Honestly, though, most people don't really care about your answer--especially aquaintances or business associates.
I agree. It's the strangest thing...asking such a deeply personal question, when they don't really care.
Of course if it's someone who would get grandkids from you having kids, then it's tinged with selfishness...THEY want grandkids, and they want to know when it'll happen.
We weren't even *married* when we got the questions. Sat with my dad and stepmom at the rehearsal dinner and my stepmom got way way too personal, even asking "well, are you using protection???" when my answer was vague (didn't want to get into the reality that due to the absolute wish to NOT have a surprise pg which would cause me to not fit into my gown, there was nothing goin' on that could have created a baby for a year).
And then we ended up with a wedding night baby...talk about letting people have a peek into your personal business!
However, no one asks us anymore. I guess my natural stony face helps out with not getting personal questions. Some friends assume we're not going for more, and think they know why, but their reasoning is wrong b/c their understanding of me is wrong, and since we've been trying since DS was 9 months old, they are just totally wrong.
We've recently found out at least one reason, and it's that DH has a prolactinoma, which means that, hormonally, he's a nursing woman. And it's a problem that has been ongoing (the symptoms he has felt) for probably 3 years now, ad it was only FORCING an endocrinologist to check for hormone levels that we found out...he's had these symptoms for at least 3 years, including a cyst in his chest tissue, and it's been ignored, especially when they find out how old I am...they've just wanted to put our fertility problems down to my age, even though I cycle beautifully.
Adding to all of that...we haven't yet reached any stage where we think we'll want to intervent with IUIs or anything like that, which very few people understand...and if we give our personal reasons for it, people who DO go those routes take it way too personally (they shoudln't at all)...
It's best that people don't ask anymore.
So just create a persona that doesn't take personal questions well. And it IS personal. It's asking "when are you going to have unprotected sex". That is the question being asked. So either respond as though they asked that, or give them WAY too much info so they REGRET asking it.
Wish I'd done that with my stepmom!