What would you do? (not disney related)

[l_mccafferty]

Ok so every year I spend Hogmanay (31st) with my parents because my mum's birthday's the 1st and she feel kinda put out that people don't acknowledge her birthday or that she couldn't have parties on her birthday.
I've been with DBF over 3 years and we still incorporate my parents into the plans.

This year I had seen a few deals for hotels etc for Hogmanay celebrations but could only get 4 tickets. My younger sister (18) has been going out with her boyfriend for 6 months (I've still not met him, we think he doesn't want to meet me, probably because I don't take any rubbish from anyone!). We said that this year we'd all either come to mines or go to my mum and dads.
Today I phoned my parents and was told that my sister and her boyfriend were going out for Hogmanay.
Now, I'm angry for a few reasons:
A) I could have had 4 tickets for me, DBF, mum and dad. Now can't get these (already had 2)
B) My mum was soooo blase about it, if it was me, i'd have been chewed out about it
C) I'm wondering her boyfriends bought tickets because he doesn't want to meet me. (Btw, I'm not paranoid about this, the boy runs if he spots me, ducks down in the car and changes plans)

Edited to add: This was agreed by all 6 people. We had suggestions of staying in, going out for a meal, going out to a hotel for meals and drinks. Everyone bar me wanted to stay in (cheaper for drinks, comfier). I went with the majority as we had agreed beforehand to do this.

I'm now stuck on what to do....
Any ideas, advice?
TIA

 

[joolz1910]

Let it go. Ask your DBF what he would like to do and see if he still wants to include your parents in your Hogmanay plans next year. If he does, why not ask everyone in advance what their plans are? Perhaps if everyone was included in the planning stages, then everyone would be happy. It sounds like you are trying to organise Hogmanay for 6 people without really consulting them.

 

[l_mccafferty]

I'm not organising anything without asking anyone, all 6 of us agreed that this year we'd spend at either mines or my mum and dads. A quiet one. I wasn't the one who suggested this, I suggested that we all go out and I had tickets for a nice meal and drinks in a hotel which I gave up when we agreed that it'd be a quiet one.

Then 3 days before, they change their mind. None of the rest of us can get tickets for anywhere now.

 

[joolz1910]

I'm not organising anything without asking anyone, all 6 of us agreed that this year we'd spend at either mines or my mum and dads. A quiet one. I wasn't the one who suggested this, I suggested that we all go out and I had tickets for a nice meal and drinks in a hotel which I gave up when we agreed that it'd be a quiet one.

Then 3 days before, they change their mind. None of the rest of us can get tickets for anywhere now.

In that case, I would start planning for you and your dbf. If people let you down at the last minute, I wouldn't include them in my plans next time. You should do your own thing. I hope you get something nice sorted.

 

[Ware Bears]

Sorry if I'm missing the point here but surely you and your DBF can still spend a quiet evening in with your parents? It's a shame that your sister and her BF won't be there but the four of you can still have the evening in that you've arranged, even if staying in wouldn't have been your first choice of how to spend it. Don't be too hard on your sister, I can remember being 18 many many years ago and, whilst Christmas was for family, New Year was for clubbing with friends. I'm sure there will be many years in the future when your sister will want to share it with you.

Have a great time and a Happy New Year.