Why are some parents crazy?

[mjkacmom]

My friend is having her dd's 7th birthday party tonight, at her home, and a guy is coming with animals. One of the invitees had to decline, because of a family party. Well, her mom told another mom that she doesn't want her dd to miss out on the animals, so she's bringing her for a 1/2 hour.

This same little girl has been in trouble at school (my ds is in this classroom) for stealing from the other kids, including from another of my friends dd. The mom denied it (she's friends with my friend), until the teacher called her, telling her she was found with pencils with another student's name on it. She's also been caught taking belongings of other from the lost and found. The mom defends her behavior, stating that it's not like she's taking things from desks, and she wants the stuff.

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back. Turns out this girl kept stepping on her new black fake Uggs, getting them dirty. The girl admitted it, stating she did it because she wanted boots like that. Mom solves the problem by running out and buying her the exact same boots. I'll have to make sure that dd6 doesn't end up in her class next year!

 

[MizTink]

My friend is having her dd's 7th birthday party tonight, at her home, and a guy is coming with animals. One of the invitees had to decline, because of a family party. Well, her mom told another mom that she doesn't want her dd to miss out on the animals, so she's bringing her for a 1/2 hour.

This same little girl has been in trouble at school (my ds is in this classroom) for stealing from the other kids, including from another of my friends dd. The mom denied it (she's friends with my friend), until the teacher called her, telling her she was found with pencils with another student's name on it. She's also been caught taking belongings of other from the lost and found. The mom defends her behavior, stating that it's not like she's taking things from desks, and she wants the stuff.

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back. Turns out this girl kept stepping on her new black fake Uggs, getting them dirty. The girl admitted it, stating she did it because she wanted boots like that. Mom solves the problem by running out and buying her the exact same boots. I'll have to make sure that dd6 doesn't end up in her class next year!

she sounds like a great mom. and the little girl will grow up to be just like her. yuck.

 

[npmommie]

I have been to parties with those animal people coming and it takes way longer than 1/2 hour.
good luck to that mom.

 

[glitterkittyy]

My friend is having her dd's 7th birthday party tonight, at her home, and a guy is coming with animals. One of the invitees had to decline, because of a family party. Well, her mom told another mom that she doesn't want her dd to miss out on the animals, so she's bringing her for a 1/2 hour.

This same little girl has been in trouble at school (my ds is in this classroom) for stealing from the other kids, including from another of my friends dd. The mom denied it (she's friends with my friend), until the teacher called her, telling her she was found with pencils with another student's name on it. She's also been caught taking belongings of other from the lost and found. The mom defends her behavior, stating that it's not like she's taking things from desks, and she wants the stuff.

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back. Turns out this girl kept stepping on her new black fake Uggs, getting them dirty. The girl admitted it, stating she did it because she wanted boots like that. Mom solves the problem by running out and buying her the exact same boots. I'll have to make sure that dd6 doesn't end up in her class next year!

Hey I wonder if she goes to my dd's school. Their entire class is being questioned today by the police (seriously!) because someone stole the substitute's cell phone and a big bag of candy. They already searched their desks and their backpacks. I hope they find the stuff, but it's sad that it's come to this. It's a GREAT school too.

I'd tell your friend to put up anything she doesn't want stolen while that kid is there for 30 minutes.

 

[dislal]

I would be worried about this little girl coming into my home and stealing stuff from me. I have a neice who steals from everyone and yes her parents make excuses for her. She hasn't been invited to my house for about the last 4 years and if my DH and I can help it she will never come back.

 

[nutterbutter2010]

Don't go to the party, and ask for your DD NOT to be in her class next year, and don't worry about it. People are what they are, and they are not going to change for you or anyone else.

 

[npmommie]

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back.

why did your friends dd invite this girl to her birthday party anyway?

 

[lovesmurfs]

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back.

why did your friends dd invite this girl to her birthday party anyway?

It's the law of the land in elementary school (at least our district) that you either invite the entire class or all girls or all boys for parties, to avoid leaving anyone out.

No comment.

 

[Silent1CB]

My friend is having her dd's 7th birthday party tonight, at her home, and a guy is coming with animals. One of the invitees had to decline, because of a family party. Well, her mom told another mom that she doesn't want her dd to miss out on the animals, so she's bringing her for a 1/2 hour.

This same little girl has been in trouble at school (my ds is in this classroom) for stealing from the other kids, including from another of my friends dd. The mom denied it (she's friends with my friend), until the teacher called her, telling her she was found with pencils with another student's name on it. She's also been caught taking belongings of other from the lost and found. The mom defends her behavior, stating that it's not like she's taking things from desks, and she wants the stuff.

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back. Turns out this girl kept stepping on her new black fake Uggs, getting them dirty. The girl admitted it, stating she did it because she wanted boots like that. Mom solves the problem by running out and buying her the exact same boots. I'll have to make sure that dd6 doesn't end up in her class next year!

I think that's more hearsay than I can handle in one post. j/k Did you hear any of this first hand?

 

[shortbun]

It's the law of the land in elementary school (at least our district) that you either invite the entire class or all girls or all boys for parties, to avoid leaving anyone out.

No comment.

Question Authority(especially false authority)
Rules Were Made to Be Broken(especially rules that are dumb and not enforcable-what are they gonna do?)

Why was this child invited to your house op?

 

[Wall-E1]

My friend is having her dd's 7th birthday party tonight, at her home, and a guy is coming with animals. One of the invitees had to decline, because of a family party. Well, her mom told another mom that she doesn't want her dd to miss out on the animals, so she's bringing her for a 1/2 hour.

This same little girl has been in trouble at school (my ds is in this classroom) for stealing from the other kids, including from another of my friends dd. The mom denied it (she's friends with my friend), until the teacher called her, telling her she was found with pencils with another student's name on it. She's also been caught taking belongings of other from the lost and found. The mom defends her behavior, stating that it's not like she's taking things from desks, and she wants the stuff.

My friend's dd came home from school crying that she didn't want to go back. Turns out this girl kept stepping on her new black fake Uggs, getting them dirty. The girl admitted it, stating she did it because she wanted boots like that. Mom solves the problem by running out and buying her the exact same boots. I'll have to make sure that dd6 doesn't end up in her class next year!

I always have a hard time with these situations. As parents, we never want to see our children crying or picked on. So, I can understand the sentiments here. On the other hand, I feel bad for the girl with the bad behavior. In so many cases like this, there is some form of neglect or abuse that leads a child to behave in such a manner. They are usually very sad children who are only trying to be seen and heard in this world.

Years ago, my son had given out invitations to all the kids in his class for his birthday party. He didn't want to give it out to this one boy that was not nice to him(name calling, pushing). I insisted that he did. I told him that you can't leave one kid out. It's just not nice. My thinking was that it is this exact type of treatment that causes children like this to act out. Once they are labeled, it is hard to break free of preconceived impressions. They act as people label them. Well, the day of the party, that child did show up, and was so thankful that he was invited. He even said that he never gets invited to parties. He stayed by my son's side that whole day like they were best friends. As the party was ending, he only wanted to help and clean up. He was so thankful to be there. They remained friends for years after that until the boy moved away. My point is, sometimes these children just need someone to show them a bit of kindness. It is so easy to avoid these children, but it is so much nicer to get to know these children and in the process teach your child how to work through a difficult situation by being empathetic.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

It's the law of the land in elementary school (at least our district) that you either invite the entire class or all girls or all boys for parties, to avoid leaving anyone out.

No comment.

The law of the land from my experience in several schools is that if you want to pass out invites in the school, you have to invite the entire class. If you want to invite a select few, you are welcome to do so by methods other than through the classroom.

Question Authority(especially false authority)
Rules Were Made to Be Broken(especially rules that are dumb and not enforcable-what are they gonna do?)

JMO, but I don't think elementary school is the place to teach these life lessons to children. Kids that age aren't mature enough to know when this is appropriate

 

[mjkacmom]

I think that's more hearsay than I can handle in one post. j/k Did you hear any of this first hand?

Yes, first-hand. My friend who's dd was crying is actually friends with the girl, and my friend was pretty good friends with the girls mom, until these issues kept happening (there's more - she vents to me). Now, she's trying to cool both friendships, only because of the mom's attitude.

My other friend is the one having the party, and her dd is friends with this girl as well. She did invite all of the girls in the class (you have to in order to pass out intivations in class), as well as some other girls (like my dd).

This mom is actually very nice - I think my friend was shocked to learn she was a "not my kid" mom. Just the other day, my friend was driving the girl home from CCD, and told her to get into a carseat. She refused, and said she wanted to switch seats with my friend's dd. My friend was making a phone call, and told the girl to please just sit in the available one. When she got off the phone, the girls had switched. Apparently, this girl told my friend's dd she wouldn't be her friend if she didn't swich. My friend didn't even bother to tell her mother, because she probably wouldn't have believed it anyway.

 

[Tinijocaro]

It's the law of the land in elementary school (at least our district) that you either invite the entire class or all girls or all boys for parties, to avoid leaving anyone out.

No comment.

I'm pretty sure the rule must be that if you hand out the invites at school, then yes, you must invite everyone or one sex. If you mail the invites, the school has no right to tell you who you must invite.

 

[Wall-E1]

I'm pretty sure the rule must be that if you hand out the invites at school, then yes, you must invite everyone or one sex. If you mail the invites, the school has no right to tell you who you must invite.

Doesn't that rule discriminate against the transgender children if handing out to one sex?

 

[MizTink]

I always have a hard time with these situations. As parents, we never want to see our children crying or picked on. So, I can understand the sentiments here. On the other hand, I feel bad for the girl with the bad behavior. In so many cases like this, there is some form of neglect or abuse that leads a child to behave in such a manner. They are usually very sad children who are only trying to be seen and heard in this world.

Years ago, my son had given out invitations to all the kids in his class for his birthday party. He didn't want to give it out to this one boy that was not nice to him(name calling, pushing). I insisted that he did. I told him that you can't leave one kid out. It's just not nice. My thinking was that it is this exact type of treatment that causes children like this to act out. Once they are labeled, it is hard to break free of preconceived impressions. They act as people label them. Well, the day of the party, that child did show up, and was so thankful that he was invited. He even said that he never gets invited to parties. He stayed by my son's side that whole day like they were best friends. As the party was ending, he only wanted to help and clean up. He was so thankful to be there. They remained friends for years after that until the boy moved away. My point is, sometimes these children just need someone to show them a bit of kindness. It is so easy to avoid these children, but it is so much nicer to get to know these children and in the process teach your child how to work through a difficult situation by being empathetic.

this is SOOO true. i always tried to teach my kids that people act a certain way for a reason. sometimes reasons like you mentioned, and sometimes just because.....either way you never know what that child's life is like at home. maybe the mean kid is mean because that is how he's treated at home. maybe the super quiet loner is like that because of abuse at home, etc.....
it's so sad to think of what so many kids go through.
and so many times we have the opportunity (or our kids do) to be the one person to make a difference in another person's life. the question is wether we actually act on the opportunity or not.

 

[nutterbutter2010]

I'm pretty sure the rule must be that if you hand out the invites at school, then yes, you must invite everyone or one sex. If you mail the invites, the school has no right to tell you who you must invite.

My DD is in her second year of Pre-K and got an invitation for a party about a month ago. We didn't go because she was sick, but I found out that only she and one other girl from the class had been invited. I couldn't believe the mom would do that. I understand that these 3 girls had been in class together last year, and the rest of them were new, but still, just doesn't seem right to me. The party was at the childs house, so its not like it would have cost much more to have 2-4 more little girls attend. And the invitation came home from school, it was not mailed.

 

[C.Ann]

Because they can be..

 

[luvsJack]

I wouldn't worry too much about requesting that your child is not with this one next year. Even if she is not in the class with this child, a much worse acting child can come along. There will always be children that act this way and our kids just have to learn to deal with it.

I whole heartedly agree with the having to invite the whole class rules. I have seen too many kids get their feelings hurt over such things. I would love for our school to have the same rule about Christmas presents. Too many times there is one or two children that always get left out.

 

[justhat]

I'm pretty sure the rule must be that if you hand out the invites at school, then yes, you must invite everyone or one sex. If you mail the invites, the school has no right to tell you who you must invite.

Actually, in my kids school, NO invitations may be sent home in backpacks or through the school. They all must be mailed. But they still have the policy that you have to invite the whole class, all boys/girls, etc. So apparently they can still tell you who to invite.