When were you last victim of a mommy driveby

[itchin2go]

When has any thread stuck strictly on topic here? smidgy, you've been here long enough to know none of them do.

When someone starts a thread they open themselves up for all kinds of responses.

And if any parent has had several "mommy drive-bys" over concern for their child then maybe that parent should re-think his or her parenting skills....or rather the lack of them in some cases.

I was thinking the exact same thing. Let he who has always stayed on topic cast the first stone.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I was thinking the exact same thing. Let he who has always stayed on topic cast the first stone.

I was thinking people were answering questions that were posed on this thread.

 

[testifyoncruises]

And if any parent has had several "mommy drive-bys" over concern for their child then maybe that parent should re-think his or her parenting skills....or rather the lack of them in some cases.

So should I go up to a parent every time I see them feeding their obese kids junk from the golden arches and tell them what I think of their parenting skills? Should I stand outside and yell at parents taking their kids to Sea World because of what I believe about these parks and anyone who goes to them?

Maybe people who come up to do mommy drive-bys should just keep their opinions of how they THINK everyone else should parent their children!

 

[itchin2go]

So should I go up to a parent every time I see them feeding their obese kids junk from the golden arches and tell them what I think of their parenting skills? Should I stand outside and yell at parents taking their kids to Sea World because of what I believe about these parks and anyone who goes to them?

Maybe people who come up to do mommy drive-bys should just keep their opinions of how they THINK everyone else should parent their children!

But you do give these opinions on a message board?

 

[testifyoncruises]

But you do give these opinions on a message board?

If you cannot tell the difference between talking to your DP or sharing your opinion with others on a private message board AND going up to someone in person, you frankly are not worth responding to.

Big difference between this board and a MOMMY DRIVE BY.

 

[Planogirl]

So should I go up to a parent every time I see them feeding their obese kids junk from the golden arches and tell them what I think of their parenting skills? Should I stand outside and yell at parents taking their kids to Sea World because of what I believe about these parks and anyone who goes to them?

Maybe people who come up to do mommy drive-bys should just keep their opinions of how they THINK everyone else should parent their children!

I agree with you that you should NOT go up to parents and give them your opinions about these things. I would never dream of bothering parents unless they're doing something physically abusive.

 

[curious3069]

I'm not a mommy, but I did almost give a mommy-drive by yesterday. Was in a crowded food court that also has a carousel. There was a little girl walking around, she was maybe 18 months old at the oldest. Mom not paying attention AT ALL, as in this little one was wandering completely out of her eyesite, ie, behind other tables, behind a large planter, etc. Mom would retrieve her after awhile, but at one point, the little girl was literally all the way on the other side of the foodcourt. The mom was looking around, couldn't find her and I did point out where the little girl was because I WAS watching where she was going. Mommy just laughed it off "Oh, I thought she was right here!"

Thinking about it now, I should have send the security guard after the little girl, while it was happening, all I could think to do was at least keep her in my eyesite. Guess I was flummoxed by the whole thing .

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

back to the original post... I have a 6 y.o. DD... and a 4 y.o. DD.... typically I will let them go to the bathroom by themselves if the bathroom is within visual range and I check it out first.
I must tell you a quick story though...after I quickly glanced at a single bathroom at a restaurant last year and let my DD do her business by herself, I had gone to sit back at my seat. My DD didn't come out for awhile, so I went back to check on her and she was freaking out and screaming inside because she couldn't get the door open to get out. Her hands were slippery from having washed her hands (and apparently she didn't dry them all the way) and the door itself was heavy and a little bit tough to open. It was only a few minutes, but this was def. a scary situation for her!!

 

[cheermom1]

in BOTH cases.. none of your business.

REally?? Like i didn;t know that and you took this out of context. I could very easily go to anyone's post and take anything they say out of context and tell how wrong they are. as I stated in my post I DID NOT tell her what I thought about what she was doing to her child. However she took it upon herself to call the cops on me!!!

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I've never been the victim of a mommy drive by, although maybe some would call this a daddy drive by. It was at WDW, eating breakfast in the little counter service place in the Poly. Dd was 2 and acting up, I was telling her to stop standing and jumping on the booth seat. This guy at the next table told me to let her have fun, it's Disney and she's not bothering anyone! I did not tell him to pound sand (I honestly don't know what that means), but I know I gave him an odd look, because it was honestly one of the strangest things. You'd think a stranger would be more bothered by a mother who lets her child be obnoxious than one who doesn't.

As far as the OP's situation, I do think the person who "drove by" you was wrong. None of her business, no matter her feelings on the subject. I'm not so afraid of who might be in a public restroom either, though I do accompany my just-turned-7yo most of the time (or send her with her big sister). Even though she's on the tall side for her age, she often cannot reach the paper towels, soap dispensers, or even the faucet handles in public restrooms, when the countertops are deep. I have often helped other young girls in public restrooms with these things, too, when they are in there alone.

 

[MIGrandma]

As far as the OP's situation, I do think the person who "drove by" you was wrong. None of her business, no matter her feelings on the subject. I'm not so afraid of who might be in a public restroom either, though I do accompany my just-turned-7yo most of the time (or send her with her big sister). Even though she's on the tall side for her age, she often cannot reach the paper towels, soap dispensers, or even the faucet handles in public restrooms, when the countertops are deep. I have often helped other young girls in public restrooms with these things, too, when they are in there alone.

You just made me remember a situation from last Mother's Day. DH and I took my Mom to dinner at Coyle's in Houghton Lake. It's a very large restaurant, and it being Mother's Day you can imagine how busy it was. I went to the restroom just before we left, there are 3 stalls and one was occupied. I went into one of the two remaining stalls, and when I came out there was a little girl no more than 4 or 5 years old trying to wash her hands but couldn't reach the faucet, soap or towels. I smiled at her and helped her since she was alone.

I hate to think what could have happened had a child molester been in the restroom with her, instead of myself. Children are too precious to put them in potentially harmful situations. If we can protect them from those things, why not take the extra few minutes to accompany them to the restroom to help them. Can't they practice their independence in other, more safe, situations? It only takes a few seconds for something bad to happen to a child in a restroom.

 

[C.Ann]

So should I go up to a parent every time I see them feeding their obese kids junk from the golden arches and tell them what I think of their parenting skills? Should I stand outside and yell at parents taking their kids to Sea World because of what I believe about these parks and anyone who goes to them?

No - it's none of your business - just like it was not the business of the "mommy drive-by" to call you out.. However, from what you have posted in regards to the types of comments you make to these people, you're giving them the satisfaction of responding in a manner that makes you look worse than them.. Probably not a good idea - and definitely not if you're doing this in front of your child.. Better to teach her how to respond to rude comments in an intelligent manner - therefore setting a good example..

Just a thought..

 

[Planogirl]

No - it's none of your business - just like it was not the business of the "mommy drive-by" to call you out.. However, from what you have posted in regards to the types of comments you make to these people, you're giving them the satisfaction of responding in a manner that makes you look worse than them.. Probably not a good idea - and definitely not if you're doing this in front of your child.. Better to teach her how to respond to rude comments in an intelligent manner - therefore setting a good example..

Just a thought..

True. You could say "I'll take your opinion under advisement, that is when I decide that your opinion has any relevance. Thanks and have a nice day!"

Just one suggestion.

 

[worm761]

This thread is hilarious! Start a thread about taking your 7 year old SON into the women's restroom with you and see what kind of response you get. They are entirely too old to be in there, make people uncomfortable, and you should send them ALONE into the men's room. DS13 is finally allowed to go to the public restroom by himself. I think that started when he was 11 or 12. Until then he went in with me. Why? Because he has autism. You cannot look at him and tell. He is high functioning but I am telling you, that boy has never met a stranger in his life. If you tell him your name you are now his new best friend. Imagine all the horrors that could happen to him. Nope. I didn't care how uncomfortable other people felt. The safety and well being of my child came first. I did get to hear more than one comment about it though.
The first mommy drive by I ever got was when DS was pitching a fit because I wouldn't buy him something in the store. I was telling to stop the fit and what the consequences would be if he did not. They included going home and getting in the time out chair. Some nosey busy body decided to start telling me how to discipline my child. I admit to being rude. Very rude and informing her that when she paid for mine and my child's way in this world she would get an opinion but until then to butt out. Embarrassed the heck out of my mother. Got a lecture about respecting your elders and all that. Respect is a two way street. Berating me is not respecting.
In my opinion, unless harm is being done to the child it is none of my business. I have had to report someone to DCFS before. They were drugging the child and I saw him eating a Styrofoam plate in the window(they were neighbors). They were home just still sleeping at 3 in the afternoon. I called children's services on them. That was just too much.

 

[cpbjgc]

Yeah, spanking is assault and battery...

Wait, I'm not done...

Hold on...



Thanks...

Sorry to read your statutes, but yeah, it is actually assault. That's why they have the "justification" provisions you brought up in the first place. I find that when you say some
thing is the "law" it's usually best to read it..

Glad I made your day. And if you think a whack to the face is a spanking (which is what brought the point up), then yes - you are .


Have a great day!

 

[PatsMom]

I think I've been close to a mommy drive by once in DD's life. It was when she was about 7 months old. We were living just outside Atlanta and as natives of New Hampshire, winter was a joke. She had a woolie type fleece that I used to use as her winter coat. I never did get her a real snowsuit - just borrowed one for the week we came home at Christmas.

We were at McDonald's at the mall and it was relatively cold for Atlanta, but still pretty warm to me. A lady came up to me and asked me if I needed help finding a place to get my baby a warm coat. I couldn't believe it! The baby was just fine as she was.

As for what happened to the OP I am in the group who would have reacted the same way she did - tell the commenter to go pound sand. I don't live by what ifs and various nebulous fears. Nor do I believe in raising my daughter to be scared of things that might never happen. When she was 5 or 6 she went to the ladies room alone usually. Especially in busy places - what are the odds of a molester hanging out in a busy bathroom? And according to statistics already cited your child is much more likely to be molested by the family friend that is so close your kids call him Uncle. My family knows this all too well.

 

[testifyoncruises]

As for what happened to the OP I am in the group who would have reacted the same way she did - tell the commenter to go pound sand. I don't live by what ifs and various nebulous fears. Nor do I believe in raising my daughter to be scared of things that might never happen. When she was 5 or 6 she went to the ladies room alone usually. Especially in busy places - what are the odds of a molester hanging out in a busy bathroom? And according to statistics already cited your child is much more likely to be molested by the family friend that is so close your kids call him Uncle. My family knows this all too well.

Thank you for this excellent post. I so agree with you obviously!

 

[smidgy]

I was thinking the exact same thing. Let he who has always stayed on topic cast the first stone.

guilty as charged!
I do think there's a difference though, between a thread eventually going off topic, and, in this case; where it went off topic from the beginning. it immediatly became a "should you let your little one go in a public bathroom by themselves" thread. which (obviously) is a topic with many opinions. but the OP wanted to talk about "mommy-drive-bys", which was barely touched upon.
I was just trying to help the OP out a bit.

 

[itchin2go]

As for what happened to the OP I am in the group who would have reacted the same way she did - tell the commenter to go pound sand.

People keep using that phrase and I have no idea what it means. How is it an insult to tell someone to "pound sand"? What does that even mean?

 

[bellebud]

People keep using that phrase and I have no idea what it means. How is it an insult to tell someone to "pound sand"? What does that even mean?

LOL - I have also been thinking this throughout this tread.