...is there anywhere you can find the great theming and that "magic" thanks so much in advance!
Leigh123, what constitutes "magic" to you? Disney characters, piped music, pretty landscaping & night lighting, shuttle buses, friendly service, attractive buildings, gorgeous water views??? What kind of theme sounds appealing?
If you are looking for the real thing and not just mock-ups with the illusion of the real thing... then go to the source! For incredible natural beauty, visit the Nat'l Parks... Yellowstone/WY, Yosemite/CA, Grand Canyon/AZ, Acadia/ME, Smokies/TN, Volcano/HI, Rockies, etc. Most have some fun, local, touristy sights, sports, lodging, music & food offerings. Ex., Flagstaff, AZ has Black Bart's. If your budget is substantial, try a dude ranch or a white water rafting trip.
If you want international flavor, visit any of the great cities or regions of Europe, complete with castle tours or wine-tasting/cooking lessons.
AAA offers some of these. Try something really different from the U.S., like Venice or Amsterdam or Munich or Prague. Visit the Parthenon in Athens and side trip to see the Temple of Poseidon - wow, what an ocean view! Or enjoy the friendly service & festive live music at a great Mexican resort. Don't overlook the old section of Quebec! Or a cruise to Alaska!
If you want to try something more urban within driving distance of PA, consider Boston, NYC, Wash DC, Wmsbg or Charleston SC. Some of these offer horse drawn carriage rides, guided tours, romantic restored hotels or B&Bs. All of them have tons of museums (for adults or children), live entertainment, diverse opportunities for fun sports, etc.
If you want something more all-inclusive, look for a large, complete resort that encourages you to spend all your time there, like Smuggler's Notch in VT or plan a trip that's split between a couple of resorts, each with a meals/sports package. Enjoy golf, clubhouse & spa facilities, horseback riding, children's programs, etc., without leaving the resort. Club Med-type places do still exist.
Wherever you go, do something you've never done before. Try a whale-watch or a dolphin-watch boat ride (depending on where you go) or a sailing or deep sea fishing adventure. Get a massage or body wrap. Learn to cook something new. Sit by a huge fireplace or on a wraparound porch with a view and read, whether it's under Spanish moss and live oaks, mountain pine forest, along a foggy, craggy lighthouse beach or overlooking a desert landscape. Definitely try something new.
The options are really endless. Just browse the travel section at a bookstore! With our kids, we've visited Boston, NYC, Poconos, Hershey, Wash DC, Wmsbg, Myrtle Beach, HHI, Gatlinburg/PF/Smokies, Atlanta, Orlando, Marco Is. - and will or would return to any of them for the right situation. Next year, we're looking forward to Nashville, Smokies (yet again, love that area), Grand Canyon/AZ. In the next few years, we're hoping for visits to Branson, Ft Lauderdale, Acadia/ME, S. Calif., Hawaii, Germany, and of course, Orlando. Ah, vacations!
We do enjoy Orlando but I just cannot imagine limiting our family to only Orlando vacations. When you plan a new destination, try to get excited about what it has to offer in its own right. If you spend the whole time comparing it to Disney, on Disney's terms (what they do well), your trip will be spent in "2nd best" mode. It'd be the same if you loved traveling to Venice and then went to Epcot and compared what you found in the lil' ol' Italy pavilion. Give something new a chance. WDW will still be there for a happy reunion later.
