The boat was easier but you need to ride the monorail
at least once. Seems like that had to put a special ramp
down on one leg of teh trip.
I agree that riding the monorail once is really great. If you travel to Epcot from a monorail resort, you will be riding the monorail too.
There is a gap between the floor of the monorail station and the monorail car. They have portable ramps at each station they can put down to bridge the gap. You may not always need the ramp (the gap may be small enough to just drive over it with the wheelchair).
Should most of us get in the line and one or two of us stay with mom? What is the polite thing to do?
You should all stay together. Bus drivers often will tell your whole party to board at the rear of the bus after the wheelchair is on. You want to all board together so you don't risk leaving part of your party at the bus stop if there are too many people. If there are limited seats, our family feels that it is polite to have the members of our party who can stand do that.
I am thinking it would be handy to have a bag to hang off the back of her wheel chair to put our misc. kid stuff in. Do they sell bags for that
purpose? Any recommendations?
A regular backpack works very well for that purpose (plus it's inexpensive, easy to find in stores and easy to carry around if you want it off the wheelchair for a while).
With regard to parades, are there special wheel chair viewing areas? Will that work for us with 8 people or are we better just pulling up curbside and all sitting around the wheel chair?
The wheelchair viewing areas are marked on the park maps. For the afternoon parades, they may be right in the sun, so watch out for that. They are often quite busy and fill up fast, so they may limit you to the person in the wheelchair plus one other. At MK, our favorite spot is on the porch in front of the Town Square Exibition Hall (the same buidling as Tony's Restaurant). It's a raised porch, so you can see over the heads of the people who are standing on the curb and there are a few rocking chairs if you get there ear;y. There is a ramp to get up to the porch at the end of the building closest to the railroad station.
Another question, I am hoping that Mom is strong enough so that when we get to a ride, we "park" the wheel chair and our strollers and she will stand in line with the rest of us.
Since she is weak, I'd suggest she conserve her strength for enjoying the park as much as possible and not use it waiting in line. She is also likely to all of a sudden feel tired or just push herself past the point where she should rest so she doesn't keep anyone else from having fun.
I understand that they have made the line areas wider now for wheel chairs
Those are called Mainstream lines and
this link to the DIS page about touring WDW with mobility disabilities will tell you which lines are Mainstream.
-- but what happens to her chair once we get on the ride? Does it magically appear at the place where you exit the ride?
For rides where wheelchair users board at the regular entrance, the CMs will move the wheelchair to the exit and it should be waiting for you when you get off. For some rides, the best place for wheelchair users to board is the exit. For those, you will wait in line, but before boarding, you will be routed to the exit. The wheelchair will be waiting right where you left it.
Here's a link to a thread about ride boarding.
Finally, any other words of advice for us?
The biggest advie is to go and enjoy yourselves. If she gets tired and needs to rest a little while (but doesn't want to leave the park), First Aid is great. The CMs there are wonderful and there are private cot areas where she could lie down for a while in a coll, dim place.
This website has a lot of helpful information. It also has links to download the Guidebook for Guests with Disabilities for each park. They don't tell a lot, but do have general information about whether a ride is a rough thrill ride or a gentle boat ride. Another piece of information that would be useful for you is the length of each ride/attraction. That might help with planning. There is also good information about Guest Assistance Cards (GAC) which is a way to let CMs know if you need more assitance that what they would normally give a person in a wheelchair. For example, you don't need a GAC to access the wheelchair entances if you have a wheelchair, but your mom may have some issues with waiting in the sun or heat.
Finally, here's some pixie dust for a great trip.