Thank you for all of your advice. This is a very difficult decision, so I am taking my time (though I better not take too much, right?)
We are having the ceremony at the Wilderness Lodge, which makes AP the logical logistical choice. But I worry about it being to casual and looking funny in a wedding gown there.
CItricos seems to be a happy medium. They have a private room too, for about 12 guests (perfect size) and a minimum expenditure of $650 (or so.) So far, I think this is my top choice. I'm okay w/ folks congratulating us and pointing as we walk by, but I'd rather not be a focal point while we try to eat.
Now, CG, I've heard great things about. I had heard they have 2 private rooms, the Napa and Sonoma rooms. However, they are larger than the one at Citricos, and, therefore cost more, like a $2,000 minimum or something. Are these two rooms the same as the "wine room" someone referred to?
That leaves the YS, which have a semi-private alcove. I have also heard from a few past brides who used it and were happy. However, I can't justify travelling that far (in comparison to the others) for a place which may just be "marginal" in quality/service, at least compared to the other restaurants.
So, I will ponder this a little more. Please feel free to offer more advice.