Why do parents insist on bringing gifts when the invite says "No Gifts!"

[testifyoncruises]

"Ressie" is not a condescending term, but "girlie" is.

I happen to think ressie is a term a child would use, but I certainly do not engage in insults of people who use it.

If you want to call my DD condescending so be it. But it is not. My DD uses it all the time as does the mother of the girlies across the street when they play together, taking a girlie bath, having a girlie day getting nails done, etc are all terms we use. It is quite rude to comment on a term you don't like which has zero effect on you. But ignore works great.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well if I was your kids I would ask to go to the Beirgarten.
Fun for the whole family!

Funny thing is when we were makeing ADRs for our trip last month I asked at dinner where we should eat and DS absently said "Biergarten was fun." We all looked at him, really, you want to go to the German buffet? He was like oh yeah, maybe not so much (especially because he is not all that fond of traditional German food).

I'm mostly looking for an excuse to go t oSwitzerland once a month

Truly though I do think things like that are interesting. I love to hear all the different things people plan to do.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well if you want to call my DD condescending so be it. But it is not. My DD uses it all the time to refer to playing with the girlies across the street, taking a girlie bath, having a girlie day getting nails done, etc. It is quite rude to comment on a term you don't like which has zero effect on you.

She was commenting on how YOU use the term, not how your DD does. Besides, at 6 your DD will have likely picked the term up from you--not invented using it for all that stuff herself.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Funny thing is when we were makeing ADRs for our trip last month I asked at dinner where we should eat and DS absently said "Biergarten was fun." We all looked at him, really, you want to go to the German buffet? He was like oh yeah, maybe not so much (especially because he is not all that fond of traditional German food).

I'm mostly looking for an excuse to go t oSwitzerland once a month

Truly though I do think things like that are interesting. I love to hear all the different things people plan to do.

Maybe lease a chocolate bar? The chocolate there is good.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

She was commenting on how YOU use the term, not how your DD does. Besides, at 6 your DD will have likely picked the term up from you--not invented using it for all that stuff herself.

Exactly! One would also think that you would teach your child to address people respectfully and not as "girlies." Especially at age 6.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Besides, at 6 your DD will have likely picked the term up from you--not invented using it for all that stuff herself.

Wrong again. DD referred to going over to play with the girlies all on her own. But nice knowing what DD will come up with. It is truly a term of endearment in our house. Not yours, no big deal. But commenting on it is quite rude.

 

[SundaeAfternoon]

I happen to think ressie is a term a child would use, but I certainly do not engage in insults of people who use it.

If you want to call my DD condescending so be it. But it is not. My DD uses it all the time as does the mother of the girlies across the street when they play together, taking a girlie bath, having a girlie day getting nails done, etc are all terms we use. It is quite rude to comment on a term you don't like which has zero effect on you. But ignore works great.

LOL where did I mention your daughter? I was talking about how YOU use the term.

The term does not have "zero effect" on me. I find it offensive. Hence my comment to you.

And let's not get into examples of rude comments in this thread.....

 

[SundaeAfternoon]

She was commenting on how YOU use the term, not how your DD does. Besides, at 6 your DD will have likely picked the term up from you--not invented using it for all that stuff herself.

Took the words right out of my mouth!

Exactly! One would also think that you would teach your child to address people respectfully and not as "girlies." Especially at age 6.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[diznygirl]

Funny thing is when we were makeing ADRs for our trip last month I asked at dinner where we should eat and DS absently said "Biergarten was fun." We all looked at him, really, you want to go to the German buffet? He was like oh yeah, maybe not so much (especially because he is not all that fond of traditional German food).

I'm mostly looking for an excuse to go t oSwitzerland once a month

Truly though I do think things like that are interesting. I love to hear all the different things people plan to do.

I keep forgetting you are in Germany! Of course YOU can got to Switzerland once a month. I'm actually jealous.

I wonder if there is anything in Germany. I'm a little afraid to google "cow for lease." Have you done the research already? Any tips?

 

[NHdisneylover]

I keep forgetting you are in Germany! Of course YOU can got to Switzerland once a month. I'm actually jealous.

I wonder if there is anything in Germany. I'm a little afraid to google "cow for lease." Have you done the research already? Any tips?

You can visit Disney every month so I am jealous of you too!

I actually DID google kuhleasing looking for something more reasonably priced The only thing that came up was the farm OP is leasing from.

Germany has good chocolate too. I do not have to go to Switzerland for that. Oh, and we have really great wine too. The French get all the credit but the Germans are equally good I think

 

[C.Ann]

Well - this thread has certainly turned out to be..... Ummm...

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I will give it points for being informative though.. Never knew I could lease a cow in Switzerland - and then go to visit said cow.. That's what I love about the DIS - you learn something new every day..

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Well - this thread has certainly turned out to be..... Ummm...

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I will give it points for being informative though.. Never knew I could lease a cow in Switzerland - and then go to visit said cow.. That's what I love about the DIS - you learn something new every day..

Precisely! Who ever said that the Dis is a waste of time? It is an eye opening experience for me on a daily basis!!

And speaking of chocolate, I LOVE Belgian chocolate. They've got the best in the world. I work for a French company and the boss gave me a bar to take home. Now, I spent a semester in Belgium so I knew the chocolate and knew DD would go crazy for it. I let her have a piece and then dangled the rest of it over her head all weekend. "You can have another piece after you take a shower." "You can have another piece after you pick up your room." That chocolate bar was good all weekend!!

 

[Liberty Belle]

Why speechless? It is the American way to make money in this country.

And you are very wrong about my sex. Men do not have DP's, women do.

Huh?

 

[NotUrsula]

I'm laughing at the cow thing (would that be a Laughing Cow?!), but I have to comment on the "partner" issue.

Americans tend to think of "partner" as a term that signals that the person is a member of the LGBT community, and in that context it is more commonly used by lesbians than by gay men. However ...

In Europe, "partner" is used by straight people just as often as LGBT. Several EU countries use it as the official term for either party who is part of a legally declared permanent domestic relationship, regardless of the genders of those persons.

So, yes, men can and do have (domestic) partners, and the partner might be male or female.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

Well every kid I know wants a Swiss Cow for their birthday. I wonder how they will keep up with the demand?

And this is why I shouldn't be DISing in my college library.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'm laughing at the cow thing (would that be a Laughing Cow?!), but I have to comment on the "partner" issue.

Americans tend to think of "partner" as a term that signals that the person is a member of the LGBT community, and in that context it is more commonly used by lesbians than by gay men. However ...

In Europe, "partner" is used by straight people just as often as LGBT. Several EU countries use it as the official term for either party who is part of a legally declared permanent domestic relationship, regardless of the genders of those persons.

So, yes, men can and do have (domestic) partners, and the partner might be male or female.

Well, I live in Kentucky and I have one straight friend who calls his "live in girlfriend" his partner and one gay friend who calls his "spouse" (they've had a ceremony, but of course it's not legal here) his partner.

 

[Andy B]

The issue with Switzerland and the cow was just an example of how our DD is not for want and will not miss a bunch of gits.

Well we would not invite gits anyway!

 

[Andy B]

Thank you Andy B said basically the same thing upthread and I do agree with it. It just took me about 24 hours to figure out how to put it succinctly into what I really believe. I am a little slow sometimes

Thanks for the credit.

 

[Andy B]

Wrong again. DD referred to going over to play with the girlies all on her own. But nice knowing what DD will come up with. It is truly a term of endearment in our house. Not yours, no big deal. But commenting on it is quite rude.

Why is commenting on it rude?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Why is commenting on it rude?

Because the OP specifically said NO COMMENTING- oh wait that was NO GIFTS. I keep getting confused.