Interesting posts. I agree that it seems like a co-dependency issue between people who don't respect themselves enough to pull themselves out of whatever rut they happen to be in. I saw this often enough when I was a kid; I was the kind of guy that girls who liked bad boys would plant squarely in the friend zone. It made things hard sometimes but looking back I realize I was much better off without those liasons. I shudder sometimes when I realize where those people ended up in life and I think "there but for the grace of God..."