What would you consider to be appropriate attire?

[SRUAlmn]

I am attending an afternoon wedding on Sunday at a winery. I'm thinking dressy casual because it's afternoon and at a winery, but I really don't know. Thinking maybe white pants, sandals and a nice shirt? Are sandals acceptable for this type of wedding? HELP! I have to go shopping and look around tonight.

Thanks

 

[luvwinnie]

Can you find out what others are wearing?

 

[stinkerbelle]

If it's warm enough - I think a sundress would be PERFECT.

with kitten heels?

ooo...I wanna go shopping! heheh

and you can never go wrong with linen...I bought a black strapless linen dress last year at banana republic...I've worn it to FIVE weddings already (dressed it up for night, down for day.)

IMO - I avoid wearing any white when attending a wedding....but that's just me.

 

[helenabear]

My first thought would be to wear a simple dress or a skirt and nice knit top/blouse/sweater set with strappy heels. I can't comment on sandals since I know many people have different definitions of what they are. I might go for pants if they were dressier than dockers or something. I will say I would also avoid white (except *maybe* if it is a shirt paired with a colorful skirt) but that's me

 

[SRUAlmn]

That was my thought too, about the white. Here is my problem- I am SUCH a girlie girl, but I have FAT legs & arms and will not wear skirts, dresses, or tank tops in public. It kills me because I want to dress so girlie, but I am too embarrassed. I wear pants all summer (or capris.) What about black dressy capris with strappy sandals? Maybe I will look for that. Thanks for the input.

 

[alabamaalan]

I think anything like this would be appropriate

Which, of course, is why I'm not invited to a lot of places...

 

[luvwinnie]

What about a long floral skirt?

 

[helenabear]

I would suggest a sweater set then. You know a nice tank and a matching cartigan over top. They are still readily available here in stores and a lot of people wear those at work since they don't like bare arms here.

One thing I am not sure of, if you are willing to wear capris, what would be wrong with a skirt that goes to your knees? A cute flowy skirt like at NY & Company. Actually I was just in there yesterday and they had a full range of skirts that wouldn't show off your leg (knee lenght and longer... tried a cute linen that went to my calf muscle). I wouldn't go with a capri as I think those are rather informal (wouldn't wear them at work ever myself). And truly I have rather large thighs by comparison (just always have and always will probably) and skirts hide them so much better than any pant or capri out there.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by SRUAlmn
That was my thought too, about the white. Here is my problem- I am SUCH a girlie girl, but I have FAT legs & arms and will not wear skirts, dresses, or tank tops in public. It kills me because I want to dress so girlie, but I am too embarrassed. I wear pants all summer (or capris.) What about black dressy capris with strappy sandals? Maybe I will look for that. Thanks for the input.

oh stop!

what about a cute asymmetrical tank dress with a cardigan over it with strappy sandles (dressy) or kitten heels?

I walked through Filene's earlier today...saw alot of nice stuff

 

[Pixie_Dust]

Dressy sandals are fine, but one of the few "rules" every "fashion expert" seems to agree with is not to wear white to someone else's wedding.

Personally I think black for an afternoon, informal outdoor wedding would be just as bad, but that's just my opinion.

DH's brother brought a date to our family-only wedding (!), and she wore bright fuschia that stood out like a sore thumb! That is almost 20 years ago, and I still remember it when the issue of wedding attire comes up!

 

[southernclass]

I would wear a light colored pant suit. Perhaps something sleeveless if the weather is going to be pretty hot. You can never go wrong with a nice suit on any occasion except maybe a BBQ or a crawfish boil.

 

[Aurora63]

I agree with the other posters who have said not to wear white, but after that, just wear something that you feel looks nice and you feel comfortable in. Maybe a nice sundress, something chiffony...maybe also try to talk to the MOB to find out how formal it is going to be. That will help set you r mind at ease.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Originally posted by alabamaalan
I think anything like this would be appropriate

Which, of course, is why I'm not invited to a lot of places...

BAHAHahahaa!!!!

I'd invite you but you'd HAVE to wear that outfit, K? *snerk*



As far as appropriate clothing for the wedding, I've no idea. Something cool and comfortable..... Sorry, not a big help huh?

 

[SRUAlmn]

UGH! This is why I hate going to weddings. There are so many 'rules' and no matter what you wear you might offend someone. It's so silly, really, why can't people just wear what they want? I can't wear white, I can't wear black, I can't wear bright colors............... Thanks for the input everyone, but I'm more stumped than ever. I guess I'll just go to the mall tomorrow and see what speaks to me. I think I'll check those longer skirts at Lerner. THANKS!

 

[DawnCt1]

The venue wouldn't influence what I would wear. I would dress up for any wedding unless the bride and the attendants are dressing down.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I think what you described would be fine. Have a good time! As long as you don't wear all white.

 

[disykat]

I've heard about not wearing white or black to weddings, but this is the first time I've ever heard anyone complain about someone wearing bright colors!

 

[helenabear]

Originally posted by disykat
I've heard about not wearing white or black to weddings, but this is the first time I've ever heard anyone complain about someone wearing bright colors!

Same here!!! I thought that would be fine as well... especially given the colors that are "in style" currently!!! I won't wear white to a wedding but I sure as heck will be found in black or bright colors if that's what I have to wear!!!! The only time I won't wear black is if the bride specifically requests me not to (hasn't happened yet, but I have a friend who feels that way so when she does get married, I will).

 

[stinkerbelle]

General rule - don't wear white

after that - whatever you want!

My bridesmaids wore black at my wedding...it's not just a 'mourning' color (which is why people say you shouldn't wear it to weddings) Whatever...black is slimming, I feel best in black, most of my wardrobe is black.

TRUST ME...the bride is worried about other things that day then what each of her guests are wearing.

go - be comfy - and have fun!

and report back from your shopping spree!

 

[arminnie]

I've been to several weddings at wineries (lived in SF area for many years) and never found that people dressed down because of the wedding being at a winery.

Nothing wrong with a nice pair of dressy pants and a nice top (ie not dockers and tshirt). Wear what ever shoes you feel are appropriate with the outfit and comfortable. Some of the weddings that I went to at wineries were outside and we stood or walked across the grass to seats so high heels might not be easy to walk in if the ground is soft.