When did your girls start dating?

[Skatermom23]

I have a DD13 and a DS 15 and I don't really have a problem with them dating. DS has had a DGF for about a year now, who is 14. She comes over here a lot since I am a SAHM. They hang out in the basement and watch movies etc. I monitor them but don't hover over them either. She goes with us to the movies and DS goes to her house, just not as often. I keep the lines of communication open and they both know what I expect and in turn I am not niave enough to think that nothing is happening. At some point I have to trust that I have given the kids a few morals and trust them. At least until I have reason not to.

 

[grlpwrd]

I am freaking out thinking about this, and my girls are only 5 and 6.

DH and I got together when I was 13, and we were doing some pretty serious stuff when I was 14 - even though we just hung out together and did things with our parents. We were pretty resourceful. So don't think just because these kids aren't going out on dates, that they are not physically involved with their boyfriends.

Denae

Good point, but I trust my dd. They kiss, hold hands, and touch each other I am sure , but she knows her boundaries.

I went to Catholic middle school and a Protestant high school so I know how it is ... I am not naive.

I agree with Skatermom23... "I have to trust that I have given the kids a few morals and trust them. At least until I have reason not to."

 

[schnerk]

If I had a daughter she'd be locked up in a tower and a chastity belt with the keys to be released upon my death. Cause I know every little horndawg that showed up would have the same thing on his mind that I did then (and now)...

Thank you! My dd's are 1 and 3 now, and yet I still stay up nights watching... waiting... LOL!!!

Seriously, am I weird for worrying about this?

 

[schnerk]

I am freaking out thinking about this, and my girls are only 5 and 6.

Denae

Just saw this one. Thank goodness I am not the only pre-worrier... LOL

My daughter already knows the rules...

No Kissing untill college! LOL!

 

[CraftyMouse]

For myself (and the same rules will be inforce for DD) I had to be 16 to go on an unchaparoned date with a guy. My dad wanted me to be able to drive just in case. Boys could call untill 9pm, I could be at the mall, movies, etc with a parent hanging around but that was about it. Why rush it, at the time it was killing me but you have the rest of your life wait untill you are 16 and take your time.

This is so true. We just found out that one of DD14's friends recently lost her virginity...and after knowing the boy for only 4 months. It made me sad for days. This girl was very close to DD at one time. She, unfortunately, started hanging out with a more "adventurous" crowd and is in just such a rush to grow up. Teens think that they know it all and that parents are clueless. They just don't realize how much of the world they are oblivious to at that age.