Why are some people so selfish and ungrateful?

[Pinky166]

Hugs to you Em. I know just how frustrating it can be, I have issues every year with some of my family & dh's family but I don't want to take over your thread.

I would go out and find a really tacky pressie, one of the really cheap naff joke one's in somewhere like BHS.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

They are out of order, its the thought that counts not how much the gift costs. My sister & BIL have told me not to buy for them as I buy the kids more then enough but I will still get them a little gift to open on Xmas day as they are with us but even if I didn't they wouldn't mind.

I have been asked what I would like but the most expensive item I have chosen is a pair of boots which my parents will be getting me, my sister can get me a couple of books & I will be happy as anything.

I think your brother & mainly his GF need to remember the true meaning of the holidays.

Stick with your budget & if they don't like it tough. I have a full time job this year but I still budget for Christmas as i'm not going to stretch myself just for one day

The charity thing is a great idea though

Same as Nikki, if anyone gets me anything i'm grateful as I don't expect anyone to buy me anything. I'm more than happy Christmas day watching Kyra open her presents, watching TOTPs and being with my family.

I just don't understand why the GF is so ungrateful, we have let her have Christmas at ours for 3 years in a row and my mum even let her mum come to dinner last year (well the mum actually came from 10am - 8pm and my poor Mum didn't feel able to relax as she hardly knew the GF's mum, my mum was so upset that she wasn't able to enjoy her day) and she didn't even say thankyou, also knowing that my mum is very poorly and needs to rest she wants to invite her mum over for dinner for Christmas again, luckily my Dad put his foot down but my Brother hasn't broken the news to the GF yet. What more does she want from us...... blood?

I know it sounds bad but next year i feel like staying at home for Christmas with Kyra just because of her and her ungratefulness. Plus i wouldn't have to hear her voice bossing my Brother around. My mum would be so upset but I can't have her ruining my Christmas every year.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Hugs to you Em. I know just how frustrating it can be, I have issues every year with some of my family & dh's family but I don't want to take over your thread.

I would go out and find a really tacky pressie, one of the really cheap naff joke one's in somewhere like BHS.

I was thinking more along the lines of poundland...but even then they sometimes sell decent stuff

 

[natalielongstaff]

am i right in thinking this happened last year as well ?

 

[DisneyB2B]

imagine the amount of hits you'd get on you tube if you filmed her opening a lump of coal? lol

but seriously buy her a cheap christmas stocking and fill it with loads of pointless rubbish tacky things from iwoot or somewhere like that and get your kids to all wrap each thing in news paper it will be the last time she ever complains about gifts!

dont let them get to you its awful that she has the bareface cheek to ask for a gift let alone a pricey one!

x

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

am i right in thinking this happened last year as well ?

Yep, and the year before that my Brother wouldn't let anyone open there gifts untill she came round in the evening (except Kyra of course who opened hers in the morning).

Opening your gifts at 7pm Christmas Day is pretty much depressing.

 

[natalielongstaff]

Yep, and the year before that my Brother wouldn't let anyone open there gifts untill she came round in the evening (except Kyra of course who opened hers in the morning).

Opening your gifts at 7pm Christmas Day is pretty much depressing.

they sound like a lovely couple, they really understand the meaning of christmas...maybe you should get her a nativity scene

 

[Judy in Texas]

I know it sounds bad but next year i feel like staying at home for Christmas with Kyra just because of her and her ungratefulness. Plus i wouldn't have to hear her voice bossing my Brother around. My mum would be so upset but I can't have her ruining my Christmas every year.

something to consider... My family long ago started drawing names for Christmas so we only have to buy for one person in the extended family. We have a $20 (+/-30 pound) limit. Each person writes their name and what they want within that limit on a piece of paper and all the pieces of paper go into a container. Everyone draws a slip of paper and that's who they buy for. It's a great honor to be added to the drawing. That usually doesn't happen in our family until after the marriage. If a non-family member is brought along, they sit and watch everyone open their gifts knowing there will not be one for them unless the person who brought them brings a token small gift.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

they sound like a lovely couple, they really understand the meaning of christmas...maybe you should get her a nativity scene

I actually found a free perfume set i got when i brought something earlier this year, I don't really dig the smell of Victoria Beckham but maybe she will

They say the best things in life are free

 

[CustardTart]

Every year my Brother tells me what to get his GF and its always really expensive, now don't get me wrong I love buying gifts for my friends and family but being a single parent living on a strict budget i have to buy within my means. Also the fact that i despise this woman probably doesn't help much as I don't always look for the best present possible

Last year he told me to buy her some stupidly expensive perfume for around £40 and a game for her DS...yet again i told him to "get off on one" and I got her some bath set from boots. Her face Christmas day morning said it all (It was a nice present, but apparantly not to her taste )

I sent him a text at the weekend and asked him if i could get him and the GF a joint present and if that was ok is there any games on the wii they wanted. He text me back saying no she does not want a joint present and to get her the new Mario game, i told him that its £39.99 most places and there is no way i can afford to spend that on her as i haven't even spent that much on my parents this year.

He then got into a right strop and said i was being out of order and that his GF would be upset.

Am I being out of order? The old hag should be lucky she's getting anything from me. I don't want to lower myself to there standards but I feel like wrapping up a piece of coal for both of them and giving that to them as there presents.

I have explained that money is tight at the moment but they seem to think i'm loaded. If my brother thinks I'm going to use the pittance of maintenance money Ii get from DD's dad on his GF he must live in cloud cuckoo land.

Sorry for the rant , usually able to moan to my mum but shes poorly and she doesn't need the extra stress.

Awww Emma, I'm so sorry. For some reason Christmas brings out the best in most people but also the worst in others. My tip would be to completely ignore your brother - he should know better - and buy her comic gift from here or this from Firebox...

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

something to consider... My family long ago started drawing names for Christmas so we only have to buy for one person in the extended family. We have a $20 (+/-30 pound) limit. Each person writes their name and what they want within that limit on a piece of paper and all the pieces of paper go into a container. Everyone draws a slip of paper and that's who they buy for. It's a great honor to be added to the drawing. That usually doesn't happen in our family until after the marriage. If a non-family member is brought along, they sit and watch everyone open their gifts knowing there will not be one for them unless the person who brought them brings a token small gift.

I couldn't see the GF having any of that. She wants a present from every member of my family.

Seriously she's a monster, I don't think she got many presents as a child and is trying to make up for it now.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

and buy her comic gift from here or this from Firebox...

 

[PoppyAnna]

Oh Em, I do feel for you TBH, if I were you I wouldn't talk to your Brother ever again about presents for them, I would get them something nice within your budget, write the tag out "from your niece Kyra" and then they can't take it out on you and get the hump! Invite your Mum and Dad to Christmas day at yours next year - minus them!

Every family has one though, we have had major present issues with DH's bro/wife and their two boys. This couple do not work, are on every benefit going whilst he pretends he's doing the black taxi knowledge when he should be "job seeking" but because their kids friends have a Wii and a DS they asked ALL the family that buy the kids presents to "chip in" so they could have a Wii. We had already bought their christmas presents so said no, now I know for a fact that after all the grandparents and their other aunts/uncles have chipped in they will be in profit for that Wii, their Grandparents won't see them open any presents and do you really think they will put everybodys name on that tag? when I asked them what games they're bought they said Resident Evil and some War game I asked if they bought Mario Kart as it was the girls fave and they said no they'll have the sports to play
...and guess what! my MIL aksed me to take her out last week end get my girls pressies and she bought those boys just as much as my girls "otherwise they won't have anything to open at our house" like nobody saw that one coming......
The eldest boy has a birthday before christmas and DH parents have given them £50 towards a DS too, they asked me to do a multi games cartridge for them, these cartridges cost me about £40, which I explained to her at the time, she phoned me and asked me if I was giving it to him for his birthday I stood by my guns and explained that I don't usually spend £40 on the boy for his birthday.
Some people have got so much cheek

 

[Natasha&Matt]

Oh please do it Emma hahaha!!! x

 

[darthtatty]

wow! your brother is going out with Mariah Carey?
i knew her diva demands were a bit ott but seriously christmas should revolve around her.
I think all of us from the Dis should club together to get this 'lady' whatever she wants for christmas

seriously now.....what are some people like.
We're from a large family and its just getting bigger and bigger, the extra g/f's and b/f's dont help the limited budget i have already. weve got to the stage of either not buying/ just buying for the kids or just buying token gifts.
we're all happy that way.
I really wouldnt buy her a present, whats the point if its only going to be snubbed. unless its something dreadfully naff. how about something from a charity shop? youre giving something to charity at the same time
I was going to say a book about the true meaning of christmas
good luck with whatever you decide to do, perhaps blame us lot if you get in trouble

 

[Natasha&Matt]

Get her a selection box and a £2.99 DVD!! sorted lol and wrap them in lots of boxes make her think she has a big pressie lol x

 

[tennisfan]

Yep, and the year before that my Brother wouldn't let anyone open there gifts untill she came round in the evening (except Kyra of course who opened hers in the morning).

Opening your gifts at 7pm Christmas Day is pretty much depressing.

I can really see my sister suggesting that to me, she would soon be told where to go. Even when they come over on Xmas day or Boxing day as it alternates each year, we don't wait to open the presents. We just wait to open the ones from each other

I couldn't see the GF having any of that. She wants a present from every member of my family.

Seriously she's a monster, I don't think she got many presents as a child and is trying to make up for it now.

She needs to be told we don't always get what we want With an attitude like that she deserves nothing

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Oh Em, I do feel for you TBH, if I were you I wouldn't talk to your Brother ever again about presents for them, I would get them something nice within your budget, write the tag out "from your niece Kyra" and then they can't take it out on you and get the hump! Invite your Mum and Dad to Christmas day at yours next year - minus them!

Every family has one though, we have had major present issues with DH's bro/wife and their two boys. This couple do not work, are on every benefit going whilst he pretends he's doing the black taxi knowledge when he should be "job seeking" but because their kids friends have a Wii and a DS they asked ALL the family that buy the kids presents to "chip in" so they could have a Wii. We had already bought their christmas presents so said no, now I know for a fact that after all the grandparents and their other aunts/uncles have chipped in they will be in profit for that Wii, their Grandparents won't see them open any presents and do you really think they will put everybodys name on that tag? when I asked them what games they're bought they said Resident Evil and some War game I asked if they bought Mario Kart as it was the girls fave and they said no they'll have the sports to play The eldest boy has a birthday before christmas and DH parents have given them £50 towards a DS too, they asked me to do a multi games cartridge for them, these cartridges cost me about £40, which I explained to her at the time, she phoned me and asked me if I was giving it to him for his birthday I stood by my guns and explained that I don't usually spend £40 on the boy for his birthday.
Some people have got so much cheek

I don't think my poor flat can hold more than 2 people at a time

I can't believe your SIL had the cheek to ask that, I think some people think money grows on trees.

I would never ask anyone even in my family to get DD a game for her wii or DS. They are expensive. I wouldn't even dream to tell anyone what to get Kyra, I give suggestions on what she is into if anyone asks but i have and will never dictate to anyone what to get her.

Its a shame what Christmas has become

Oh please do it Emma hahaha!!! x

I'm really tempted, would be the best laugh i've ever had at Christmas lol.

wow! your brother is going out with Mariah Carey?

That comment made me LOL so loud i woke up DD

 

[darthtatty]

Get her a selection box and a £2.99 DVD!! sorted lol and wrap them in lots of boxes make her think she has a big pressie lol x

ooh i like that idea, get lots and lots of boxes. itll be so fun watching her unwrap them all to discover something like a lump of coal in the middle

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

ooh i like that idea, get lots and lots of boxes. itll be so fun watching her unwrap them all to discover something like a lump of coal in the middle

I'm really tempted to order the coal now