Why do people bring nanny's?

[Amyality]

well here is my 2 cents>>>>>>>>>>>>

I would never take a nanny to wdw under any circumstances.
I have enjoyed my kids each and every time in wdw...yes,, the first few years when they were very young I went back to our hotel room for nap times and when they became cranky at night...but this is all part of being a family

and I don't need a nanny so I can go out to pleasure island with my DH or possibly one of the parks at night. I need to be in the room with my kids just in case they wake up and need their mother,

so flame me if you want, but I believe vacation is for family only and the optimum word is sacrifice ....yes,,,you can't do everything you want when your kids are little, but the bottom line is that you are with them.

Trust me, it gets so better. my kids are teens now & it is totally different.
they can go till wee hours into the night.....sometimes that is good and sometimes I miss when they were little and went to sleep and DH & I could just talk.

so for me, I am happy that in the past 10 years we have gone to wdw we never engaged in outside help to watch our kids.

just me...and my opinion

I'm sure you will get burned by alot of folks on this theread but, not me! This is exactly how I feel about it. However, it is easy to feel this way as I have the the luxury of staying home with my kids. We would never hire anyone to watch our kids on vacation. Partially because, I could not live with the conciquences should anything go wrong and as you so eloquently stated I know a family should be together on vacation not, at Pleasure Island or wherever. That said, I don't hold any bad blood towards folks that do. Life is choices.
I'm sure 99% of the nannied kids are going to be fine because of it. But what about the 1%? No gonna be my kids, that is for sure. I do think a nanny would be a better option than long hours at daycare as someone else mentioned. There, your child is sure to be exposed to few party prizes who are dumped in daycare by folks with zero parenting skills. I am so thankful that I am able to be a SAHM but, I'll be glad to get back to work in 3 years when my youngest son enters kindergarten. I don't want to totally give up on a career. I had a pretty great job that I left for my babies.
I was a nanny in college and it was great! My "family" vacationed all summer Sun through Wed at a nearby ocean town and I deffinitely had a good time - was able to go out and have a good time quite often. They only used me for naps and occasional short evenings out. I was always very good to the little girl but, there is no replacement for a mommas love. She hated it when her parents left (she was a bit of a brat though). Did I love her? No. Was I good to her? Yes. Why? Two reasons, I am a decent human being and because, I was paid and contracted to do so. Sure, some nannies stay a long time and really turn out loving the kids but, I'm telling you most are just doing a job.

 

[YourMajesty]

I would think people bring their nanny for the same reason they have them at home. The nanny is working just like they do at home. If you are not used to being with your child 24/7 and attending to every need it might be hard to start that on vacation. It you don't have a nanny I could see how it might not seem needed...or even desirable.

 

[Mickeyhugger]

Whoa...they shouldn't have children? I work in a daycare in a medical area. All of the kids I care for have at least one parent that is some type of doctor, if not both parents. They are in daycare for 10-12 hours per day. I agree that it stinks having to have someone else raise their kids most of the day, but that's life. Not everybody can be a stay-at-home mom. If you can provide a loving and stable home for your children, and find the right people to care for your children when you have to be at work (and we do take very good care of the kids...we truly love each and every one of them), then I say go for it.

No, I don't think they should have children if they're not going to put them first. Two parents who are doctors? It's great that they help the medical community, but try explaining that to a toddler who is crying for 'mommy' or 'daddy.' I used to work in childcare too, and quit because it was too heart-breaking. I wince when I read '10-12' hours in daycare. No, I'm not a troll. And I'm not trying to tick anyone off. I'm sure there are many who, if they had it to do all over again, they would've done differently. Waited until they had kids.

 

[Forevryoung]

I know the situation is a little different but I went as a "nanny" in June with a family to the World-

I have known them for 5 years and consider the children "my younger sisters" (10 year age difference between us). The younger daughter has severe cerebral palsy and needs pretty constant care. The parents haven't had a NIGHT away from her EVER (shes 10). They invited me to go with them because they had never been to Disney before, because an extra pair of hands was much appreciated and because it gave them some time together (they went out 2 nights just the two of them). I am one of the only people they trust with their daughter for an extended period of time and I dont live in the same state as them (they moved) so it worked out perfectly.

We had an amazing 8 days together- They wouldnt have been able to do it without me.


In general, some people get extremely overwhelmed by traveling. Having an extra set of hands might make things a lot less overwhelming.

 

[ptrbryant]

and some are more attached than others. I had my son when I was in my 30's. I realize that life is short and our time raising our son will pass quickly. Childhood can never be repeated and can never be "fixed", and each day I see so many life lessons I've taught him (esp. since we homeschool!) when it comes to values and ethics that I can't imagine having someone else do this for me.
I have to say that many of us moms used to comment at the parks (when DS was a toddler) about how off-putting it was to have numerous nannies complain to us about their employers ("She's freaked out if she has to spend a weekend alone with her own children!") and, frankly, not treat their "charges" very well (replying to them with sarcastic voices, ignoring them, etc.) I guess this, which was my first impression of nannies, gave me a negative feeling about the whole thing. Of course I know most nannies are probably wonderful, but--truly--it seemed like 3/4 of the ones I have encountered---well, I certainly wouldn't want them taking care of my son.
I think it's too harsh to say if you're not going to be a stay-at-home-parent you shouldn't have children. But, I do hope every parent takes their responsibility seriously and acts on the fact that raising the next generation is more important than any other job.
Just my two cents!
Karla B.

 

[Mickeyhugger]

I know the situation is a little different but I went as a "nanny" in June with a family to the World-

I have known them for 5 years and consider the children "my younger sisters" (10 year age difference between us). The younger daughter has severe cerebral palsy and needs pretty constant care. The parents haven't had a NIGHT away from her EVER (shes 10). They invited me to go with them because they had never been to Disney before, because an extra pair of hands was much appreciated and because it gave them some time together (they went out 2 nights just the two of them). I am one of the only people they trust with their daughter for an extended period of time and I dont live in the same state as them (they moved) so it worked out perfectly.

We had an amazing 8 days together- They wouldnt have been able to do it without me.


In general, some people get extremely overwhelmed by traveling. Having an extra set of hands might make things a lot less overwhelming.

This family was very blessed to have a caring individual as yourself to accompany them and help out on their WDW trip.

 

[icebaby]

Wouldn't it be better to take the nanny/au par/babysitter with the family on vacation then to decided to take an alone vacation and leave the kids with a nanny / babysitter / Grandparents / Aunt / whoever for a week? There is nothing wrong with knowing what makes your "family business" work best, not saying it would work for the next home down the road...in the end parenting is full of choices...

 

[susan1]

hi
i will probably get flamed for this but why take very young children to disney at all. why not wait until they canwalk,talk eat and sleep at a reasonable time? i am amazed at the number of really tiny babies we see at parks. also mistified at the number of threads on various forums asking which rides they can take their 6/7/8/ 10 month baby on. why bother? i realise a large family could wait a long time but they could all enjoy it together

 

[pyrxtc]

hi
i will probably get flamed for this but why take very young children to disney at all. why not wait until they canwalk,talk eat and sleep at a reasonable time? i am amazed at the number of really tiny babies we see at parks. also mistified at the number of threads on various forums asking which rides they can take their 6/7/8/ 10 month baby on. why bother? i realise a large family could wait a long time but they could all enjoy it together

Well if I waited for my youngest to be able to do all that, my oldest would be 15 and i want her to enjoy some of the magic while she is younger. Young babies, I'm sure, love all the stimuli that is there. I have taken all of kids to places when they were tiny. Sometimes it's easier the younger they are.

That said, I am taking our babysitter with us for the week. I am a SAHM and spend all day with my kids. My DH and I get out together about once every 3 months and out alone less than that. Katie (our babysitter) is coming so we can go out at night to PI or dinner or whatever. Durinbg the day she will be there so DH and I can do some rides together and to really enjoy herself. she is part of my family. I have known her for her entire life, I babysat her and her siblings when they were little and went on many vacations with her family and other families I babysat for. She will be an extra set of hands but this is giving her a vacation that her mom cannot take her on and I woudn't want to take without her.

Her dad left when she was younger and it's been hard on her mother both financially and emotionally. Katie also had a major tragedy in her life recently where her big brother died in an accident. So this vacation will hopefully also be a break from that pain.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

I wouldn't want to take anyone to WDW with us. For us it's family time. This was the first year we even used the Neverland club (kids loved it) so DH and I could have one dinner together. I'm a SAHM and DH works lots of hours so its wonderful for us to be able to spend two weeks of quality time together. Next summer DH's parents are going to be spending one week in WDW with us - I welcome the "extra pair of hands" but DH is nervous about having anyone else there for our "family time". I've raised four older children and now we have the three younger ones and I know for a fact how fast the time flies and I wouldn't want to remember our "family time" as nanny time. I'm not putting down anyone who has to work and not stay home with their children but come on, even on vacation. I know some parents who really can't figure out what to do with their kids for any period of time longer than a few hours. Very sad.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

at that time it was her, her dh, ds#1 (approx 11), dd#1 (approx 6), ds#2 (approx 1.75) and dd#2 (approx 6 months) and their nanny.

It would have been incredibly difficult for the two of them to manage 4 kids (2 in diapers and cribs) at the parks.
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But isn't this called parenting? It really comes down to saying why have four kids if you can't take care of them yourselves. I was a nanny for 16 YEARS! And my job was to care for the kids while their parents were not home...not because they just couldn't deal with them.

 

[dadtoagirl]

But isn't this called parenting? It really comes down to saying why have four kids if you can't take care of them yourselves. I was a nanny for 16 YEARS! And my job was to care for the kids while their parents were not home...not because they just couldn't deal with them.

Exactly!

 

[vatmark]

well I am sure I will be flamed but I think people just don't want to be bothered making a sacrifice to be with their kids. I have 2 kids. I left my job to stay home when my first was born. Sure we could have nicer cars and nicer things if I worked. No one can sit there and say that a child would rather have a nanny take care of them then their own parent. And the two income nessecessity doesn't fly. If you really compared how much you spend on childcare/nanny and what you actually make plus with 1 income you would be in a lower tax bracket...how much money is really being missed. A lot less then you would think.

And to say that you are being so generous by hiring a nanny that comes from another country and letting them experience things they wouldn't get to normally is ridiculous. It's an excuse.

If you can't deal with your own kids when you go to Disney then don't go. Yes, babies require naps...it's called a sacrafice...someone has to go back to the room to put the child for a nap. No, babies can't go on the rides...again it's a sacrafice...someone has to wait with baby while the others go on the ride. Many people without nannies manage just fine and enjoy their vacation.

 

[Deb & Bill]

They often say moms are on call 24/7. Are nannies on call 24/7 when they go on vacation with the family they work for? The family is on vacation. Are they? Does the nanny sleep with the kids or does she get her own room? Do the kids sleep with the parents? Does the nanny get her salary as well as the trip since she is working? Or does the family think the trip is her salary? What if she doesn't really want to go on vacation with the family? Does she still get to take a vacation on her own without the family?

Just wondering.

 

[NCombs]

People really need to stop being so judgemental. People do what is right for their families.

Once again, time for another thread to be closed because people have to sling dirt.

I think the original question has been answered by people who have had the experience and can give their thoughts.

I give this thread 15 minutes before it is closed.

 

[wintergreen]

Our experience only, I'm sure others do it differently:

They often say moms are on call 24/7. Are nannies on call 24/7 when they go on vacation with the family they work for? The family is on vacation. Are they? Does the nanny sleep with the kids or does she get her own room? Do the kids sleep with the parents? Does the nanny get her salary as well as the trip since she is working? Or does the family think the trip is her salary? What if she doesn't really want to go on vacation with the family? Does she still get to take a vacation on her own without the family?

Just wondering.

Our au pair is not on call 24/7 if she goes with us to WDW. We do give her some time to herself. Is she on vacation? Yes and no. She shares with us in the whole vacation experience, but is asked to spend some time looking after the kids. We will get a 2 BR DVC unit if we bring her. She and our two DDs share the second bedroom. Yes, she gets her salary, AND the whole trip is paid for (airfare, room, meals, snacks, etc.). We ask to see if she wants to come, if she does not want to, we do not force her to. Yes, she gets two weeks paid vacation to do whatever she wants.

 

[d-r]

Our child has been to wdw 5 times in his life, but we have never made a trip in his lifetime with out at least one extended family member (aunt, grandmothers, etc.) coming along with us (one time there were 25 aunts cousins and grandparents!) It looks like our next two trips there will be a lot of extended family, too. Sometimes that is a bit of a drag, but really, we sort of like it that way for the family to get together. But we do not live geographically close to any of our extended family. Basically, we'd have to take a trip to see anyone, or they can just see us at wdw. Even though we don't have a nanny, I can see that it is nice to have other folks along for an extra set of hands here or there.

 

[Tissa]

Taking care of children 24hours a day is a tuff job especially if you are not used to it. I know when I had to quit work to take care of my 2 boys(special needs) I was a mess the first couple of weeks. Now it's no big deal and I'm used to taking care of them by myself. I could imagine that if you have a full time nanny that a week with the kids with no help could be real hard. Now there is a small percentage of people(my friend being one of them) that are so busy with their own needs that they can't be bothered to spend time with their children. Let the nanny take them to see Mickey while I spend time in the spa.
So why do people take nannys to Disneyworld? Why do I try and handle two special needs kids at Disneyworld by myself? Because it's what I'm used to doing. That and I can't afford a nanny

 

[DutchsMommy]

Wouldn't it be better to take the nanny/au par/babysitter with the family on vacation then to decided to take an alone vacation and leave the kids with a nanny / babysitter / Grandparents / Aunt / whoever for a week? There is nothing wrong with knowing what makes your "family business" work best, not saying it would work for the next home down the road...in the end parenting is full of choices...

LOL - it is so funny to see how different we all are. The above post is EXACTLY what we are doing next week. DS is going on an 'adventure' which his Grampy up to visit my sister for a week and DH and I are going to WDW. And in additon to that, *gasp*, my DS is in daycare 5 days a week. I DO NOT feel that spending quality time with his Grampy will in any way scar my child for life. I also am a firm believer in Daycare. I think the socialization and learning that is occuring there will help my child more readily deal with the curves he is thrown as he grows. He is a loving, independant, confident child. I love my son and owuld dare anyone to try and tell me otherwise. I respect that others do not share my views (how boring the world would be if we all thought alike) but DO NOT try and tell me I am any less a parent and have any less a right to have children than those who choose to stay home with their child, or spend every waking moment with their family.

 

[awatt]

well I am sure I will be flamed but I think people just don't want to be bothered making a sacrifice to be with their kids. I have 2 kids. I left my job to stay home when my first was born. Sure we could have nicer cars and nicer things if I worked. No one can sit there and say that a child would rather have a nanny take care of them then their own parent. And the two income nessecessity doesn't fly. If you really compared how much you spend on childcare/nanny and what you actually make plus with 1 income you would be in a lower tax bracket...how much money is really being missed. A lot less then you would think.

And to say that you are being so generous by hiring a nanny that comes from another country and letting them experience things they wouldn't get to normally is ridiculous. It's an excuse.

If you can't deal with your own kids when you go to Disney then don't go. Yes, babies require naps...it's called a sacrafice...someone has to go back to the room to put the child for a nap. No, babies can't go on the rides...again it's a sacrafice...someone has to wait with baby while the others go on the ride. Many people without nannies manage just fine and enjoy their vacation.

Wow vatmark, that's pretty judgemental of you. I wouldn't be so judgemental unless you've walked a mile or two in my shoes.

FYI, we do bring our au pair just to be nice. As i said, i have done many vacs wuithout an au pair, and am perfectly capable in that regard. We always give her a chance to stay home, or vacation elsewhere with friends.instead. The fact that they ALWAYS choose to go with us speaks for itself. And they are not expected to work at all, and we pay them full salary.

So it's not an excuse. We are just including them in the family vacation plans as we would any extended family member. As a matter of fact, we often ask my mom if she would like to come with us. She is elderly and i assure you it is not an excuse to get extra help with the kids,as she really can't be of much help. Again, we do it so she can have some fun too.