Who wants to discuss their long distance relationships?

[sand2270]

No no no...I am fine. I was just clarifying what I said. I was thinking about what I posted and thought it sounded like LDR's were the way to go because people I know who are in the same place don't like each other anyway. I thought it had some negativity to it and I just wanted to clarify that wasn't what I meant. It's all good.

 

[MagiKitty]

Oh thank goodness! I felt so bad!

 

[sand2270]

after seeing how some of these threads blow up I try to be very careful about what I say

 

[Quiksilvr]

My wife and I were in a LDR for three years while I was in law school and she worked in our home state. We got married after I took the bar exam. It was hard sometimes, but totally worth it. We talked on the phone a lot and got together two weekends out of the month (usually). My friends at school were generally supportive; many of them were also in LDRs. It took a lot of time and patience, but everything worked out for the best.

 

[CoMickey]

No no no...I am fine. I was just clarifying what I said. I was thinking about what I posted and thought it sounded like LDR's were the way to go because people I know who are in the same place don't like each other anyway. I thought it had some negativity to it and I just wanted to clarify that wasn't what I meant. It's all good.

I didn't take it like that at all! Thanks for starting this thread!

 

[CoMickey]

My wife and I were in a LDR for three years while I was in law school and she worked in our home state. We got married after I took the bar exam. It was hard sometimes, but totally worth it. We talked on the phone a lot and got together two weekends out of the month (usually). My friends at school were generally supportive; many of them were also in LDRs. It took a lot of time and patience, but everything worked out for the best.

Thanks for sharing! It's always nice to hear success stories! Mine is looking very promising to become a success story and I couldn't be happier!

BUT there is still serveral dreaded good byes at the airport and the days a part until the happy ending!

I hope everyone has a great weekend! I'll be spending mine with my two favorite men...Mr. CA and Mickey!

Take care!

 

[sand2270]

My boyfriend just told me he will be here on the 12th of May. Yeah!!

Not sure how long he can stay but he said as long as I can put up with him...to which of course I replied I can put up with him for as long as he wants.

That made my night.

 

[beansmom]

My sweetheart is coming in NINETEEN days!! To spend my birthday with me. I'm so excited. He's met my daughter and now he will meet my son and his family.

LDR IS hard...but worth it when you've found the right one. And it won't last forever...for US, in a few months, we'll start the 'real' plans for my move to Boston.

I can't wait to live in the Red Sox Nation!!!

 

[mushumadness]

my favorite thing is when my 'friend' tells me that my fiance isn't 'real' because we met online and he lives so far away. Gee, he sure SEEMS real when he's got his arms wrapped around me. Yup...real for real!

LOL. I also limit what I say...I don't care what people think but I don't have enough time to explain it all to everyone. The only people that truly matter are me and him and our children.

He IS my Prince Charming.

lol I married the man I met online, and hes very real lol, my friends didnt like the idea either, but they are having to shut up and put up now we are married and having a baby

 

[MagiKitty]

Today I come to the thread and such good news! Congrats everyone on baby plans, moving plans, visiting plans. I'm so happy for everyone!

 

[blondie7]

It is nice to see that LDR can work. I am so excited I leave to see my BF on May 16th it won't come soon enough. I know the visit will be too short and there will be tears at the airport when I have to leave. I just keep reminding myself it won't be forever. Someday we will figure it all out and live on the same continent.

 

[Mouseaholic!!!]

Three years ago in June (happened to be Gay Day weekend and Jim was wearing red), I started chatting with a tall New Yorker in line a BTMRR. I thought he was gay for about 2 weeks because of the red shirt.

It wasn't long before we knew we had each waited over 50 years to meet each other.

We were married in Alaska last June.

He continues to live/work in NYC and I live in Maryland.

I am a caregiver for my 87 year old mother and 17 1/2 year old Cairn Terrorist. Jim knew that from the beginning.

Jim works for ABC News and because of Disney's heart-breaking employee cutbacks and hiring freezes....he has not managed a transfer to the DC Bureau.

Recently I got serious medical news......looks like I will not have the chance to grow old with my brand new husband.....and the very good Disney medical insurance is all the more important to us now.

Yes, some would be heart-broken with the news.

I still consider myself so very lucky. 10 days more or 10 years more....each day will be better because I share it with Jim.


We share the same cell phone plan so our nightly telephone calls are ...well, kind of free. We see each other every two weeks for the weekend. Jim has 7 1/2 weeks of vacation to my 3 1/2 so he often travels with me when I'm wandering around the country for work.

Do we want to be together.....more than words can express. The Amtrak conductors know us by now at the BWI rail station.....saying good bye.

With all the good and the bad....my life is so much better with him in it there was never a consideration that the LDR would be difficult. It is difficult....but my Jim is worth it.

 

[MagiKitty]

Mouseaholic! What a beautiful love story you have. I am sorry to hear about your health issues, but so happy to know that you found your love (and at Disney World nonetheless! ) and that you've shared such wonderful times together. You both are in my prayers.

And thank goodness for free nights and weekends on the phone plan!

 

[DisneydaveCT]

Hi there! I'll jump in. My DBF just left this morning after a wonderfully long weekend visit. I live in Denver and my DBF lives in LA. We met at WDW last July 4th and have been lucky enough to meet at least once a month but usually are able to fit in twice a month. I work from home and can take my job anywhere so I am able to go to visit him for longer periods. I will be seeing him again beginning April 24 until May 5th!

I agree that I wasn't so sure about a LDR either but here we are and I know that I made the right choice in sticking with it. He has two children still in school and I have one DD who is in college. We had 'the talk' this weekend and I am so excited! Neither of us had really seriously brought up the subject of moving just said 'what if's', but we did talk about it this weekend and I can't wait! My lease on my aprartment isn't up until Sep. so I won't be moving right away but at least there is an end in sight!

Congratulations Vicki.

After meeting at WDW and dating a few 's from the Disboard (as well as chatting with many others but never meeting), I actually met my special two towns over from where I was living. And she had never heard of the Disboards, even though she is a big Disney fan.

I know this thread is about LDR's, and I met the Next Door. But I learned a great deal about me and what is important for me in a LTR with a from the various 's I chatted with on the Disboards, and more importantly from those I met in person. And the most important thing I learned is that I enjoyed being involved with someone that I could see in person on a regular basis. I found that it was difficult for me to be involved with someone that I would only see a couple of times a month. I found the Next Door more to my liking.

Now while LDR's aren't for me, it doesn't mean they are a bad idea. My boss has been involved with a LDR and she is very happy. One of my sisters was involved in a LDR for a long time (several years and different parts of the country) before she married her husband. And they are very happy.

So to those involved in LDR good luck...and those of you thinking about trying one...go ahead, you have nothing to lose...who knows you may end up with a friend in the end.

 

[CoMickey]

Congratulations Vicki.

After meeting at WDW and dating a few 's from the Disboard (as well as chatting with many others but never meeting), I actually met my special two towns over from where I was living. And she had never heard of the Disboards, even though she is a big Disney fan.

I know this thread is about LDR's, and I met the Next Door. But I learned a great deal about me and what is important for me in a LTR with a from the various 's I chatted with on the Disboards, and more importantly from those I met in person. And the most important thing I learned is that I enjoyed being involved with someone that I could see in person on a regular basis. I found that it was difficult for me to be involved with someone that I would only see a couple of times a month. I found the Next Door more to my liking.

Now while LDR's aren't for me, it doesn't mean they are a bad idea. My boss has been involved with a LDR and she is very happy. One of my sisters was involved in a LDR for a long time (several years and different parts of the country) before she married her husband. And they are very happy.

So to those involved in LDR good luck...and those of you thinking about trying one...go ahead, you have nothing to lose...who knows you may end up with a friend in the end.

Thanks Dave and I am very happy for you and your true princess and that she lives 'next door'!!

Sometimes we don't have a choice who we fall in love with and that perfect person for us may live many miles away and from my experience I am very happy that I took a chance on my Mr. CA. I am not saying that it is not difficult but I would rather be with my Mr. Right who lives 1000 miles away then with someone that I am just settling for because he lives in my city. I am fortunate that I am in a situation with my job and my life that I will be able to move to be with him soon!

 

[beansmom]

Mouseaholic, your story is poignant and moving. I, too, am having some 'issues'...not real actually but a lot of different 'scares'...and my LD sweetheart is sticking right beside me. It's wonderful when you finally find 'the one'...no matter where they might live.

We are figuring fall for moving in together...I cannot wait! Our first xmas tree full of disney ornaments! Wooohooo!!

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Mouseaholic, I'm so sorry for your news, but am happy that you have someone so wonderful.

I will jump in now with my story of a Long Distance Relationship. Almost 18 years ago, I was a college senior living with 4 other girls in a 4 bedroom house. One of my roomies boyfriends practically lived at the house and we were really good friends. One evening he decided to call his buddy that lived about 200 miles away. Anyway, one of the other girls called the guy into the other room and he said, "here...talk to this guy on the phone for a minute." Yep, you guessed it, hubby was on the other end of the line.

We only lived apart for about a year, and my parents made things hard. I moved home after college, and had to resume living by Mom and Dad's rules which meant no trips for "the lady" to visit the man un-chaperoned. Hubby's friends decided that I was making harsh demands on hubby. Mom and Dad didn't want me to move without a marriage license.

Anyway, it worked out. We've been married for 16 years now. Unfortunately, we may be facing another LDR. Hubby has 19 years on a state job, and can retire with benefits with 25 years. I'm close to completing my Ph.D. and will need to get a job wherever it comes along. I would rather move closer to my family and know that we will likely both end our careers wherever I ultimately find work. Six years is a long time. I hope it do not have to move out of state, or heaven forbid, not somewhere cold.

Over time, there has been issues. As wonderful as hubby is...and he is wonderful, I didn't realize how long I would be away from my family. I guess I figured that I would like my new area, or that we would only be there for a few years if I didn't like it. As hard as I try, I'm missing the lives of my loved ones, and vice versa.

For you guys going through this...the good news is it can work, and hubby and I are absolutely great for each other. The bad news is you've either got to live apart from your LDR or somebody has to sacrifice a lot for you to be together.

Are you prepared to only see your family occassionally?

Good luck to you all!

 

[weluvjasmine]

Three years ago in June (happened to be Gay Day weekend and Jim was wearing red), I started chatting with a tall New Yorker in line a BTMRR. I thought he was gay for about 2 weeks because of the red shirt.

It wasn't long before we knew we had each waited over 50 years to meet each other.

We were married in Alaska last June.

He continues to live/work in NYC and I live in Maryland.

I am a caregiver for my 87 year old mother and 17 1/2 year old Cairn Terrorist. Jim knew that from the beginning.

Jim works for ABC News and because of Disney's heart-breaking employee cutbacks and hiring freezes....he has not managed a transfer to the DC Bureau.

Recently I got serious medical news......looks like I will not have the chance to grow old with my brand new husband.....and the very good Disney medical insurance is all the more important to us now.

Yes, some would be heart-broken with the news.

I still consider myself so very lucky. 10 days more or 10 years more....each day will be better because I share it with Jim.


We share the same cell phone plan so our nightly telephone calls are ...well, kind of free. We see each other every two weeks for the weekend. Jim has 7 1/2 weeks of vacation to my 3 1/2 so he often travels with me when I'm wandering around the country for work.

Do we want to be together.....more than words can express. The Amtrak conductors know us by now at the BWI rail station.....saying good bye.

With all the good and the bad....my life is so much better with him in it there was never a consideration that the LDR would be difficult. It is difficult....but my Jim is worth it.

This is a beautiful and moving story. Sorry to hear about your health problems. God bless you and your dh.

 

[MagiKitty]

beansmom...congrats and I'm so happy that you and your honey are going to move in together! How wonderful!

 

[tmli]

Thought I would share our story.....

I met my LDR here on the dis and dismates. We started with "written communication" and quickly moved to the phone. We were both in Canada but still about 1500 miles apart. We had unlimited long distance plans and would log hours a week on the phone. Rather quickly we started in person visits, in each of our provinces and in WDW. It got to the point where we were seeing each other a couple times a month. I have a son and was married once before, he had never been married and had no children.

About 9 months after meeting, he moved here to where I live. A year after that we were married....in Disney World.

As difficult as the LDR was, I believe it helped us have a stronger relationship now. You learn to appreciate your time together, we spent way more time talking than some "conventional" relationships do.

It is hard for people to understand, especially when they usually hear the negative stories of LDR's. I knew what we had was real. LDR's can be very lonely and frustrating at times, but who ever said love was easy!!