what to send..sympathy gift for men??

[hrh_disney_queen]

I would make a donation to a charity that was close to what the deceased died from. Or a charity for children. I'm not trying to be rude, but cookies seem like a silly frivolus thing to give someone who has just had a terrible loss. Probably just me.

 

[Belle5]

I would make a donation to a charity that was close to what the deceased died from. Or a charity for children. I'm not trying to be rude, but cookies seem like a silly frivolus thing to give someone who has just had a terrible loss. Probably just me.

Yep...it's just you. Any kind of food item will be eaten and appreciated--even by visitors to the grieving person's home. Food items are not a bit frivolous. They sustain you (yes, even a cookie) when you can't think or move. We had another death in our family this week. The funeral is tomorrow. I don't know the family member well and live more than a thousand miles away--but I sent a spiral ham instead of flowers because I know what food can mean at a time like this.

 

[zumbergc]

food is a great idea. My mom passes last year. You don't really feel like cooking, you just feel crappy. So having some gift cards to a local place to eat, or delivery place, or even sending over food is great. Food is a great choice, but you might want to make sure no one has a food allergy, or restrictions of some sort.

Someone mentioned something about father's day. You could always send a card and something small now. I will say about after a few weeks, or a month people tend to forget that you are still grieving for the loss of your parent. So, father's day is going to be really rough this year. Maybe send a card then. You know, let them know how sorry you are about the loss, and still thinking about him and his brother.

In the next few months taking time to call and talk, will mean a lot.

 

[Cindy B]

I personally wouldn't do cookies but food is a great idea. Many grocery stores around here will do a delivery if you order online or order a deli tray. I would order one of the smaller deli trays and have it delivered.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Yep...it's just you. Any kind of food item will be eaten and appreciated--even by visitors to the grieving person's home. Food items are not a bit frivolous. They sustain you (yes, even a cookie) when you can't think or move. We had another death in our family this week. The funeral is tomorrow. I don't know the family member well and live more than a thousand miles away--but I sent a spiral ham instead of flowers because I know what food can mean at a time like this.

I didn't say food in general, I said cookies. I think a spiral ham would be great. Cookies, silly. Kinda like buying a party cake.

 

[lorac4disney]

I agree with sending food. Finding the appetite to eat (let alone cook) was the furthest things from our minds when we lost loved ones. The food we received was greatly appreciated. Hot food was even better.

I know this might sound odd, but you might try calling up a restaurant in their area that delivers. Explain to them the situation and ask if you can have a meal delivered to them and charged to your CC over the phone since you live so far out of town. It's comparible to what you would spend on a fruit or meat and cheese basket, but even better since it's hot and ready to eat.