Why did you get a divorce?

[nottatroll]

I just asked a question on divorce and got some good answers.

Im wondering why do people get divorced? Abuse cases most defiently but how about all the other reasons?

I want a divorce cuz my husband and I have lost all communication and he does things constantly behind my back. Im tired of it.

Why did you get a divorce?

 

[Muffin]

My ex and I did not have the same work ethic. Also, we didn't see eye to eye on financial matters.

We fought so much about that kind of stuff that everything else suffered.

 

[poohandwendy]

Im tired of it.

I would say that is probably the most popular reason.

 

[NMAmy]

My ex thought it was ok to have a girlfriend as well as a wife and, well, I just didn't think it was okey dokey.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy--it was the most painful thing I've ever been through. to you.

 

[MinnieM3]

Ex DH was an abusive alcoholic. Couldn't change him Had to change life for my DD then 6 and DS then 3 and myself. So I did that and never looked back. It was scary and hard, but living with him was so much worse.

 

[mallcat]

My ex thought it was ok to have a girlfriend as well as a wife and, well, I just didn't think it was okey dokey.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy--it was the most painful thing I've ever been through. to you.

Same here ! But it all worked out better in the end. DH #2 is the best.

 

[luvwinnie]

Never should have married him in the first place...I stupidly "settled", didn't wait for the right person.

 

[Disney_1derland]

When I started having panic attacks anytime he was coming home, I knew it was time. I just hated being around him, he made me feel icky about everything. After I started feeling that way I stayed another year and the final straw was when he bought his girlfriend an engagement ring on my birthday with my credit card. That was enough to put me over the edge. I wasn't smart back then

 

[experiment626mom]

My ex was abusive and a cheater. Breaking my nose was the final straw.

 

[WDW LifeLong Fan]

I just asked a question on divorce and got some good answers.

Im wondering why do people get divorced? Abuse cases most defiently but how about all the other reasons?

I want a divorce cuz my husband and I have lost all communication and he does things constantly behind my back. Im tired of it.

Why did you get a divorce?

Don't have an answer for you, however, I just wanted to offer support and a BIG

Let us know how it "pans" out.

Good Luck.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Ex-dh was also abusive, would use our money for gambling, & I expect drugs (I don't know - red nose, glassy eyes, erratic then abusive behavior). Did things like pull out all the money (well, almost all - he did leave $5 in the bank) after writing a check for house rent, then having that check bounce & subsequent checks bounce. Even after he kicked me across the room (only a few feet) I tried to make it work (you know, Catholic - only one marriage). I finally had had enough, and left. I thank my parents for helping me through that time - oh, and his sister. She was wonderful.

 

[Microcell]

I have never divorced, but had a boyfriend that drank and I just didn't want to subject kids to that. We had no kids, I just wanted a family and knew he was not father material so I moved on. Took me four years though!

 

[Conversationist]

I wonder why we do not see a posting like this:

My ex husband was a wonderful man. I was just not good for him. I was immature and was terrible around money. I was a terrible mother to our children. I went into many periods of bad moods and did not speak to him for a long time, even though the fight was my fault. Yes the divorce was my fault, not my husbands!

 

[disneymom3]

I wonder why we do not see a posting like this:

My ex husband was a wonderful man. I was just not good for him. I was immature and was terrible around money. I was a terrible mother to our children. I went into many periods of bad moods and did not speak to him for a long time, even though the fight was my fault. Yes the divorce was my fault, not my husbands!

Hey--are you my ex SIL????

 

[lisajl]

Just spoke to my friend a couple nights ago about her divorce.

Her ex was a jerk! He not only beat her, emtionally abuse her, he also beat the kids. I did not know any of this was going on. I have not lived in that town for over 11 years, and I guess that's about the time it really started.
(the beatings, I mean).

She finally got her divorce earlier this year, but got stuck with all the bills.
Their kids are changing their names because they don't want to be associated with him.

She is also Catholic and tried to make it work. Her folks kept telling her to work it out! I would be pulling my daughter away from a guy like that so fast it would make his head spin!

Lisa

 

[kimber79]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy--it was the most painful thing I've ever been through. to you.

I feel the same way! Divorce for right, wrong or indifference is the most emotionally painful thing I've ever been through. But as crazy as it may sound, I am thankful it happened to me because it made me a much stronger person!!

My ex-husband nearly killed me. He was one that if he had one alcoholic beverage ~ he turned into a monster. We fought alot, but it was this one fight that drew the line. He had a loaded pistol threatening to kill me, then he turned it to his head and said he was going to blow himself away as I ruined his life. He punched six holes in the wall, and turned and went up to our upstairs neighbors (a State Police). Don't know why he did that, but someone of higher power was definately keeping me safe that night. The trigger on the gun was broke ~ again, someone of higher power was keeping me safe! My kids were in their bedrooms (ds-3 months at the time, dd 6 at the time) sleeping until he started punching the pictures and breaking glass everywhere. After he headed upstairs, I went and grabbed them and ran out of the house and waited for my mom to come and get me out of there.

I know in my heart that guilt had gotten the best of him, and tried to turn it around on me and make it my fault.....he was having an affair, and three months after this happened ~ she got an engagement ring for Christmas.

Ironically, this man is a Sheriff now.

 

[MeanLaureen]

Psychological Abuse
Physical Abuse
Infidelity

Those three pretty much made the decision for me

 

[babar]

I wonder why we do not see a posting like this:

My ex husband was a wonderful man. I was just not good for him. I was immature and was terrible around money. I was a terrible mother to our children. I went into many periods of bad moods and did not speak to him for a long time, even though the fight was my fault. Yes the divorce was my fault, not my husbands!

Hmmm....and is that vice-versa for men?

 

[totalia]

He was cheating on me. He was getting violent (punching holes in the walls. He once brandished a stick at me like he was going to hit me with it). Not to mention his controlling me (he didn't want me to talk to my family, had to approve my friends before he would allow me to be friends with them, etc) and the utter and complete disrespect he had for me "I want such and such decoration in the living room and you can have your SAY in the kitchen and the bedroom".

 

[j's m]

Psychological Abuse
Physical Abuse
Infidelity

Those three pretty much made the decision for me

Yes, that pretty much covers it for me, too.