When were you last victim of a mommy driveby

[cheermom1]

I wonder if you had legal recourse. The person who called the police filed a false report against you...

I don't know, like I said I was young and a single mom at the time and that had never happened to me before and I was scared...I was so relieved that the cop was mad for me and left. I let it go b/c I felt the chance that something could happen was not worth the risk. ok so that was in the mid of a very young and single mom that worked all the time.

 

[luvsJack]

Strangers come up to you and ask who the father of your child is? How incredibly bizarre. Such weird things keep happening to you! You're right, some people have no filter and can be so offensive! Why do they keep flocking to you?!

Isn't it odd how the crazies all seem to attract to the same people??

I cannot imagine asking a stranger who the father of their child is? I live in the deepest part of the Bible belt and have never met anyone that nosy or that even gives a second thought to who the father or mother is to some random child with adults.

 

[DebD4T]

You don't let your FIFTEEN year old go alone?

I prefer that they go together. Just my personal preference. That is probably the only thing I am "overprotective" about.

DD15 has quite a bit of freedom due to her having a very level head on her shoulders. She travels from school on the city bus, and is permitted to travel into the city to shop and have fun with her friends. She goes to the movies and the mall with her friends...

it's just that darn public toilet that gets me!! LOL

 

[testifyoncruises]

I cannot imagine asking a stranger who the father of their child is?

Some people clearly cannot READ

Never once did I saw people ask WHO the father of my child is. I said people ask DP and I about DD's sperm donor and make mommy drive-by comments because it is DP and I raising a child and not what many in the Bible Belt refer to as a 'family'.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Some people clearly cannot READ

Never once did I saw people ask WHO the father of my child is. I said people ask DP and I about DD's sperm donor and make mommy drive-by comments because it is DP and I raising a child and not what many in the Bible Belt refer to as a 'family'.

I think luvsJack was referring to another poster that did share a story about someone questioning her about the father.

 

[chobie]

I know the cop that came was really mad he couldn't believe that someone would do that. I was scared b/c I had never had that happen to me and I didn;t know what the cop was going to think. then i was really mad, I mean was she thinking? oh wait I know she wasn't

and the lady that the lady call her OMG is all I can say..WOW she had some guts or just plain stupid!! I am mad for you

While I didn't have the police called, I was once accused of abusing my child. I was at a park with my then 4yo and 1 yo. I had to leave to get my husband from work and the 4 yo old (dd) would not leave the wading pool. I gave her a 10 minute warning, a 5 minute warning, a 1 minute warning, but she would not get out. Finally I said "that's it" and I waded in with my baby on my hip,took my dd by the hand and walked her out of the pool and to the car -- that's it. Well my dd was screaming bloody murder (because she didn't want to leave) and some woman came running up to me and told me should would not stand by while I "mistreated" a child and began to lecture me. My dd then got in the woman's face and started screaming "aaaah -- you're a stranger - go away"!!! The woman took a few steps back and said "I can see you have a very powerful child," then she turned and left.

Looking back on it now, I can understand that a stranger might think I was going to beat the **** out my kid after I got her to the car by the way she was screaming...she was just one of those kids...

 

[OceanAnnie]

Are y'all sure you are ready for this???

Seriously, I couldn't make this up if I wanted to.

Here goes :

My son was turning 13 last December and wanted an ice cream cake from Baskin Robbins. We decided to go order one - a large one for his party - and at the same time purchased him a banana split.

Paid for both items and went home on our merry way.

Next day, I get a phone call AT HOME from one of the workers. She stated that she noticed my son's mannerisms and wanted to know what was wrong with him. She mentioned that this phone call had nothing to do with the cake or order, it was a personal phone call.

I was shellshocked. Dumbfounded. Awed.

I proceeded to tell her that my son has Aspergers and ADHD. She wanted to recommend a doctor that helped a friend of hers whose daughter had Celiac. I told her (why I told her anything is beyond me - I should have told her it was none of her business) that my son had been diagnosed by several physicians and that his illness has nothing to do with Celiac. She proceeded to tell me that she was concerned because we bought such a sugar loaded fattening LARGE cake and purchased a sugar loaded fattening treat for our son. Yes, she said LARGE and SUGAR LOADED cake. And that she really wanted to recommend some new physicians and naturopathic doctors to me.

I finally got her off the phone.

DH came home and I told him what happened. His first words were "Are you kidding me?"

Unfortunately, I was not.

DH went to Baskin Robbins and talked to the manager and let him know the entire phone conversation I had with his employee. He looked like he had been run over by a truck. It was truly amazing how UNPROFESSIONAL and NOSEY his employee was. DH said that she needs to be talked to and that our UNLISTED phone number should have never been taken home by an employee and that we wanted to cancel our order and that we will never be doing business with them again.

DH said that you could have knocked the manager over with a feather. His mouth was open the entire time. He refunded us our entire cake amount, PLUS the amount for the banana split.

This was my latest "mommy drive-by".

My son ended up getting a delicious cake from the Safeway bakery for his birthday. And to this day has no idea why he didn't get his cake from Baskin Robbins.

I still can't get over this one!

 

[luvsJack]

Some people clearly cannot READ

Never once did I saw people ask WHO the father of my child is. I said people ask DP and I about DD's sperm donor and make mommy drive-by comments because it is DP and I raising a child and not what many in the Bible Belt refer to as a 'family'.

I read very well, thank you. I know exactly what you said.

So are these people that know you or strangers? Why on earth would a stranger ask about her sperm donor? How would they know whether the three of you are a family or friends? Maybe one of you had the child before you became a family? Maybe she is the niece or some other kin of one of you? Maybe you adopted her? There are many, many different kinds of families. How she was conceived or to whom has absolutely nothing to do with the three of you being a family, nor does it give any reason for anyone to question anything.

I live deep in the Bible Belt and I know of no one that would give a second thought to how a random child was conceived.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Yes people commonly and quite frequently ask the whereabouts of DD's father in places like swimteam and soccer and cheerleading and gymnastics. When I have explained our family situation I get quite the holier than thou response more than once.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes people commonly and quite frequently ask the whereabouts of DD's father in places like swimteam and soccer and cheerleading and gymnastics. When I have explained our family situation I get quite the holier than thou response more than once.

Again, I'm wondering why all these rude, nosy, offensive people pick you as their target. Never once has anyone asked where my sons' father was, unless they've already met him. And we've done the whole gamut of sports and lessons.

 

[cheermom1]

I still can't get over this one!

I know I was thinking the same thing WOW just WOW...what are some of these people thinking???? that is beyond what anyone should do...

 

[coolbeans]

i am guilty of doing mommy drive-bys... at the grocery store, when your back is turned to the cart and your young child is..
a. standing up in the top where they should be sitting.
b. trying to sit on the back of the cart (like if they were sitting in the big part where the groceries go and stood up then try to sit on the back)
c. any variation of the above.
i have a huge phobia of hearing SPLAT as i walk by and hearing either a mom or child scream as they hit the floor.. usually i just walk very quickly by and ignore it but it's my "mom instinct" and i just can't stand it, i have to say something... SORRY to any moms that i have done this to.

whew.. i feel better now.

 

[Planogirl]

It's one thing to caution a parent when a child is doing something suddenly that the parent doesn't see. I can understand that. It's something else to criticize a parent for a difference in opinion about how to raise a child. Then it's time to MYOB.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I think that this thread demonstrates what anyone who has read this board already knew - there are lots of busy-bodies out there, and in here...

 

[NHdisneylover]

Yes people commonly and quite frequently ask the whereabouts of DD's father in places like swimteam and soccer and cheerleading and gymnastics. When I have explained our family situation I get quite the holier than thou response more than once.

Do you mind telling us how you explain your family situation to someone who asks where your DDs father is? I am wondering why sperm donor comes up even then Do people regularly press you for more information? I am truly curious here. I know the stock answer that friends used to have for any sort of prying along those lines was just to smile and say something along the lines of "Taylor doesn't have a dad--she got lucky and has two moms instead." Seemed to work well for them. Some of us friends knew the specifics of how they ended up with their daughter--(sperm donor and I knew who the bio mom was) just becuase stuff comes up in conversations just like I might talk about bein pregnant or my other friend talk about going to China to pick up her older daughter, etc. I am just wondering if your initial response or the vibe you are sending off is unintentionally making you seem like you are looking for an arument

 

[dogluva]

I get random strangers asking about my kids' fathers all the time. I have six with, yes believe it or not, with one husband and for some reason nobody assumes they have the same father. Or I get asked if I am a foster mother. People do not know when to keep their opinions and questions to themselves!

 

[testifyoncruises]

It's one thing to caution a parent when a child is doing something suddenly that the parent doesn't see. I can understand that. It's something else to criticize a parent for a difference in opinion about how to raise a child. Then it's time to MYOB.

The whole thread started because someone came up to our table in a restaurant to make a nasty comment about how irresponsible we were to let our six year old go to the bathroom on our own. She went on to list a range of what if's (some of which have been brought up in this thread) of what MIGHT happen.

We told her we do not live our life based on what if's and we all make calculated risks. Instead of telling her to MYOB we basically told her to go pound sand.

 

[Bluestars]

Again, I'm wondering why all these rude, nosy, offensive people pick you as their target. Never once has anyone asked where my sons' father was, unless they've already met him. And we've done the whole gamut of sports and lessons.

Me too. I have taken my kids to all kinds of lesson and not once did anyone ask my about their father. Not one single time. How very odd that strange things seem to happen to certain people. I live in the bible belt too. Maybe it's just the part that isn't nosy.

 

[Bluestars]

I get random strangers asking about my kids' fathers all the time. I have six with, yes believe it or not, with one husband and for some reason nobody assumes they have the same father. Or I get asked if I am a foster mother. People do not know when to keep their opinions and questions to themselves!

That's so rude. I guess with 6 kids, it brings out the rudeness. I have six brother and sisters and my mother probably got some comments too. The OP only has one child, so it's just kind of strange that anyone would comment. But there are plenty of rude and intrusive people out there.

 

[AustinTink]

You know, for someone who was offended that someone else criticized your choices, you seem just as critical of others' choices.

That sounds like a good ending for this thread. Live and let live.