Why do other people care where you stay? longwinded...

[PolyAddict]

This past June I took a trip with my sisters for the 1st time. It was the 1st time I have ever been to WDW without my DH. I had 2 of my DD's ages 6 and 14 and DD14's friend. My sisters already had their ressies and were staying at ASSP. We have never stayed at a value and really have no desire to do so. So, we tryed AKL for the 1st time an LOVED it. My sisters came by for a visit and told me their room was bigger. Ok, whatever.

Now, we did have a good time and did not spend everyday together and it worked out pretty good. Several times during the trip they mentioned that next time they visited they wanted to try a deluxe. A little background here..my sisters do not work and are 12 and 15 years older than me and rely on what little the men in their lives make. I am the youngest and of 6 and DH and I do well for ourselves and pay cash for our yearly trips. I work hard for my money and look forward to enjoying my trips.

Flash forward to today...after last visit one of my sisters decides she wants to go back again next summer and take her other grandchildren and visit the same time as us. Now this trip I will be travelling with all of my DD's and DH, for a total of five of us. We have decided to stay at the POLY again. So sister calls me today and says that she and my other sister were talking and thought it would be nice if we all stayed together at POP. I told her no because we have no desire to stay there. We are not park commando's and love our resort time. I asked her why don't they save up the money liked they talked about and stay with us and she said NO WAY, we can't afford that!!! So I am supposed to give up my plans to stay where they are staying?

The conversation ended with her saying "well, we will just have to come hang with you at your hotel"

I just don't get it, I don't give them any grief about where they stay.
I just can't imagine telling someone hey could you downgrade your hotel to stay on our level please?

Thanks for letting me vent!!!!!

 

[angiedora]

I don't really have any advice on where you should stay, I don't really know what I would do in your shoes. If I had my heart set on the Poly and it was in my budget I would want to stay at the Poly!
Your post just really effected me because I lost my sister a year ago unexpectedly.
Whatever you decide or wherever you stay, just make sure she knows you love her.

 

[taylor1293]

Is there some animosity between you and your sister?

I don't see them as giving you grief, it sounds like they can't afford to stay where you want to and are asking you to stay where they are so you can spend more time together. Maybe you could do a split stay between the two resorts? Unless you don't want to spend time with them, then I think it would be best to be honest and tell her that you want some private family time so you're going to keep your Poly reservation.

And you may not have intended it, but describing their financial situation and then saying this, "I just can't imagine telling someone hey could you downgrade your hotel to stay on our level please?" does not reflect positively on you.

 

[PolyAddict]

angiedora-I am sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. I definently tell them I love them they just really grate my nerves lately. My mother took in my niece after she lost everthing during Katrina and they give her nothing but grief about it. It's just hard to see where they are coming from.

Taylor1293-I certainly didn't mean for it to come across as nasty, I have a hard time expressing what I mean in writing, which is why I should do less of it. If I invite myself along with anyone I would not ask that they switch hotels either up or down. I just needed to vent. I do want to spend time with them, I just prefer to stay where I want to stay and have them do the same.

 

[runswithscissors]

Maybe it's not that your sister cares where you stay but just that you stay together.

We prefer to stay at a mod or deluxe but would stay anywhere with my sisters to be able to spend the time with them in WDW.

 

[taylor1293]

I completely understand , sometimes when we write something, it's so hard to express our intent! I wish you the best and I hope you all can work this out! I'm very particular about where I stay too, so I do understand your frustration .

Taylor1293-I certainly didn't mean for it to come across as nasty, I have a hard time expressing what I mean in writing, which is why I should do less of it. If I invite myself along with anyone I would not ask that they switch hotels either up or down. I just needed to vent. I do want to spend time with them, I just prefer to stay where I want to stay and have them do the same.

 

[supersuperwendy]

We are planning a trip for April...

Our family is going to WDW and so are my parents. Due to my mom being very sick this year and missing a lot of work their budget isn't to large for this trip. Although I would love the GF and my DD10 really, really wants to stay there...we have compromised on WL because my parents can afford it without blowing their budget. If it were my brother's family I think it would be a totally different story, but for my parents I'm willing to bend. I say stay at the Poly if that's what you love!

 

[PolyAddict]

runswithscissors-I would stay with them if it wasn't that we haven't had our own family trip since '06 and with my oldest DD getting, well, older, I don't know how many more there will be.

SUpersuperwendy-I would love to try WL, it just stinks that it would cost me more than the Poly for a room to accomodate 5.

 

[supersuperwendy]

Oh I know...we are a family of 5 so we are getting a two bedroom villa. My parents are getting a standard room in the lodge. I want to be close to them. I found we need 2 bathrooms after our POR trip, so the 2 bedroom it is..!

 

[Disfan3]

POR!!!

It is lovely!!!! if you ever feel like a comprimise!!


Look...my little brother is HUGELY successful...makes a lot of money. Owns several homes, boats, a business.

If we decided to go on a FAMILY vacation I would assume we would stay somwhere together. I am most certain, because we love each other and our kids are the ones we want happy...we would come to a comprimise.

I am not telling you what to do, nor do I think they are TELLING u what to do.


Why not just go with your own immediate family and not go with your sisters if it bugs you that much??

Just trying to help here.

 

[PolyAddict]

disfan- this will be our family trip, she asked if she could come along with her husband and 2 grandchildren. I said sure assuming we would do like we did on this past trip and each stay where we want to stay and plan our days and meals together. I really think that is enough, any more and it might get to be too much. There were several times on this last trip that her and her husband were fussing alot with each other and that is no fun to be around.

 

[DisneyBride'03]

Try a split stay.....make them happy...make you happy

 

[PolyAddict]

Try a split stay.....make them happy...make you happy

I mentioned what she said to my DH tonight and he is not budging and would not consider a split stay.

He chose Poly for next year, when I came back in June, I told him to pick the resort for next summer as it didn't matter to me.

 

[rparmfamily]

my sisters do not work and are 12 and 15 years older than me and rely on what little the men in their lives make

This actually rubbed me wrong. I "rely on what little the man in my life makes".

For some people, a $5000 vacation isn't in the cards. There is a huge price difference between paying $89 a night and nearly $300 (or more). Can you compromise and stay at a moderate? DVC villa?

 

[DisneyBride'03]

Gosh...hoping you do not get stuck in the middle here... THis is your families vacation, you should be able to stay where you want to.
However....it may be tough for them to save the money to stay at Poly...so perhaps you shouldnt expect them to do that, and they shouldnt expect you to change YOUR plans cause they want to come to Disney when you are there with your family.
So.....
stay at Poly...they can stay at a value....and spend yout time together at dinners or in the parks...since there is that "no pool hopping" rule

Good Luck...since you talking next summer..lots could happen...they could win the lotto....who knows...dont stress...but I know how it is when you need to vent abt something!

 

[PolyAddict]

This actually rubbed me wrong. I "rely on what little the man in my life makes".

For some people, a $5000 vacation isn't in the cards. There is a huge price difference between paying $89 a night and nearly $300 (or more). Can you compromise and stay at a moderate? DVC villa?

Ok, again, this came out wrong. I haved worked all of my life and my sisters sit back and watch their husbands work 2 jobs just to get by. One of the husbands is sucha good guy and I feel bad for him, he is never home. If it were entirely up to me I would compromise on a mod, my DH would not, we stayed POR before and it was cramped and he was not happy.

 

[PolyAddict]

Gosh...hoping you do not get stuck in the middle here... THis is your families vacation, you should be able to stay where you want to.
However....it may be tough for them to save the money to stay at Poly...so perhaps you shouldnt expect them to do that, and they shouldnt expect you to change YOUR plans cause they want to come to Disney when you are there with your family.
So.....
stay at Poly...they can stay at a value....and spend yout time together at dinners or in the parks...since there is that "no pool hopping" rule

Good Luck...since you talking next summer..lots could happen...they could win the lotto....who knows...dont stress...but I know how it is when you need to vent abt something!

I think I am stressing quite a bit. I am a disser, ya know? I plan and plan and plan. When I went with them in June they didn't want to follow my itinerary,(I was not about to show up at AK on a EMH at 10 am) so we met up in the evenings in the parks and for dinner. It was alot less stressful that way.

 

[DisneyBride'03]

Just try to let it go for a bit......
stress isnt good for you!
I think Disney would be a nightmare for me if I was there with family members who were not Dis educated...lol yikes!
I say just do what you did this last trip.....blame DH...(thats what my DH says...make me the bad guy,,,lol)..HE wants to stay at the Poly..what can I do? No offense, the value beds wont work for us....which is a fact for most couples I think!
Do your thing.....let them do your thing!

 

[cmwade77]

In this case, I would probably recommend separate resorts, this way if you get tired of each other you can go your separate ways for a while.

 

[PolyAddict]

Just try to let it go for a bit......
stress isnt good for you!
I think Disney would be a nightmare for me if I was there with family members who were not Dis educated...lol yikes!
I say just do what you did this last trip.....blame DH...(thats what my DH says...make me the bad guy,,,lol)..HE wants to stay at the Poly..what can I do? No offense, the value beds wont work for us....which is a fact for most couples I think!
Do your thing.....let them do your thing!

Thanks for the advice, I know it will work out. I was just kinda shocked when she called me at work today and told me that she and my older sister were talking and that we needed to stay at POP with them, considering she already had knowledge of our plans. Then when I told her I didn't think that would fly with DH she kinda seemed ticked off.