Why do parents insist on bringing gifts when the invite says "No Gifts!"

[testifyoncruises]

I also don't get your whole "girlie girl" reasoning. Should I call my boys "boyie boys" when they spend time with their friends doing something special? Does it make you more feminine to spend the day doing something fun with your friends?

DD loves nothing more than to get to take a girlie bath in our tub with the jets and with bubbles. It is a treat for her instead of a shower or bath in her tub. It is an expression.

Sisters she plays with are referred to as "the girlies", going to the AG store with DP and having lunch is referred to as having a "girlie" day.

I certainly don't feel I need to explain my method of speaking or writing to you and I think you are rude for calling it out.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Google her user name.

Boy do some yukus around here got everything wrong.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Never once did I say my life was better. I just pointed out FACTS again how my child is not for want and despite what one poster assumes, is just not going to happen because DP and I requested no gifts.

No, but bringing that up heavily implied that you feel it is and it does sound snobby. It coems across as being like you think why would she want the little gifts her friends could give her which will simply pale in comparison to the great experiences we, her hip, no rules (except where gifts are concerned apparently) parents provide her. You may have only meant to say she does not want, but you did not say that. You ticked off a list of all the places your DD has been and said that meant she would not care about gifts (still missing the connection there)

 

[testifyoncruises]

For me, it isn't any single thread or comment--it's the whole combination that I find wildly original and creative. The double entendre's are brilliant as well, for example: "their first sleepover and getting to dip with their friends delights into warm melted chocolate." Wicked!

I honestly do not see a double entendre with that. DD is very excited about having her first friend's sleepover. Wow some people have minds that I just do not understand.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

DD loves nothing more than to get to take a girlie bath in our tub with the jets and with bubbles. It is a treat for her instead of a shower or bath in her tub. It is an expression.

Sisters she plays with are referred to as "the girlies", going to the AG store with DP and having lunch is referred to as having a "girlie" day.

I certainly don't feel I need to explain my method of speaking or writing to you and I think you are rude for calling it out.

Calling you out? Really?
I am just trying to understand what I consider bizarre decriptions of stuff. By your reasoning a boy who wants to take a bubble bath with the jets and bubbles is taking a "girlie" bath?

 

[NHdisneylover]

DD loves nothing more than to get to take a girlie bath in our tub with the jets and with bubbles. It is a treat for her instead of a shower or bath in her tub. It is an expression.

Sisters she plays with are referred to as "the girlies", going to the AG store with DP and having lunch is referred to as having a "girlie" day.

I certainly don't feel I need to explain my method of speaking or writing to you and I think you are rude for calling it out.

Oh my DH and son will be so surprised to know that using the jets and bubbles in the tub means they are having a girlie bath

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Boy do some yukus around here got everything wrong.

I have no idea what what a yukus is. Is that some exotic drink from one of your experiences?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I honestly do not see a double entendre with that. DD is very excited about having her first friend's sleepover. Wow some people have minds that I just do not understand.

Give me a break already.

 

[testifyoncruises]

No, but bringing that up heavily implied that you feel it is and it does sound snobby. It coems across as being like you think why would she want the little gifts her friends could give her which will simply pale in comparison to the great experiences we, her hip, no rules parents provide her. You may have only meant to say she does not want, but you did not say that. You ticked off a list of all the places your DD has been and said that meant she would not care about gifts (still missing the connection there)

No it was mentioned as facts why she is not for want because we request no gifts. Not bragging...and again coming on a board where people "brag" all the time about their latest trip or WDW or DL adventure is pretty funny if you ask me.

Already explained the reason upthread for requesting no gifts. It is because she will receive enough already from her family, me and DP. It also is because there are presents that were never played with from Festivus 2008 and birthdays past. We would rather not see waste and just enjoy a special day with our DD.

You did attempt to explain why parents would bring a gift when the invite said no gifts and I do appreciate that, but it still does not make it right.

 

[Andy B]

What way am I implying? Do you set rules for your children or have you allowed them free will to do whatever they want since birth? Maybe you don't think you are imposing your will on your children but you are. We all are and do every day. As they age, we impose less of our will on our children but for anyone to say that they never have would be very hard to believe.

I took it to mean rules in a proscriptive way. We have a frame work of rules but I do not think so encompassing.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Oh my DH and son will be so surprised to know that using the jets and bubbles in the tub means they are having a girlie bath

Do they go to Rome for the Baths? After all, a tub at home just wouldn't be an experience.

 

[crashbb]

Do they go to Rome for the Baths? After all, a tub at home just wouldn't be an experience.

What if I went to Bath? Admittedly, there is no way I'd actually be getting into those Baths (or touching the water).

 

[Mouse House Mama]

No it was mentioned as facts why she is not for want because we request no gifts. Not bragging...and again coming on a board where people "brag" all the time about their latest trip or WDW or DL adventure is pretty funny if you ask me.
Already explained the reason upthread for requesting no gifts. It is because she will receive enough already from her family, me and DP. It also is because there are presents that were never played with from Festivus 2008 and birthdays past. We would rather not see waste and just enjoy a special day with our DD.

You did attempt to explain why parents would bring a gift when the invite said no gifts and I do appreciate that, but it still does not make it right.

This is a board about Disney! What do you expect them to tell you about? A mission trip to Zimbabwe?

 

[Andy B]

Again, though, gift giving is not about you.

It may be just for the recipient in your mind but I assure you for most people and in most societies it has a much more complex function.

 

[testifyoncruises]

This is a board about Disney! What do you expect them to tell you about? A mission trip to Zimbabwe?

Oh I have read all about other trips on here. It is not called bragging just the facts.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

What if I went to Bath? Admittedly, there is no way I'd actually be getting into those Baths (or touching the water).

That's a good question....... I don't think that qualifies as an experience unless perhaps you built a bath in Bath.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Do they go to Rome for the Baths? After all, a tub at home just wouldn't be an experience.

We do go to Baden Baden sometimes now that you bring it up I totally had not thought about it though.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Give me a break already.

Please explain the double entendre in that. If you think something is wrong with a SEVEN YEAR OLD having a sleep over with other SEVEN and SIX YEAR OLDS and having melted chocolate fondue then I have no reason to respond to anything else you post. Some people just have filthy sick sick minds.

Just scary.

 

[Jennasis]

No it was mentioned as facts why she is not for want because we request no gifts. Not bragging...and again coming on a board where people "brag" all the time about their latest trip or WDW or DL adventure is pretty funny if you ask me.

Already explained the reason upthread for requesting no gifts. It is because she will receive enough already from her family, me and DP. It also is because there are presents that were never played with from Festivus 2008 and birthdays past. We would rather not see waste and just enjoy a special day with our DD.

You did attempt to explain why parents would bring a gift when the invite said no gifts and I do appreciate that, but it still does not make it right.

You...celebrate...Festivus?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Oh I have read all about other trips on here. It is not called bragging just the facts.

But you certainly do make a point to point out how special and different you and your family are. It makes it seem as if your life is all for show.