What would you do?

[DansBride2009]

Hey everyone !

I have interesting news. My cousin, who was supposed to be the matron of honor in my wedding, is pregnant and due a week or so after the wedding. Which we're all excited for her, of course, but she won't be able to travel during that time period.

She is the only one that was going to stand up for me in my wedding, as I wanted a really small wedding party.

Would it be weird looking if just my fiance had a best man and I didn't have anyone? I just don't want to go through the drama of having another maid of honor or bridesmaid.

I really prefer no one as attendants, but what would you guys do? I'm so happy to have another cousin on the way but I'm bummed because now I don't have anyone standing for me. As it is, my family is going to be with her and might not be able to attend the wedding, as it's all happening around the same time frame.

We have a 12 year old whose parents are good, good friends of our family and I was considering asking her, as I know she would be so excited to be in it, but my heart's just not in it. I don't want her to feel like I asked her as 'second best', does that make sense?

I don't know what to do. I would appreciate opinions. I can't move the wedding because we've already signed the contract for the place. Thanks !

 

[Bride-to-be]

GGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR is really the best I have to say. Disney won't make an exception and let you change the date??? That seems very unfair. I know rules are rules - but I think they are there to be broken.

Personally I would want one bridesmaid to be there. Lots of things to consider - Who would hold your bouqet? But at the same time if you have someone there who you aren't really really good friends with then it might be awkward to have them be in a lot of your pictures.

I wish I had more experience to share with you. Good luck - keep us posted on your decision.

 

[DansBride2009]

Bride-to-be thank you for your input ...

I actually haven't asked Disney about changing the date because it all just happened today. Everyone already is booked for the date and I'd hate to be a pain and move it. Plus, I just want that date LOL. For no specific reason, it just seems to be the 'right' date.

That does make sense to have SOMEONE there as a bridesmaid. This little girl and I are really good buddies and her family has been there for mine for a lot of things in life, and it wouldn't be such a bad thing. I know her brother really wants to be the ring bearer lol but I'm afraid he'd lose the rings or swallow them or something; he's my buddy too but quite a character.

Maybe I'll ask her. It just seemed the age difference to be odd to me I guess.

And you are right; GRRRRRR is the exact sentiment I've felt today lol. I know she couldn't help getting pregnant and I'm super excited for her, but GRRRRRRR ... Lol.

Thanks for posting. I appreciate it. :-D

 

[Bride-to-be]

I have been to weddings before where they have given the ring bearers a pillow with fake rings - just for that reason. I never really understood why. I feel like if you hold on to them and tie them to a pillow - give him the pillow right as he starts to walk down the isle - a hundred eyes will be on him so hopefully nothing too bad would happen.

If you guys are close then def ask her! When I was little all of my friends got to be flower girls and I was never even invited to a wedding until I was in high school. I always felt very left out. I am sure that she would never ever feel as though she was second best and she would just be super super excited to be a part of it - especially if she gets to wear a fancy dress and be an intregal part of the day!

So def ask her and consider the ring bearer - even if you have to use fake rings.

 

[DansBride2009]

Aww ... thanks Bride - to - be ... yours is the best advice I've gotten all day.

I will probably just go for it and ask them ... I know they'd be excited no matter what.

Maybe with the eyes on him he'd make sure to keep the rings safe, lol !! He's a great little kid ... he just did things like flood the house when he was 6 ... swallow a penny when he was 3 ... lol ... he's 10 now but you never know ... 10 year olds can be a mess haha ...

Thanks again, I appreciate your advice a lot.

 

[lurkyloo]

I think that you shouldn't have to have an attendant if you don't really want one. Somebody in the front row can hold your bouquet if that's the only hitch.

 

[CharacterFan]

If you don't want anyone else, you don't have to have someone. Bridal parties don't have to be balanced and if you have programs you can still list your cousin

 

[dakcp2001]

I think you should not make any sudden decisions, think it over for a couple of weeks and I am sure you will be able to make a decision then.

I am not having an attendent, if I need to ask someone in the front row to hold my flowers, then I will. Maybe Ill have my mom hold them

Just dont make any sudden decisions, think it over!

 

[DansBride2009]

Thanks everyone ! Your posts brightened my day.

I may just have my mom hold my boquet(sp?) for me then. I'm glad it's ok to have an uneven wedding party; that was just an odd concern.

I'm still not sure what to do ... but I'm glad to know it's 'ok' if I don't have an attendant.

Thanks again ! I'm glad to hear from ya'll. :-D

 

[Skylarr29]

I don't think you need even bridal parties.

Also, if you were interested in changing your date, you can. I had to move my wedding up by a few months and had no trouble at all. I also changed locations a bazillion times.

GL