marciemi
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And I can't speak for the OP, but the fact that she started a thread to ask for an actual statistic to tell her son made me think she didn't approve of his attitude and was trying to get him to understand that the entire U.S. was not like his little part of the world.
And ilsao, no, you don't need an actual percentage to teach gratitude and humility but her son was the one who brought it up and I can understand wanting to reinforce the ACTUAL percentage as opposed to what he thinks it is based on the people he knows. Makes it a little more real, KWIM?
I wasn't trying to pick a fight with the two of you but just wanted to point out that we're talking about a child. And this is a great opportuntity for the OP to teach him that not everyone has the things in life that he's lucky enough to have.
Thanks to everyone for all the responses! No, I didn't think it was appropriate, but I did find it somewhat interesting that he would just assume that "everyone" has been there. I thought the shocked face in my original post (that I was amazed that he would think that) would convey that I didn't agree with his assessment.
And obviously this board isn't the best "norm" for figuring this out. Most of us here are probably at least somewhere in middle class (since we have a computer and internet) and probably have been to Disney based on the fact that we hang out on this board! But just from living in the Detroit area for over a decade, I know there are as many kids in the "inner city" area as in the suburbs. I have to assume that most of them haven't been to Disney. Also, many of the kids even in the suburbs haven't been to Disney (since their parents for whatever reason - even if they could afford it - opt not to vacation there). So in my head I was thinking it was maybe 25 percent of kids (half who can't afford it in general and half of those who can afford it who just don't go). Wondered what others thought!
And my son wasn't making fun of my friend (who he's known forever) personally. Just amazed that people don't know all about Disney. Kind of the way everyone on TGM makes fun of "THEM" - the people who aren't obsessive planners and don't know every detail of WDW!
And if you want callous/insensitive remarks, I don't think this one was anywhere near my other son's when he was also 14. He's a good athlete, runner, etc. One day we parked a bit away from the store and as we walked in by several vacant handicapped places, he commented "wouldn't it be great if we were handicapped and we could park there?"

I just waited a second and when he didn't realize how stupid what he'd said was, I repeated just the first part of his sentence back to him..."Wouldn't it be great if we were handicapped?" He of course rolled his eyes and said "You know what I mean". And yes, I went off on him explaining that I bet a whole lot of people would think it was a whole lot greater to be able to run 2 miles or even be able to just walk the distance we'd walked and would GLADLY give up that parking spot. Let me tell you, after this lecture, he'd certainly never think this way again (or at least be stupid enough to say anything like that out loud!).
But I do think to some extent teens do have the tendency to shoot their mouths off before thinking. That's where we come in - to try to make them think about what they said. That was my goal here.

My post was as much curiosity on my part since I don't believe that all kids go to Disney than trying to get an actual statistic to "prove" my point to him. My point to him was already made - "Consider yourself lucky that you get to do the things you do!"