Who asked for YOUR input???

[DannyDisneyFreak]

"What the question comes down to is this: Is it appropriate for someone to enter into someone elses conversation without an invitation?"

That is definitely the interesting issue. For example, if someone hears you talking about the small town they come from, or something incredibly interesting about which they have expertise? Would you really be offended if they said "excuse me I could not help but over hear..."

As much as I would say that I wouldn't mind if a socialable person interjected into my conversation if they had helpful advice or information my father annoys the fudge out of me because he literally will talk to anyone and about the most random things. He honestly had very poor social skills... If he ever meets any one and hears them speaking Spanish he will no doubt start talking to them and telling them about the 2 years of Spanish he took in high school and attempting to converse with his obviously poor Spanish, so embarassing... he will ask any stranger he sees if they look Asian or Middle Eastern where they are from... I have a close friend who is black and he has asked her several times if she has ever watched Roots or the Color Purple... and my all time favorite most embarrassing is when we were in line at KFC and there was a family who I will admit looked Amish, well he leaned over and asked the man if he made the Amish fireplaces and then proceded to discuss horse and buggys... the man was obviously annoyed and sternly said "I am a Menninite!" My dad also embarrasses me by asking evey waitress about her tips... he did this at the Coral Reef in Epcot and wanted her to look over the bill with him and tell him what was appropriate for him to tip her and wanted to know how much in tips she made per night!

 

[KellyNY]

Just wondering why not to ask waitress not to put fish eggs on food if you know one of you will not eat it, or just tell DD what it is so she could eat other rolls? Why creating this weird situation in a first place? The girl is an adult, she could ask waitress what it was next time she approached their table, would it be different then? I think not.

 

[DaisyMaisie]

"Thanks for the sane words, Cathy. I have found all of the speculation regarding this somewhat amusing and not worth answering."

So now not only are we "those" people we also are lacking in sanity?

 

[DaisyMaisie]

"I must say that I am stunned that so many people think that it is perfectly acceptable, and even a good idea to come over and make comment on what is on other peoples plates while dining out. Even to say that something was gross."

I haven't seen a single opinion here that says that. We just said it may be a natural and harmless reaction to answer a factual question that you accidentally overhear. And she may have actually been well intentioned and, like most people, would not have foreseen that answering said question would ruin your meal.

Most people here seem to agree that "gross" was an unfortunate thing to say. The majority also seems to suggest that that was not what ruined your meal since your daughter was already horrified.

Do you think we might have just a teeny tiny point? Maybe we aren't really all insane and "those people."

I find in interesting that you refuse to answer whether your daughter (the person the stranger was actually addressing) thought the stranger was rude.

 

[Sassagoula Billy]

People are increasingly afraid of one another. It's the stupidification of society. Everyone has their guard up, wrapped in a iPod bubble. No one is open to interaction anymore. Everyone fears the worst. Talking heads on TV tell you to draw lines in the sand. It's contagious. It stinks. And so we slowly die... awake.

 

[Lillian Gracey]

She didn't know that you and your sister didn't want her to know. I think she was just trying to be nice since you were trying to avoid answering her question. The 'gross' comment was a little uncalled for IMO, unless she was saying it in a joking way. We don't know what the tone of each person's voice was so it's hard to comment on that, but she might have just been joking with the 'gross' comment.

I'm 20, so roughly your daughter's age, and I would never be poutty like that. I probably would have made a face, but then pushed it to the side and continued eating the stuff I know I like. I wouldn't just sit there and not eat. That would be rude. Especially to the person who was treating me to such a wonderful meal. I'm sometimes adventerous with food, but there are some things that I just would not like to try. If I'm with my boyfriend, I usually give it to him because he's not picky when it comes to food.

I would gladly accept information about the food. I don't get grossed out too easily and it bothers me when I can't figure out what something is. If I didn't know that roe was fish eggs and someone told me, I would have thanked that person for letting me know and if I decided to not eat it, I would push it to the side. I might make a 'I don't know if I really want to eat this' face, but I wouldn't have looked like I seen a ghost.

 

[rosiep]

Here's the rub for me: The OP was upset that someone came over and interjected into the table's conversation and then upset by the reaction it caused in her daughter.
Several of us have discussed whether the woman who offered information was rude. I didn't think so because I believe myself to be someone who would have done the same. Now, of course I don't know the whole story, none of us do except the OP, but it appears that the OP's daughter wasn't offended that this woman came over and "helped", she was offended at what she'd just been eating. So, even within the same family this interaction can be seen as either helpful or intrusive.

 

[tarrbear]

One- I can't believe there is nine pages of this. lol
Two- I don't believe the woman meant any harm.
Three- A girl that age has the right to know what she's eating.
Four- This has been blown up to a much bigger deal than it really is.

 

[BLTLDZ]

People are increasingly afraid of one another. It's the stupidification of society. Everyone has their guard up, wrapped in a iPod bubble. No one is open to interaction anymore. Everyone fears the worst. Talking heads on TV tell you to draw lines in the sand. It's contagious. It stinks. And so we slowly die... awake.

Couldn't have said that better myself...My husband & I often discuss this.. We are the type that LOVE meeting new people, especially at Disney!!

 

[GinnyEmma]

Couldn't have said that better myself...My husband & I often discuss this.. We are the type that LOVE meeting new people, especially at Disney!!

I love meeting and talking with people, also. I believe that statement (sb's) to be a huge broadbrush statement, though. I think the majority of people are friendly, kind and helpful.

 

[nacorom]

What if her daughter was allergic to fish eggs but didn't know what roe meant, and seeing as she didn't get a response from the mother and aunt the lady just wanted to help?

 

[Peepster]

Now, I confess I haven't read allll the posts (have to do a little work here) but I have to ask ...

Does this mean I can't go to WDW and make new friends anymore? WDW seems to be the only place left where one can go and start a conversation with someone and not be looked at as "strange". Since 1971 we've made some great friends.

I can't help but think this person meant no harm and a 20 year old should certainly not be acting like a child. Suck it up OP, you shouldn't have tried to trick the child. Makes me grateful for my parents exposing me to new things. They never said I had to like them all...just experience them.

And rosiep, of course you would have done the same thing...so would I!

 

[Leigha]

Wow! I can't believe there are so many pages either but I can't help but say I think the problem is that people can't stop themselves from showing how smart they are whether anybody else wants it or not or even whether they're right or not! I have a 20 year old DD that I could see this happening with. Yes, we'd tell her later and laugh about it then when she was able to laugh with us but I can also see her freaking out at the table as she stared at it. People should really try to stop themselves more, especially if they think they're delivering bad news. Some people just won't be able to though...

 

[larryz]

Larry's Number One Rule for Eating Sushi: If you can't stand the fish eggs, don't pick up the chopsticks.

 

[Sassagoula Billy]

I love meeting and talking with people, also. I believe that statement (sb's) to be a huge broadbrush statement, though. I think the majority of people are friendly, kind and helpful.

I tend to operate in broadbrush statements, I'm my own Aesop's fable. But the jist of it, I hope, is that while there are friendly, kind and helpful people left in the world, the overriding trend is leaning toward the guarded, solitary, leave-me-alone behavioral pattern. I see it in the city everyday, especially from tourists. And I see those same people at Disney.

 

[cm8]

OK ... first off ... who takes a picky eater to a sushi restaurant?

Secondly ... not a child. Most 20-ish YOs I know would have either known what the orange stuff was or, after finding out, would have scraped it off and continued enjoying their sushi. They wouldn't have pushed away the plate and pouted.

I would imagine that the other person was simply sharing some knowledge, the very same way most of us say we share knowledge about Disney with total strangers. I mean, if you had been standing in line somewhere and this very same person had "butted in" to tell you a new secret they'd discovered about getting into the first row at Soarin' or how to speed up an online reservation, you probably wouldn't have cared at all that they offered up their unsolicited input.

It's not like the person was sitting there thinking, "ooooooh ... I know! Let's totally ruin this person's last day by telling them they're eating fish eggs!!" Come on. Lighten up.

The stranger didn't spoil your last meal. You let it spoil your last meal.

agreed!, besides you know how close those tables are she was not being noisy, she was just being helpful

 

[DannyDisneyFreak]

One- I can't believe there is nine pages of this. lol
Two- I don't believe the woman meant any harm.
Three- A girl that age has the right to know what she's eating.
Four- This has been blown up to a much bigger deal than it really is.

I love that Dexter is in your signiture!!! My cat is named Dexter Morgan! Guess what my favorite show is?

 

[TiggeRx]

The inconsistencies in this thread are somewhat mind boggling.
"She wondered aloud..." "She didn't wonder loudly".
"We quickly changed the subject" "We didn't purposely change the subject to deceive".

But I think the most amazing subject matter is that an adult went to a sushi restaurant, and then acted childish when she found out those orange pellets were fish eggs. Really?
What did she think they were, soft gelled ammunition for bb guns?
And besides, if I disagree or dislike a certain food during dinner, I sure as heck don't ruin it for everyone. Just push it aside, consume the rest, and be thankful that I was treated to a special meal!

That said, this thread has been quite entertaining, and I'm glad that the OP had a magical time. It does appear that this incident really left a mark, and I hope that she/he is able to let it go and focus in on the postitive aspect of their trip!

 

[Twinprincesses]

Not to drag this back up, but I just would have told her what it was. Like the little orange eggs the fish eats at the beginning of Nemo

 

[mariepapa]

I am really amazed that this young woman loves sushi, which is raw fish. And often weird kinds of fish. But doesn't like the idea of fish eggs.

I remember going to a sushi restaurant around that age too. I wanted to know what everything was before I put it in my mouth. I still do. Most people don't enjoy being tricked. My parents used to do that to me with chicken hearts. One is better off with children just telling them the truth when it comes to food. They appreciate it in the long run. That is what we did with our kids and calamari. They still eat it. And love it.