem

 

[mickeysgal]

I think some threads are dropped onto these boards simply for the shock value - to see how much froth can be generated. I agree, some people post way too much information and too many personal pictures of their kids and links to personal blogs. That, in of itself, is too much personal information and removes to some degree, the anonymous nature of it all.

 

[LuvLDM]

I get what the Op is saying, I'm often stunned by the personal information that some posters share. I don't usually feel offended or grossed out......but, yeah I sometimes cringe at the personal nature of some posts.
Announcing that you want to conceive a baby during your next Disney vacation because it would be sooooo special....really??? I get that it's a Disney board but honestly I picture a 12 yr. old girl playing house when I read that sort of post.

 

[Tiger926]

I totally agree with the OP.

Just because you have the freedom to post anything, doesn't mean you should. I constantly am teaching this to my own children, and my students.

It takes a mature and responsible person to know their audience, as well as to respect someone else's privacy, as well as to think about what his/her purpose is for posting in the first place.

I know this is a discussion board, but there is way too much personal info and photos posted on here, and that absolutely removes the privacy aspect, IMHO. For those people, I see it more as a way to vent in a selfish way, without regard for those whom you are speaking about. If they actually thought about how mortified their daughter might be to read about her monthly cycles, or if their son read about the very intimate details of his conception, I would think that most people wouldn't post. It's the lack of foresight and regard towards others in sharing those details, that baffles my mind somedays.

Personal censorship, as well as tact and decorum, seem to be lost on so many people...Tiger

 

[pharm]

Some people just want to brag?

As if being intimate with your kids in the room is anything to brag about.... ewie. (agree 100% with you)

 

[Carly_Roach]

Some people just want to brag?

As if being intimate with your kids in the room is anything to brag about.... ewie. (agree 100% with you)

Well, if I'm remembering my Little House books correctly, Carrie, Grace and Charles (who later died) were all conceived in the same room that Mary and Laura were sleeping in as children and pre-teens. I don't believe it was something anyone bragged about but it was a way of life for many, many families for hundreds of years. It's only our American Puritanical sense of sexuality that makes it skeevish for some.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

while I understand that people keep pointing out this is a discussion board, they seem to forget that this is a DISNEY discussion board.

If you have a question or need opinions about women's health issues, wouldn't it be better to go to a womens health forum?

and if you want to discuss other personal issues regarding sex, perhaps going to a playboy or penthouse forum would be a better place.

it seems there are so many threads on medical issues that there almost should be a seperate forum on medical advice.

but then again, abuse of certain topics and issues are what caused the mods to eliminate politics and religion as topics for discussion. if the topics are abused, its not hard to see them banning those topics as well.

I am sure that a few individuals post them for the shock factor, or simply to get some sort of attention. It just seems to distract for the idea that this is a Disney discussion board.

we need to remember that not all the posters and readers are adults.

 

[tinkerbellandeyor]

I so agree with OP and feel the same way about peoples Facebook pages too...Will never understand!!!!

I have to say that one is letting friends and family know what you are up to the other is asking advice

I can't speak for everyone, I sometimes find it easier to vent to strangers then my real life friends.

Yes me 2

From a person who as a kid thought my mom shared too much of my business with others...I'd much rather have had her ask personal questions,vent ect. on a forum where the ppl. don't know me or she in real life, then her ask/tell them to ppl. I personally knew. If ppl. need help/have questions, I'd rather they ask somewhere then never get help/vent ect. (I think it's healthier,) so I don't really see a problem with ppl. asking it on a somewhat anonymous board Sometimes the things ppl. post are a little personal, but if it makes me uncomfortable then I just skip it.

It is more secretive this way

 

[FireDancer]

I agree completely OP. None of the threads really gross me out but many astound me.

I can't believe anyone would want to conceive one child in the same room as another but whatever. If you want to do it do, as long as I am not one of the children it doesn't matter to me, but don't post it all over the Internets for everyone to read about.

If you have a medical question as a doctor, not a Disney message board.

If you get angry at your friends using your decorative towels, your neighbors hanging their laundry in their own back yard, kids playing in a public park, or make any other tiny little thing into a big deal that is thread worthy you are probably at least a little bit in need of an intervention and some medication.

If you have to ask "is this tacky", "am I over reacting", "am I in the wrong here", etc the answer is almost always yes.

If every question you have about your child's period or test grades gets posted on a message board take it as a heads up that you need more friends in real life.

There are topics that just belong between friends in real life where there is no permanent record of their discussion.

JMO of course. If any of these describe you carry on I guess, at least if provides some amusement.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Well, if I'm remembering my Little House books correctly, Carrie, Grace and Charles (who later died) were all conceived in the same room that Mary and Laura were sleeping in as children and pre-teens. I don't believe it was something anyone bragged about but it was a way of life for many, many families for hundreds of years. It's only our American Puritanical sense of sexuality that makes it skeevish for some.

Perhaps but I don't live on the prairie and I can bet that Caroline didn't discuss the conception of her children with Mrs. Olsen. Why you ask? Because stuff that like should be between a man and wife. It shouldn't be something you share on the trinitron in Times Square. Do you really think people (friends or strangers) need to know that you are going to be trying to conceive when you go to WDW and that your timing is perfect? I get being excited but I simply do not get sharing such intimacies with the random public. Telling your BFF that you are hoping to be pregnant is one thing. Making an announcement in Walmart (which is the same thing as telling the internet) is quite another. It is not any more anonymous.

I still stand by what I said in that it is imo terrible what some people will post about their children. Those kids have no choice in having their private business posted all over. I don't know why a parent would do that to their child.

 

[pharm]

Well, if I'm remembering my Little House books correctly, Carrie, Grace and Charles (who later died) were all conceived in the same room that Mary and Laura were sleeping in as children and pre-teens. I don't believe it was something anyone bragged about but it was a way of life for many, many families for hundreds of years. It's only our American Puritanical sense of sexuality that makes it skeevish for some.

............ Wha? Sense of sexuality? What does that have to do with anything? ._. I know I wouldn't like knowing my parents had sex while I was in the same room. And what is Little House? (seriously, that made little to no sense to me.... I was replying to the OP)

 

[kirstenb1]

I don't know why. I don't open threads with icky topics.

 

[nmmom95]

I agree completely OP. None of the threads really gross me out but many astound me.

I can't believe anyone would want to conceive one child in the same room as another but whatever. If you want to do it do, as long as I am not one of the children it doesn't matter to me, but don't post it all over the Internets for everyone to read about.

If you have a medical question as a doctor, not a Disney message board.

If you get angry at your friends using your decorative towels, your neighbors hanging their laundry in their own back yard, kids playing in a public park, or make any other tiny little thing into a big deal that is thread worthy you are probably at least a little bit in need of an intervention and some medication.

If you have to ask "is this tacky", "am I over reacting", "am I in the wrong here", etc the answer is almost always yes.

If every question you have about your child's period or test grades gets posted on a message board take it as a heads up that you need more friends in real life.

There are topics that just belong between friends in real life where there is no permanent record of their discussion.

JMO of course. If any of these describe you carry on I guess, at least if provides some amusement.

Well said!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Well, if I'm remembering my Little House books correctly, Carrie, Grace and Charles (who later died) were all conceived in the same room that Mary and Laura were sleeping in as children and pre-teens. I don't believe it was something anyone bragged about but it was a way of life for many, many families for hundreds of years. It's only our American Puritanical sense of sexuality that makes it skeevish for some.

Agreed - there are many people who are very uncomfortable, even prudish, about sex - especially in America.

 

[luvmy3]

while I understand that people keep pointing out this is a discussion board, they seem to forget that this is a DISNEY discussion board.

If you have a question or need opinions about women's health issues, wouldn't it be better to go to a womens health forum?

and if you want to discuss other personal issues regarding sex, perhaps going to a playboy or penthouse forum would be a better place.

it seems there are so many threads on medical issues that there almost should be a seperate forum on medical advice.

but then again, abuse of certain topics and issues are what caused the mods to eliminate politics and religion as topics for discussion. if the topics are abused, its not hard to see them banning those topics as well.

I am sure that a few individuals post them for the shock factor, or simply to get some sort of attention. It just seems to distract for the idea that this is a Disney discussion board.

we need to remember that not all the posters and readers are adults.

This is not a discussion board where only things about Disney can be discussed. It is a discussion board filled with Disney lovers (and crazed fanatics) who come to discuss many topics with people who share at least one common bond in their love of Disney.
As far as all the posters having to remember that not all readers are adults, I'm sorry but that isn't my or your issue, that is the parents of those readers who are not adults.

 

[Jennasis]

So, what topics are permissible?

 

[pharm]

Agreed - there are many people who are very uncomfortable, even prudish, about sex - especially in America.

while i agree, i have to kind of laugh. whenever i'm at my lunch table, we're very open about everything - we've even played the 'pen' game. you all know that, right? if not, don't worry about it ^_^ quite a few people are very open and okay with it; however, there are probably more people who would rather keep hush-hush.