What would you do in this situation?

[writermommy6]

Wow. I mean. WOW. You are in NO way obligated to pay for a trip you (very generously) offered 4 years ago and your sister (very rudely) put off and canceled. So, don't feel bad about that. Being livid is exactly the right feeling that should be running through your veins. I know your concern is your mother- why on Earth does she feel obligated to pay for her daughter's trip? I don't understand? Does no one stand up to your sister? Why isn't your mother either: staying out of it, OR telling your sister that if she wants to go then SHE can pay for it herself? I am really REALLY sorry you are going through this. I have my own family issues and I totally understand the frustration, anger, confusion and torment that persists when dealing with them. I get it. Hopefully your mom will stand up to your sister- if not, I can totally see them blaming it all on you. (which you are NOT to blame!). Good luck to you- you are a good person.

Curious as to how things are going. I completely agree with others that you have no obligation to do anything for your sister and nothing to feel guilty about. If your mom would go for it I am with a PP who said you and your family take ONLY your mom. Unfortunately I don't see your mom having a good time and making you miserable. Hope things are going well and remember that your mom is a grow up and can make her own decisions.

 

[brymolmom]

Haven't read other responses...

Obviously you should not go on this trip - that is a big undertaking and doesn't sound like anyone is deserving or appreciative and prices today are HUGE compared to 5 years ago.

Your mother should not pay either....But it sounds like she might. And one thing I have learned as a child of a mother who financially assists one of her children when she SHOULDN'T is that we can't change the mom's mind. If she feels she should and can pay for your sister's trip - you can't change that (oh how I WISH we could). So you can offer your opinion - but leave it at that and TRY not to be upset when she chooses to pay for it. You can only control YOUR OWN ACTIONS. And make the right choice for yourself based on all facts...

And it sounds to me like you're making the right choice.

 

[caselaw3]

OK - this may not be what you were looking for - but here is what I would do -
I would plan to take your mom away for Thanksgiving - not telling her where so that your sister can't try to budge in on the trip - I would pay for mom - because while she is enabling your sister, she is your mom and she probably REALLY REALLY deserves a break away from your sister and her family (also it might give you two a chance to talk and it might help your mom to get some clarity)....

also this would really really really really upset your sister but it might also teach her a good lesson (I am a bit evil )

but that is what I would do

 

[sabmom]

I was just going to suggest what caselaw3 just said.

Take your mom away at that time and pay for her. You are thumbing your nose at your sister by doing this but frankly, it sounds like she wholeheartedly deserves it. What a brat. I am sorry for you to have such a sister.