Why do people post such things? Really?

[mickeysgal]

I agree completely OP. None of the threads really gross me out but many astound me.

I can't believe anyone would want to conceive one child in the same room as another but whatever. If you want to do it do, as long as I am not one of the children it doesn't matter to me, but don't post it all over the Internets for everyone to read about.

If you have a medical question as a doctor, not a Disney message board.

If you get angry at your friends using your decorative towels, your neighbors hanging their laundry in their own back yard, kids playing in a public park, or make any other tiny little thing into a big deal that is thread worthy you are probably at least a little bit in need of an intervention and some medication.

If you have to ask "is this tacky", "am I over reacting", "am I in the wrong here", etc the answer is almost always yes.

If every question you have about your child's period or test grades gets posted on a message board take it as a heads up that you need more friends in real life.

There are topics that just belong between friends in real life where there is no permanent record of their discussion.

JMO of course. If any of these describe you carry on I guess, at least if provides some amusement.

Not sure what would be left if personal type topics were not allowed here on the DIS. Maybe just current best seller threads, current movies, and recipes would be just about all that's left.

What would the DIS - community board - do without it's seemingly daily dose of adultery, marital breakups, teen angst, playground problems, school/teacher complaints, etc.?

I think most people turn to this board as a sounding board/sampling of a cross section of opinions. Sometimes perspective is hard to grasp if you're just asking your neighbor or best friend. I think it's easier for people to be brutaly honest about topics and opinions when they are private and your neighbor/best friend/family member can't tie you to your question or opinion.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

while i agree, i have to kind of laugh. whenever i'm at my lunch table, we're very open about everything - we've even played the 'pen' game. you all know that, right? if not, don't worry about it ^_^ quite a few people are very open and okay with it; however, there are probably more people who would rather keep hush-hush.

Years ago I worked for the IRS during their heavy processing period leading up to 4/15. Well, 95% of the people hired for this were women. I was the token man on my shift, and I had a group of younger girls that sat to my left that talked about things that made me keep my head down and my mouth shut - very explicit. The group of women to my right were older, and they were disgusted by the things that the girls to my left discussed.

Talk about being stuck in the middle of a war. Every day, for better than a month, back and forth. The girls to me left would get even more explicit every day just to get the older women going. I was very happy when 4/15 came and the job ended. My wife laughed hysterically when I came home talking about the "wars". Though I'll admit that they gave me a few ideas about things that I would later try with the wife.

 

[luvmy3]

Years ago I worked for the IRS during their heavy processing period leading up to 4/15. Well, 95% of the people hired for this were women. I was the token man on my shift, and I had a group of younger girls that sat to my left that talked about things that made me keep my head down and my mouth shut - very explicit. The group of women to my right were older, and they were disgusted by the things that the girls to my left discussed.

Talk about being stuck in the middle of a war. Every day, for better than a month, back and forth. The girls to me left would get even more explicit every day just to get the older women going. I was very happy when 4/15 came and the job ended. My wife laughed hysterically when I came home talking about the "wars". Though I'll admit that they gave me a few ideas about things that I would later try with the wife.

Better be careful, thats really pushing the envelope for some pp's in this thread

 

[FireDancer]

Not wanting to have sex in the same room where children are sleeping (yours or not) in is not prudish. Most Americans are prudes when it comes to sex and nudity (which is unfortunate) but this is not an example of that.

I have no problem talking openly about it with other adults but none of those things I talk openly about are going to be 5 feet from any little kid sleeping in the next bed. I don't buy into it's a personal private act between two people stuff but there is a big difference between Victorian-era prudishness and not conceiving a kid 5 feet from your other kids.

 

[klacey1]

Well, if I'm remembering my Little House books correctly, Carrie, Grace and Charles (who later died) were all conceived in the same room that Mary and Laura were sleeping in as children and pre-teens. I don't believe it was something anyone bragged about but it was a way of life for many, many families for hundreds of years. It's only our American Puritanical sense of sexuality that makes it skeevish for some.

This is a joke, right? This is absolutely no way this can be serious. . .If thinking that having relations in the same room as small children is "American Puritanical," then I am both of those things. Society was a LOT, LOT more prude back when those BOOKS (not historical documents) were written-- not to mention many people only had one room homes and only had relations when the goal was to procreate. You can HARDLY compare that to today.
I don't have a problem with many, many things regarding sexuality, but you can be darned (not word I'd like to use!) sure that I believe the idea of having relations in the same room as ANYONE else, much less children is beyond disgusting. It's a personal, private act. I really don't know how anyone could view it in any other way. If the OP of that thread wanted to share that she was pregnant and pretty sure that it happened in Disney, GREAT! If she only left out that last detail. . .
I don't mind most threads. Really. Even that thread-- it was her decision to post it. I found it disgusting, but me thinking it is gross shouldn't deny her her right to free speech.

 

[pharm]

Years ago I worked for the IRS during their heavy processing period leading up to 4/15. Well, 95% of the people hired for this were women. I was the token man on my shift, and I had a group of younger girls that sat to my left that talked about things that made me keep my head down and my mouth shut - very explicit. The group of women to my right were older, and they were disgusted by the things that the girls to my left discussed.

Talk about being stuck in the middle of a war. Every day, for better than a month, back and forth. The girls to me left would get even more explicit every day just to get the older women going. I was very happy when 4/15 came and the job ended. My wife laughed hysterically when I came home talking about the "wars". Though I'll admit that they gave me a few ideas about things that I would later try with the wife.

....... WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW i would never talk about it at work or such (like, school is okay... because it's school... but NEVER at work or in a very public place, like one with children) that's amazing, though... xD

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

... It's a personal, private act. I really don't know how anyone could view it in any other way....

Ever heard of porn? More people than you can imagine see it differently than you.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Not wanting to have sex in the same room where children are sleeping (yours or not) in is not prudish. Most Americans are prudes when it comes to sex and nudity (which is unfortunate) but this is not an example of that.

You are probably correct - prudish probably isn't the best adjective to describe it, but there are many cultures in the world that do not hide sex from children. Not sure that they "perform" for their children (no one here suggested as much), but they wouldn't be concerned about the act in a darkened room with their children asleep in a different bed.

 

[FireDancer]

You are probably correct - prudish probably isn't the best adjective to describe it, but there are many cultures in the world that do not hide sex from children. Not sure that they "perform" for their children (no one here suggested as much), but they wouldn't be concerned about the act in a darkened room with their children asleep in a different bed.

I don't think sex should be hidden from kids in the slightest but I also wouldn't perform it 5 feet from them in the same room. Heck, if anything the quiet, still, don't wake the kid next to us sex just seems unfun. I guess if you are just doing it to procreate it doesn't matter but God I hope I never get to that point.

In America we definitely do send the wrong message a lot to kids, especially in families and schools that treat is as this bad thing that need not be discussed. The most fun girls growing up were the one from conservative families who finally let loose so many times it ends up backfiring. I just don't see this as anywhere close to that issue. I know people who go to nudist colonies with their kids and discus sex very openly but they don't do it in the same room as them. That just crosses a line for me. Just my opinion of course.

And again, the real issue isn't doing it. Like I said, I don't care. Just don't post it on the Internet.

 

[Angelhalo]

Then don't open the thread


I don't have a problem with people posting that stuff, I don't know who they are or who they are talking about so it doesn't make any difference to me what people want to share with a bunch of strangers.

I completely agree. The boards wouldn't be anywhere near as interesting if people didn't post about whatever it is that they truly want to talk about. If something seems too personal then I just don't open it.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

While I agree that sometimes that it's easier to ask a bunch of strangers, I cringe when I see a picture of the child they're giving extremely personal information about in the sig line, or have blog set up with all their information, or it's just a crazy over the top question.


Makes me feel super normal sometimes though.

I feel more normal too!

I think most of it is the anonymity of message boards. Sometimes it is easier to ask a group of strangers about their experience than a friend. Plus the questions reach a lot more people.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

So, what topics are permissible?

I don't care what topics people want to post about and if I see an icky thread and I don't want to read it I just pass over it. However, I am just questioning why on earth people post some of the things they do with no regards to the children they are posting about. If you (a general you) want to post about menstrual cramps then go crazy with yourself. For me the issue comes when you want to post about your child and their period/weight gain/weight loss/hygiene/relations etc. Why does that child not have privacy with those issues? Those types of things imo should not be shared with strangers. Of course that is just my opinion and since this is a discussion board we all have one!

 

[Liberty Belle]

I don't think I post stuff like that. I'm a pretty private person, so I can't see me posting that kind of thing.

But, I do see how if it's something very personal, it would be easier to ask a group of strangers anonymously, than going to a friend who knows exactly who you're talking about.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't think I post stuff like that. I'm a pretty private person, so I can't see me posting that kind of thing.

But, I do see how if it's something very personal, it would be easier to ask a group of strangers anonymously, than going to a friend who knows exactly who you're talking about.

Even if it had to do with your child?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Even if it had to do with your child?

In some cases, especially if it had to do with your child.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

In some cases, especially if it had to do with your child.

I don't know. I guess I just don't understand that. I know that of course sometimes you need to vent/ask questions etc. but sometimes I think that some of the topics are so personal. How would a child feel knowing that their parent put it out there on the internet forever? I just don't think it is a good thing. To each their own of course.

 

[kirstenb1]

I don't think I post stuff like that. I'm a pretty private person, so I can't see me posting that kind of thing.

But, I do see how if it's something very personal, it would be easier to ask a group of strangers anonymously, than going to a friend who knows exactly who you're talking about.

I agree with you. The DIS is like writing to Dear Abby---pretty anonymous. If you tell someone in real life, there's no putting the genie back in the bottle.

 

[Planogirl]

I think that asking strangers probably feels safer for a lot of people.

 

[klacey1]

Ever heard of porn? More people than you can imagine see it differently than you.

LOL-- touche! Well, for ME, I don't think it's something that should be done in the same room as others (especially children). . .I'm not going to down on anyone who sees it as a viable means of making money, however. That, to me, is fine. Unless it's some kind of pedophilia porn, anyone else's career is none of my business-- rather someone work than not!

 

[focusondisney]

How did I miss that one?????

I was thinking the same thing!


And is anyone going to post a link? Sounds like a Dis classic in the making!