What would you do? Stay at parent's vacation house or stay at Disney resort...

[Planogirl]

I might stay at the house for just a night or two. I'd do it for your Dad but I wouldn't go beyond that.

 

[MomToOne]

How about staying at a hotel, but planning a "sleep over" at your parent's place one or two nights? That will let the everyone have fun together for a night, but you will be able to take comfort in the knowledge that you get to leave in the morning if it gets bad. And somehow calling it a sleepover puts a more fun spin on it. If there is a DVD player in the house, bring some silly movies (I'd go with 80s/90s teen "coming of age" flicks - think Breakfast Club), some popcorn and other junk, and order a pizza...

 

[momof1princess]

OP, as with most of the PPs, i was going to post and say "stay with your parents the first 3 nights, then move over to BWV with your DH and kids". HOWEVER, after reading your post about your sister's behavior, and the fact that she's been violent toward your DD in the past, personally, i wouldn't risk it. i know, it's penalizing the grandparents, but, they choose to let your sister live with them, and, from what you've posted, it seems as if she may be unmedicated; so, that is their choice (and i certainly don't blame them for being there for their daughter, but, decisions like that always have trade-offs). my mother is VERY mentally ill, and i have had to distance myself from her, for the sake of my family, so i have a little bit of a clue about what you're going through. there is NO WAY i'd put my DD in harm's way, even if it does hurt my mother's feelings (she chooses to be unmedicated and refuses to get any sort of help), and i certainly wouldn't blame you if you chose to stay elsewhere.

 

[disykat]

Even before I read your updates, I was going to say stay in the hotel. I'm all for anything that can help your vacation go smoothly and keep things peaceful in the family. While feelings can get hurt if you stay elsewhere, just think of what might transpire if you stayed there. If the possibilities are bad, then staying elsewhere is keeping the peace!

 

[sarah4770]

If it were me, I would stay with my parents the first three nights. I have worked with bipolar people who are unpredictable (not saying that bipolar people cannot control their impulses) so I can appreciate what you feel. Not to throw a wrench into your plans, but if sister gets out of hand, that's on her, not you. But I guess we all have to deal with reality. My vote is to stay with parents, but put up with no nonsense and have a backup plan, and then when hubby comes, stay at BW as planned. Good Luck OP, I really do feel for you.
Editing to say that I have seen families in this situation to be the most understanding and loving people I have ever met.

 

[eliza61]

Get a room. Not because of the space issue but because of your sister.

Why in heavens name would you want all that drama? You say she threw some thing at your kid, well there you go. done deal.

 

[Angie789]

There is a pretty radical difference between a sister that can sometimes be challenging to be around vs. a sister that has tried to harm your child. I get that you didn't want to reveal too many family details in your OP, but given the history - I am having a hard time understanding why this is even a question at all? Someone tries to hurt my kid? We're done, family or not.

If you want to try to work on your relationship with your sister, that's your call, but don't drag your kids into it.

 

[nhmommy]

I would stay with your parents the first 2 nights then check into the disney hotel for night 3 so that will be all set for when your husband arrives if things get bad with your sister or you cant stand being at your parents you can always get a hotel off site last min for little money especially if you use a room savers discount.

 

[pocomom]

Given the situation I think you know the answer is to not stay with your folks. Perhaps you can make a point of planning some one on one time with them the next trip, but at this point safety for you and your kids has to come first.
If it weren't for the situation with your DS I would be the first to say stay with them. The kids would enjoy the chaos of the other kids around and it is only three days... but saftey is paramount.

 

[ssawka]

Personally, I would go the hotel route, although I would probably stay off-site and rent a car so you can "visit" your parents' house if you want to. I have no idea how your family is, but a whole week with my family would be anything but a vacation. Also if your family is like mine, this is a "no win" situation. If I were to stay with my family, it is a given that at least one argument would ensue. However if I stayed in a hotel, I would be accused of thinking I was too good to stay with them. This is exactly why I avoid most contact with my family.

 

[dcfromva]

... As I am torn between creating family memories and personal safety lol. I didn't really give any details about my sister because well this is a public thread. But she can be quite violent and destructive..... Anyway, the last time we all went to Florida at my parent's house, she flipped out on me and threw a heavy object at my dd's head who was only 1 years old at that time....

Under normal circumstances I would have voted for separate accomodations because I like to have my personal space. But, given these details there would be no way I would consider bringing the kids into that situation.

Yet, apart of me doesn't want to stay with them and another part feels guilty because I want my kids to spend time with their grandparents. We all live 30 minutes away from each other but I rarely get to see them because of my sister....

If you rarely see them because of your sister when you are 30 mins away, why would you put yourself and your kids together with her in a 24/7 situation away from home?

 

[HM]

I'd stay at the house with everyone else. It's only three nights. We just had a trip to a house at the beach with five bedrooms and four baths with 15 people of varying ages and it worked just fine. I think the point of them asking all of you is so that you can all be together. And then the rest of your vacation will be unwinding with just your immediate family on property.

 

[kkandaj]

Get a room. Not because of the space issue but because of your sister.

Why in heavens name would you want all that drama? You say she threw some thing at your kid, well there you go. done deal.

I agree completely. If it wasn't for this, I would say to try it. Once you mentioned her feelings towards your family and her throwing something at your child, everything changed. They couldn't pay me to stay there. And in my opinion, your parents shouldn't even question why you don't want to. Hopefully they don't try to make you feel guilty about your choice. Your main concern as a mother is the safety of your children.