Who does the planning in your house?

[twinklebug]

Single mom/owner - I do all the planning on my own... of course the 12 & 16 yos have their own ideas (which I try to accommodate). Any guess as to who's ideas win if there's a conflict?

Since the question and poll seems to be aimed toward married couples in this thread - I will add that even back when I was married my dh wanted nothing to do with the planning.

 

[RedSonya]

I (DW) do all the planning. My DH travels all over the world, and when we go on vacation, he doesn't want to think about logistics. He just likes to enjoy everyone having a good time. He doesn't know any DIS lingo and if I started talking it, he might think I was crazy. I'd be surprised if he knew how many points we have, anything about banking, or probably even that WLV is our home. Thankfully he happily supports my DVC habits!

 

[dianeschlicht]

I do it all!!!

 

[Luckymommyx2]

I do it all as well. DH just wants to know when we head for the airport!

 

[Inkmahm]

I'm not at all surprised that twice as many wives do the planning as the husbands. I'm actually surprised that so many husbands do any planning at all! I suspect that % is higher here on the DIS than in the rest of the DVC population.

Anyway, my DH asked that I add that even though I do all the planning, he is fine with it because we think so much alike. Many times when we are going out to dinner at home we are both thinking of the same restaurant before one of us suggests a place. We like pretty much the same things at Disney, too, so it is an easy job planning for us.

 

[dopeygirl76]

I do it all too!!! DH has some dining input but very little anything else!!

 

[ssawka]

I'm not at all surprised that twice as many wives do the planning as the husbands. I'm actually surprised that so many husbands do any planning at all! I suspect that % is higher here on the DIS than in the rest of the DVC population.

Actually, I wouldn't count on the precentage of women planning would be higher in the general DVC population, because I suspect that there are far more women on the DIS than men. I could be totally wrong, but that is just my hunch. That would be an interesting statistic to look at with regards to this poll.

 

[tjkraz]

I do it all.

My wife and I will talk about when to go, where to stay, etc. But I handle all of the details.

A few years ago I made her call MS for a reservation while I was out of town on business. I left her detailed written instructions and she got through it without incident. But if put on the spot, I doubt she could tell you basics like our Use Year, banking deadlines or even booking dates. She probably doesn't even know exactly how many points we own (on several occasions she has asked "how many points did we buy at the Grand Californian again?") and certainly doesn't know where our point balances stand, how much we pay per year in dues, etc.

We made all of the big decisions together. Beyond that, there really isn't any reason for her to stay on top of things. Managing DVC points isn't a two person job.

 

[jpolak]

I do the 98% of the planning. DW just wants to know when, where, and how many days.

 

[bama106]

We both do the planning. I usually call and make the DVC ressies, my DW will call and make ADR's. But we usually sit down together sometimes for hours and iron out the details. Planning is half the fun for us.

 

[katied]

If DH is going on the trip, I generally get his agreement about the time of year we're going (his main concern is to avoid the really hot months, and avoid the crowds - which narrows the date options considerably). I also ask about general food preferences - he'll tell me what meals he liked and would be happy to do again, and what meals he didn't like and would like to never do again. After that, I plan it all. DH does not pay any attention to how the points work, has never called MS, and is happy to let me do all the planning.

Now - if we're talking about a trip to Europe, or most other vacations, DH generally does 90% of the planning, books the flights, hotels, rental car, plans the itinerary and just asks me for input.

So - overall, we're split 50/50, I just take the lead on WDW.

 

[rkwier]

I am the DW and I do all of the vacation planning in our household. To be perfectly honest, I probably enjoy it almost as much as actually going on vacation. I love every bit of it - getting ressies, arranging air, arranging ME, meal planning, park planning - every bit. We actually have a joke around our house that my DH "just shows up" when we go on vacation. It's all good!

 

[DopeyDave]

Wow, this was a tough one! I selected "Husband (Male SO)", but we have a Male/Male household so I'm not really sure how valid my response is. I do all the planning, he just wants to know what time to show up!!

 

[GrumpyBelle]

While I am the one who handles all of the planning and reservations, it was my husband who did the research and pulled the trigger for us to buy into DVC. He understands the processes and has been known to explain DVC to anyone who will listen.

 

[ssawka]

Wow, this was a tough one! I selected "Husband (Male SO)", but we have a Male/Male household so I'm not really sure how valid my response is. I do all the planning, he just wants to know what time to show up!!

You made the right choice. I was just trying to get at the Gender of the person that does the planning.

 

[kdepot]

I marked 50/50 she picks the month, I pick the week. I make the call at 11 months, she picks her choices at 7 months. I call MS. She picks the resturants I make The ADRs.

Do you see a pattern????????????????

 

[bumbershoot]

Honestly, I didn't take the thread you were referring to as male bashing at all.

I didn't see it that way either. Just people describing the way things were in their households...



DH is the official owner. He's the breadwinner. He's gone all day, and now with his product testing job is traveling the world often, working his behind off for our little family. So I take the reins in planning our travel that helps keep him (us) sane.

There was one aspect of our purchase that he understood and I did not, and thank goodness he heard THAT, b/c he has many other misunderstandings about DVC. I came up to him while he was talking about DVC to some people in the Grand Cal lobby and was just cringing about how he was saying some things....after they left I helped him figure out how to say those things better, and urged him to just give people the little referral cards, give his name and our guide's name, and let our guide help 'em out.

But I've always been the planner since our 3rd date...those first 3 he planned and then he was happy to relax about it. I planned our honeymoon, and it was our wedding and honeymoon that helped him see that internet is GOOD and helpful, not just the time suck he thought it was. So now he trusts me entirely to plan stuff.

I even book his hotels for his work travel, and if I can be, I'm awake and online when he's taking off and landing in various places, so he can have a set of fingers helping him out if something goes awry with his flights. And that happens, b/c the company's travel agency seems to think one hour is sufficient for things like...getting off of a US airline plane, passing through immigration and customs, checking in for a flight on a company based on the country he's in, then going back through security. Yeah...his flight was leaving by the time he got to the Qantas checkin area...but we already had options for him thanks to his stateside assistant.

He really likes just being able to focus on work, while I take care of travel for work, and travel to decompress from work! There's no need for us to duplicate our efforts.

Oh and he does the dishes, too.

 

[DizGirl20]

I do it all!!!

Me too, but I would like to point out that my husband works very hard so that I can have all the fun!

 

[dmoore22]

In our house it is good combination of both. I suggest where we are going and when we are going. The wife then decides what we are bringing and how we are going to go about getting there.

Jason

Similar situation here. We discuss the calendar, when to go, and which resort we would like to stay. I make the reservations for the room. We poll the kids (one teenage DD and 2 young adult college student DDs) as to their preferences for dining and other activities. My DW has dining programmed into her phone so she handles that once the family has reached a consensus. Of course we have 2cd and 3rd choices just in case the first choice isn't available. My DW has an audience while she is on the phone to Disney Dining. That way the family provides additional input should the first choice reservation not be available.

 

[loveswdw]

I do all the planning from when we go, to how long we stay, to dining, airfare, etc. I do ask DH's opinion and ask him where he'd "like" to stay and dine. He knows I love to do the planning so he just lets me run with it. "Tell me when I need to schedule off and where I need to be."