What would you do?

[VanessainWonderland]

I am one of 3, and no matter how much I didn't LOVE Disney, I would still be hurt if my mom chose one over the other, no matter what it was for.

I wouldn't have even said anything to any of the kids about Disney and told them you would be away for a little bit.
No biggie.

I think parents need to have their own separate time sometimes, and the kids will soon forget that you were even gone.

 

[VanessainWonderland]

You should totally go. I am sure you work very hard as a mom to 3 boys. Enjoy having your mom.

 

[MomtoAlexnWilliam]

Well, my mom just called. We talked about it.

I'm not going to go. Not this time. Although it would be wonderful. I just can't see doing it. My boys would be heartbroken, and honestly it wouldn't be the same without them with me. They bring the magic of Disney out.

Thank you everyone for your input.

I think you made the best decision! You know your heart and how your kids would react.

 

[1-disneyfan]

I'm sure you would have had a wonderful Mother Daughter time. But, only you know what is right for your family

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

The more I think about it, the more I am more keen on it being just myself. IF (that's a big if) I do go.

You're right. I can't take just one. My oldest doesn't mind, but my middle son, it would break his heart and I can't do that to him. It would kill me.

It would be a nice time to spend with your mom. We don't get to keep them forever.

 

[diamondpixienc]

I don't think I would have the guts to leave my kiddos either. I would feel so bad that they were not there to enjoy Disney at Christmas time w/ me :guilty But on the other hand, it would be an opportunity to have some alone time just you & your mom Oh this is a hard one

 

[Sgt Mickey]

I totally see why are not going. BUT you should of went with just your mom. I don't see the harm in bringing one child IF you either plan through the year a time to bring the other one OR some other fabulous something to make it UP to them.

 

[adoptionmomma4]

I know you already made your decision but I wanted to add my thoughts.

I just returned from mother daughter trip to DW with my youngest DD. While it was hard on me to leave the other kids it was soooo good for the two of us. We had the best time. When I addressed it with my older kids they were all fine with it. They have all been to Disney many times and honestly didn’t want to go.

While I was away dad took them to do fun things we can not do with the little on in tow. They went to kings Island and rode roller coasters, ate tons of junk and got fake flesh wounds They did things I would never let them do. They also went bowling, putt-putting, to the movies, haunted houses and many other fun things. Dads are so much different than most moms. My kids had a blast without me and were quick to tell me so. One evening on the phone my 8 year-old told me "I miss you, but you can stay a little longer if you want too!" They really enjoyed their time with dad. On a side note, I have also done sole Disney trips with my older daughter for cheer comps the last 3 years and my husband takes the boys individually for father son outings. The boys are also planning solo trips to universal for the spring.

I guess what I am trying to say is... Don't feel bad for not taking all of your kids someplace. It is very important to have one on one time with each of your kids. Could you plan something individually for all of them throughout the year? Maybe this would make it easier for the other boys. This would be such sweet time for you, your youngest son and your mom. Don't feel bad about it.

I will add that if any of my kids had said they didn’t want me to go I would have skipped our trip. Luckily my kids were excited for Katie and didn’t mind at all. They really had a great time with dad. I have heard rumor that that the only thing my hubby cooked was a frozen pizza while I was gone, so the kids were really partying it up

 

[mjkacmom]

Your boys are 9 and 10 - they're old enough to understand that you can't afford to take them right now, but their grandmother has an extra ticket, and wants use it to take you to WDW. I hope that, after they thought it over, they would want you to go, instead of staying home. In your OP, you state that you hope that they'll "let" you go. They don't have to "let" you. You also mention that you rarely spend any time without them. DH and I have travelled without our children, go out in the evening without our children - they've had sitters (both family and paid) since they were babies. If I told them that I had the opportunity to go to WDW without them, they'd say "lucky you," and "have a great time."

I think they would feel guilty having me miss a great vacation with MY mom because they wouldn't "let" me go.

 

[lemondog]

I think you either have to go by yourself or take all of your kids. There is no way I could choose one kid over 2 others. My kids would be so hurt if I choose to take only one of them to Disney.

Ditto. Completely unfair to the kids left behind and I would never do it. I would go alone and enjoy the special time with your mom!

 

[wdwfan16]

I see that you are not going. That is the best way.

 

[my3sons77]

Another decision has been made. I am going alone to spend the time with my mom. Just the two of us (and her husband)

I am leaving all 3 boys with my husband. I am sure he will do some fun things with them.

My mom called and woke me up this morning at the crack of dawn to tell me not to worry about food, she'll pay for my meals. All I need to do is get down there. LOL I'm bringing food money anyways. She's crazy.

All in all I am very excited about my mom/daughter only trip. this is going to be GREAT!!

If things work out for us financially next year, we'll be booking a trip next year during the Christmas season for all of us, so the boys will get their trip too

Thank you all again for your decisions on what you would do in this situation. For those that lost their mothers recently, I am sorry. You are what changed my mind about going. I really do need this one on one time with her. Just the two of us. The pictures and memories will last me a lifetime.

 

[ireland_nicole]

I'm so glad you decided to go. This is going to be a very special trip for you and your mom. If her husband doesn't mind, maybe try to schedule a little girl outing like tea at the GF, something not too long, but "girly". Have a great trip! I'm sure the boys will love having some "man" time with dad, too!

 

[my3sons77]

Hmmmmm you are on to something there ireland_nicole I may just have to plan something special to surprise her

 

[m&amom]

I think you will have a great time OP maybe try to pick your little ones up something to use on your future trip to ease your mommy quilt a little.

 

[DisneyBoundinDec]

after reading all the back and forth I am so glad you decided to go!
You are going to have a blast! You and your mom both deserve this!

 

[JUJU814]

So glad you decided to go alone with your mom! I think that is wonderful and you will have a wonderful time. I think it's the best decision.

There's nothing wrong with going to Disney world without your kids. They'll survive. Please don't let anyone make you feel guilty. You'll have a great time with your mom. I'd go to Disney without the kids in a skinny minute!

Enjoy!!!!

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

Oh, I'm *so* glad you're going! I just came back to see an update, saw you weren't going, and I wasn't going to say anything...but I'm really, really happy that you changed your mind, LOL! Being in the "sandwich" generation is hard -- I think it's natural to put our kiddos first -- but spending time with our parents now is so important, too. Hope you have a FABULOUS time!

 

[MiniGirl]

Oh, I'm *so* glad you're going! I just came back to see an update, saw you weren't going, and I wasn't going to say anything...but I'm really, really happy that you changed your mind, LOL! Being in the "sandwich" generation is hard -- I think it's natural to put our kiddos first -- but spending time with our parents now is so important, too. Hope you have a FABULOUS time!

LOL!!! I was going to say this, too. As someone who no longer has her mother, I think this will be a very special time. Also, I understand children brings their own special "magic" to WDW, but it is a WONDERFUL place to go without children as well. It really isn't any less magical. It still is -- just in a different way.

 

[bjakmom]

Oh, I'm so glad you're going with your mom!! Enjoy every minute!