When somebody else is treating, what do you do?

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Is the co worker also going to eat the pizza but wants a salad as well? Does she think that ordering a side of lettuce negates the pizza's negative effects? Or is she foregoing the pizza for a healthier option?

I know around my part of the world, an extra topping on a pizza can be just as expensive as ordering a side salad. Personally, a regular pizza doesn't fit into my nutritional wants or needs so I would just ignore the request for toppings. I feel that by this point in my life, pretty much everyone knows that I'm a vegan and if they don't offer an alternative, I'm certainly not going to ask and will continue, as always, to take care of my own meals.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

If I were that person I would have politely declined the offer of pizza. I would not have asked for something beyond what had been offered as I feel that is very disrespectful to put the boss in that situation of having to purchase something in addition to the pizza.
I would have simply had what I intended to have for lunch that day unless of course the boss then asked if there was something else I'd like.

 

[ronandannette]

If it were me, I would tell the boss thanks for the offer but with my current health issues I am only eating salad for lunch these days. The boss would then have the option of offering to order a salad for that person or the person could get their own lunch. Whether the person was rude or not really depends on how they approached the boss and if the boss was aware of the health situation.

Good post. If I was the boss and was treating, of course I'd want all the staff members to enjoy the lunch. Nowadays people have so many dietary things going on (of necessity or by choice) that it shouldn't come as a shock for somebody to ask for a salad. And if it really was a problem, the boss could have just said no.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

To clarify since, being the dis, theories have abound.

1. Coworker: no dietary restrictions whatsoever. She found out she has stage zero non invasive ductal carcinoma - basically calcification that could or could not be breast cancer in her milk ducts that hasn't spread and probably wont. She's freaking out and talking to a holistic healer who convinced her that for the low price of $30,000 she, too, can be cured without medical intervention by eating a vegan, raw diet. As of our water/coffee run this morning, she hadn't yet decided what road to take.

2. All of us: the person with the least seniority is 5 years. This wasn't a formal lunch.....as always before a holiday, HR sent an email this morning to wrap up at 2 today and get a head start on the holidays. This is a busy time for us, and my boss knew we'd all be working through lunch so she offered pizza. Sometimes its JJ, but we didnt have time to put an order together. So pizza it was today. She knows there are no dietary restrictions with any of us so this wasn't an issue. The biggest issue is that we all pretty much like everything so getting us to respond with more than a "doesn't matter to me" in regard to toppings is the biggest problem.

3. My office as a whole, when offering lunch, caters. We have about 150 people in my office, and we are one of many US sattelite locations. Our admins set it all up. They rarely serve us pizza when we do a formal lunch. This was just the 8 of us who were there and not working from home today, at the last minute.

4. My boss is very caring and attuned to people. When we did have a vegetarian (4 years ago) she always made sure to ask what he wanted. She was unaware that coworker, whom I love to death but IS slightly flighty, wasn't eating pizza. Once she knew, she ordered the salad. She wants us all to be happy...she's such a mom to us!

The point is, we didn't expect the lunch and had our original plans in place until 10am. Im.not the kind of person who would ask for more than what a person offers. But I have issues lol, so I was just curious as to other people's thoughts. It doesn't have anything to do with dietary restrictions at all.

 

[Hrhpd]

Ok, food and drinks are covered, who is going to demand, I mean ask for some nice desserts?

Woah, Woah, Woah. Not quite covered yet I prefer the little Mexican restaurant on the other side of town. I would also like top shelf tequila for my accompanying margarita. Surely the boss would have to take my dietary preferences (not necessity) into account?

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

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[AnnaFloridaLover]

To clarify since, being the dis, theories have abound.

1. Coworker: no dietary restrictions whatsoever. She found out she has stage zero non invasive ductal carcinoma - basically calcification that could or could not be breast cancer in her milk ducts that hasn't spread and probably wont. She's freaking out and talking to a holistic healer who convinced her that for the low price of $30,000 she, too, can be cured without medical intervention by eating a vegan, raw diet. As of our water/coffee run this morning, she hadn't yet decided what road to take.

2. All of us: the person with the least seniority is 5 years. This wasn't a formal lunch.....as always before a holiday, HR sent an email this morning to wrap up at 2 today and get a head start on the holidays. This is a busy time for us, and my boss knew we'd all be working through lunch so she offered pizza. Sometimes its JJ, but we didnt have time to put an order together. So pizza it was today. She knows there are no dietary restrictions with any of us so this wasn't an issue. The biggest issue is that we all pretty much like everything so getting us to respond with more than a "doesn't matter to me" in regard to toppings is the biggest problem.

3. My office as a whole, when offering lunch, caters. We have about 150 people in my office, and we are one of many US sattelite locations. Our admins set it all up. They rarely serve us pizza when we do a formal lunch. This was just the 8 of us who were there and not working from home today, at the last minute.

4. My boss is very caring and attuned to people. When we did have a vegetarian (4 years ago) she always made sure to ask what he wanted. She was unaware that coworker, whom I love to death but IS slightly flighty, wasn't eating pizza. Once she knew, she ordered the salad. She wants us all to be happy...she's such a mom to us!

The point is, we didn't expect the lunch and had our original plans in place until 10am. Im.not the kind of person who would ask for more than what a person offers. But I have issues lol, so I was just curious as to other people's thoughts. It doesn't have anything to do with dietary restrictions at all.

So based on what you just said, for the love of all that is good, give the poor woman a salad. I seriously do not understand the offensiveness of asking based on her current health concerns. Sounds extremely judgemental to me.

 

[mom2rtk]

I put this in the category of "no good deed goes unpunished".

Enjoy your pizza, OP.

I bet the it's a long time before the boss asks again.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

I put this in the category of "no good deed goes unpunished".

Enjoy your pizza, OP.

I bet the it's a long time before the boss asks again.

Just because someone asked for a salad? Sounds extreme.

 

[SMD]

To clarify since, being the dis, theories have abound.

1. Coworker: no dietary restrictions whatsoever. She found out she has stage zero non invasive ductal carcinoma - basically calcification that could or could not be breast cancer in her milk ducts that hasn't spread and probably wont. She's freaking out and talking to a holistic healer who convinced her that for the low price of $30,000 she, too, can be cured without medical intervention by eating a vegan, raw diet. As of our water/coffee run this morning, she hadn't yet decided what road to take.

2. All of us: the person with the least seniority is 5 years. This wasn't a formal lunch.....as always before a holiday, HR sent an email this morning to wrap up at 2 today and get a head start on the holidays. This is a busy time for us, and my boss knew we'd all be working through lunch so she offered pizza. Sometimes its JJ, but we didnt have time to put an order together. So pizza it was today. She knows there are no dietary restrictions with any of us so this wasn't an issue. The biggest issue is that we all pretty much like everything so getting us to respond with more than a "doesn't matter to me" in regard to toppings is the biggest problem.

3. My office as a whole, when offering lunch, caters. We have about 150 people in my office, and we are one of many US sattelite locations. Our admins set it all up. They rarely serve us pizza when we do a formal lunch. This was just the 8 of us who were there and not working from home today, at the last minute.

4. My boss is very caring and attuned to people. When we did have a vegetarian (4 years ago) she always made sure to ask what he wanted. She was unaware that coworker, whom I love to death but IS slightly flighty, wasn't eating pizza. Once she knew, she ordered the salad. She wants us all to be happy...she's such a mom to us!

The point is, we didn't expect the lunch and had our original plans in place until 10am. Im.not the kind of person who would ask for more than what a person offers. But I have issues lol, so I was just curious as to other people's thoughts. It doesn't have anything to do with dietary restrictions at all.

If she's on a vegan/raw diet, even if it's a choice, and even if it's a choice based on some crackpot theory, it's still a dietary restriction. And if the point of the pizza was to keep everyone working through lunch, then no, it wasn't rude to ask for a salad.

 

[RedAngie]

At worst, it was a minor faux pas to ask for a salad.

 

[mom2rtk]

Just because someone asked for a salad? Sounds extreme.

If he orders something different off the menu for one person, he needs to do that for everyone else who asks. I'm guessing he offered pizza because it's a cheap way to feed a lot of people. If there was a pizza invite and I couldn't or didn't want to eat pizza, I would pass or buy my own salad.

 

[manning]

Don't you like it when a person plays doctor on them self?

 

[Sadie22]

I'm all for supporting better nutrition for food delivered to an office for any occasion. Where I worked there were plenty of doughnuts, bagels, pastries offered often. It was really hard for those who needed to eat little of those things to avoid them. I'm glad when someone speaks up about offering choices.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Don't you like it when a person plays doctor on them self?

As far as I know, people can still decide what goes into their own bodies based on whatever medical or holistic or any other theoretical decision they so choose.

 

[manning]

As far as I know, people can still decide what goes into their own bodies based on whatever medical or holistic or any other theoretical decision they so choose.

Your right but not the wisest thing to do health wise.

 

[Queen of the WDW Scene]

Some people have become rather heated in this thread.
Just an observation.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Your right but not the wisest thing to do health wise.

If you say so.

 

[Disneylover99]

Regardless of reason....it's rude to ask for something different.
Everyone had their own lunch to eat anyways.

 

[lancermom]

To clarify since, being the dis, theories have abound.

1. Coworker: no dietary restrictions whatsoever. She found out she has stage zero non invasive ductal carcinoma - basically calcification that could or could not be breast cancer in her milk ducts that hasn't spread and probably wont. She's freaking out and talking to a holistic healer who convinced her that for the low price of $30,000 she, too, can be cured without medical intervention by eating a vegan, raw diet. As of our water/coffee run this morning, she hadn't yet decided what road to take.

2. All of us: the person with the least seniority is 5 years. This wasn't a formal lunch.....as always before a holiday, HR sent an email this morning to wrap up at 2 today and get a head start on the holidays. This is a busy time for us, and my boss knew we'd all be working through lunch so she offered pizza. Sometimes its JJ, but we didnt have time to put an order together. So pizza it was today. She knows there are no dietary restrictions with any of us so this wasn't an issue. The biggest issue is that we all pretty much like everything so getting us to respond with more than a "doesn't matter to me" in regard to toppings is the biggest problem.

3. My office as a whole, when offering lunch, caters. We have about 150 people in my office, and we are one of many US sattelite locations. Our admins set it all up. They rarely serve us pizza when we do a formal lunch. This was just the 8 of us who were there and not working from home today, at the last minute.

4. My boss is very caring and attuned to people. When we did have a vegetarian (4 years ago) she always made sure to ask what he wanted. She was unaware that coworker, whom I love to death but IS slightly flighty, wasn't eating pizza. Once she knew, she ordered the salad. She wants us all to be happy...she's such a mom to us!

The point is, we didn't expect the lunch and had our original plans in place until 10am. Im.not the kind of person who would ask for more than what a person offers. But I have issues lol, so I was just curious as to other people's thoughts. It doesn't have anything to do with dietary restrictions at all.

If my boss ordered pizza and someone for whatever reason asked if they could get a salad instead, I wouldn't have batted an eye. No one in my small office of 5 would have. We wouldn't have given it a second thought. Our boss has her own food allergies and whatnot that we look out for, so she would extend the same courtesy to others without making the judgement on whether or not the reason for wanting that salad was valid enough. If it were a formal catered event and someone was asking for something different, it would be a different story. But for pizza? Not even an issue.