Whew that was tough!

[2angelsinheaven]

Another DIS shoulder needed... As if my week already didn't stink enough, I'm feeling sad because with all this mess going on in my home I haven't talked to my dear friend of 12 years in a long time (about 6-7 months). I put our friendship aside when I started taking care of the girls. Well I ran into her little sister last night at the Roadhouse and asked her how she was... well I found out she is 5 months pregnant. While I'm excited for her and her hubby Troy I'm also a little sad, I'm the only one from school I was friends with, with no children of my own (miscarriages in 8/2000 and 12/2001), not married, etc.
I called her and left a message telling her how happy I was for her, etc and asked her to call, sorry for the long time between calls, etc... she called back tonight but I was not home, so I called and her hubby answered.
He told me she was sleeping, tired from the pregnancy, I told him congrats, happy Father's Day To Be, tell her how happy I am, etc, etc... he told me she would call, I should come over to dinner or what not, then my voice started to break and tears filled my eyes... I asked him to have her call me and hung up before he would realized I was crying.
Anyone experience miscarriage and then feel cheated or sad when a friend/relative is expecting. I'm not jealous in a bad way, just wish I could be preggers too. My children would be 3 and 2 right now and it hurts still....
I am truley happy for her, am I wrong for feeling like this? Should I share with her my feelings to prevent a break down at baby shower, etc... which I have not been to one since my miscarriages.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

no advice..just a hug {{{}}}

 

[NC Belle]

 

[nativetxn]

I know exactly how you feel. I had many, many miscarriages and although I was truly thrilled for my friends when they were pregnant, I was also a little jealous. I would be lying if I told you I wasn't.

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. I'm sorry you are feeling sad.

Katholyn

 

[N.Bailey]

My sister had several miscarriages too, and one stillborn(that was really tough), but she was finally able to give birth to perfect lil angel. I know it hurts, but you don't have to give up! I don't think you should feel guilty about feeling the way you do either.

 

[buzzlady]

Tell her how you are really feeling. I know how difficult it is. I have had 2 miscarriages. Although both were difficult at the time, I already had a DS and was happy to have him. I did have another DS after the 2 miscarriages. I know there are many Disers here that have been through miscarriages and I know that there have been threads about miscarriages and progesterone. I wish you the best.

Here is the thread that I was thinking about

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=548792&highlight=+miscarriage++progesterone

Here is an older thread that you might want to read too.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=387853&highlight=+miscarriage++progesterone

 

[WhenUwishUponAstar]

It's perfectly normal, you can't help the desires of your heart. I just had my 2nd MC last month and one of my dear friends is due a week before my baby was to be born. We cried and prayed together and I told her I didn't want her baby or feel ill towards her pregnacy I just wanted another of my own. Since she had MC'd tripletts in October she totally understood. I think it really helped our friendship to have that little talk. Now things aren't weird between us and I'm still nervous for how i'll feel when the baby is here. I'm just praying really hard to have found peace by then.

 

[Squem]

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[mbb]

were pregnant at the same time..She suffered a miscarriage the day before we found out we were having twins.

I felt awful.
She felt awful.

And as happy as she was for us...hosting our babies' shower was not fun for her. She insisted that she wanted to do that for us, and we discussed how she was feeling and at one point, had decided to do something else entirely, so she wouldn't feel like she "had" to go, which was perfectly ok with me...but at the shower,we laughed and had fun, and after, shed a few tears for what "might have been". What was important was that we talked..

What you're feeling is perfectly normal, and she's probably feeling sad for you as well...yes, share your feelings...if you can't, we're here to listen...

 

[EsmeraldaX]

My cousin just lost a baby to miscarriage and I know it was very hard for her. I have no real advice, just hugs and kind thoughts.

I'm 27 and the only person I know who is not married and has no kids. I know I never will have either of those things unless I opt to leave the man I am with and have been with for the last several years. Sometimes it is hard and I think about leaving but then I realize that for me, having those things with someone OTHER than Chris would not be what I want, so I choose to stay.

I know it's not quite the same but I know what you mean about feeling jealous, not in a bad way but just in a sort of *sigh* everyone else has what I wish I had kind of way.

I know.

 

[Strawberry Lemonade]

I understand how you feel. I have friends, coworkers, and family who are pregnant. I've been unsuccessful for over a year. I don't want to seem selfish, but I can't be around them because it hurts me too much. As happy as I am for them, I have to look out for my well-being first.

What I'm trying to say is that your feelings are perfectly normal - don't feel bad for having them. Your friend should understand why you feel the way you do.