What is your hot topic? What really gets you going?

[DisneyBamaFan]

People who make assumptions about me based on the color of my skin...

Me, too, and I am white...

 

[Snow Shoe]

Well, mine is simply not being courteous to each other, wheather in the world or out in the real one. What has happened to saying thank you, excuse me, or just please to people? Being from Texas and the south, we raised our children to say yes sir or no mam. I guess that dates me, but it is a sign of respect to us and their elders to whoever they may be talking to. Very rarely do I hear it today, except from my own children or grand children. I think just simple respect for each other would go a long way.

 

[Steph9072]

Well, mine is simply not being courteous to each other, wheather in the world or out in the real one. What has happened to saying thank you, excuse me, or just please to people? Being from Texas and the south, we raised our children to say yes sir or no mam. I guess that dates me, but it is a sign of respect to us and their elders to whoever they may be talking to. Very rarely do I hear it today, except from my own children or grand children. I think just simple respect for each other would go a long way.

Great one...people forget to treat others like they want to be treated. If we all did that the world would be a better place.

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

Car Seat Safety! After being in a severe accident that had altered my life for ever with my then 5 week old daughter, I am very passionate about car seats. Also smoking around kids. Don't even get me started on that one!

 

[MomTo4+more]

People who think it's okay to ask my children personal questions just because we are different colors. They have been asked, "So what was wrong with your real mother?" and "Do you ever get to see your real mother?" I get asked in front of them, "Oh you're a foster parent?" or "All they all yours, all brothers and sisters, etc." We are a real family! One built through adoption, but as real as can be! Nothing was "Wrong" with their birthmoms for choosing adoption.

I know people are just curious and don't realize how their comments sound to my kids. Thankfully we get to talk about all of it, but it gets tiring when it happens day after day.

 

[My2Angels]

Pregnant women who smoke, parents who smoke while carrying small children, people who smoke in a car with the windows up with kids in the car & people who smoke outside of doors where small children have to walk. Not to judge anyone who does smoke. But as an adult he/she made the choice to smoke. These children are not given a choice & they deserve to be able to breathe clean air. When they are adults if they decide to smoke then that is up to them.

#1:To add to this one....These same people bring their child in our clinic with an oxygen level of 87%, wheezing, and sucking in their ribcage for air, and get mad at us when we tell them to STOP smoking around the kid!

#2: The people who assume that all Southerners are backwoods, uneducated, barefoot & pregnant rednecks! Although, I do know a few of those here in Alabama! LOL

 

[tinkermom23]

When the OP never returns to a thread to update on a situation that many of us have been discussing for days!! It leads me to jump to conclusions which is another peeve, people who jump to conclusions and assume without all the facts! grrrrr

 

[brekin67]

I have adopted my children. I get annoyed when people ask how come I didn't have children of my own? Can you not get pregnant? Do your kids know they are adopted? What is wrong with their parents? Why did you adopt? I don't mind when they ask what agency did I use? How can I start the process?
I also have foster children and I get annoyed when people ask what happened and why are they in foster care.

 

[Disneychix]

Smoking in general annoys me. Smoking around children totally gets me going (especially in public parks or general public areas).

My step-brother who started smoking at age 24 after having his father and brother both go through cancer and he has a biology degree- THAT Really gets me miffed!!!

 

[skip323]

People who think it's okay to ask my children personal questions just because we are different colors. They have been asked, "So what was wrong with your real mother?" and "Do you ever get to see your real mother?" I get asked in front of them, "Oh you're a foster parent?" or "All they all yours, all brothers and sisters, etc." We are a real family! One built through adoption, but as real as can be! .

I can only imagine how tiring that must be but....I also know that many people make assumptions and kids are, in fact, biological. Just not a good practice to assume anything! I have a coworker who is caucasian but was married to a darker skinned, dark haired Latino gentleman. Her kids are very, very dark complexioned with dark hair. I have a friend who is the daughter of a blonde blue eyed mother and a Japanese father...she looks Asian, not Caucasian at all! Then you have kiddos like the daughter of actress Victoria Rowell. Rowell looks African American but is biracial. The father of her daughter is Caucasian and her daugther is a blond, caucasian looking woman. I remember an article "way back when" where Rowell discussed people assuming she was the Nanny and scolding her for scolding her own child because she was, in their eyes, not the mother!

 

[cglaura]

People who assume I am "poor" because I choose to live a frugal life and have a budget. I had someone the other day behind me in line actually say oh my gosh (only not so nicely worded ) these welfare people and their coupons. I'm not on welfare (not that anything wrong with folks who really need to be), but I use alot of coupons, I saved $96 on that particular trip b/t coupons and savings card.

I live in a small house, which is well kept, clean and clutter free. I drive an older car. I have no debt and money in savings and dd college is funded.

Worse are the people in my life. Why don't you get a new car? Well this one looks and runs brand new, why should I? How can you live in such a small house (800 sq ft). Well it is just dd and myself and in a few years just me. How much space does one person need?? I have a large lr, eat in kitchen, 2br and bath, nice 1/6 acre lot with trees and nice lawn. It suits MY life.

And these are folks who make 3x as much as me, but turn around and ask if I have $100 to borrow to hold them over to payday!

It doesn't really get my panties in a bunch so to speak, because I know my life, and it is a happy one, and don't really care what people think, it is more their arrogant tone I suppose. I don't like people who think they are "better" because of what they have, instead of who they "are". It that area they'd really fall short.

 

[stella27]

People who don't have their pets spayed or neutered.
I realize that some animals are show-quality and are bred to improve the breed, but people who breed for these reasons are few and far-between compared to those who allow their pets to reproduce just because "she has papers" while we are killing 10,000 pets per year in my little town alone.

 

[hanutedmansionmomma]

1)when folks bash teachers - come spend a day w/ me! I love it but it's hardly an easy job. AND when parents bash teachers in front of their children. AND when community members ask me about the kids I teach (special ed). uh, no I won't answer you.

2)when people who should know better (everyone, IMHO) have to talk about people's race when telling a story "Oh, that store that's owned by the __________________" (pick a race), or "this __________ woman hit my car", etc. etc. this happens in my DH family in front of my kids. I'm always having to do damage control in the car on the way home. It's 2009 for crying out loud

3) when I have to wait for months to go back to Disney

 

[mom2val]

1) People who don't put their kids in booster seats. Use some common sense if the seatbelt is over their face - how freaking safe can that be! I have 2 extra booster seats that I keep in my trunk for dd's friends. Sorry but if you are under 4 ft 9 inches tall you are sitting in one or you not riding in my car!

2) People that smoke with their kids in the car - really nice when the windows are all rolled up completely!

 

[teacherlisa1978]

Mine is when I see kids (and adults too, actually) riding bikes without helmets. Makes me crazy!

It's interesting to read all the adoption comments-we are in the beginning stages of researching international adoption and it's good to know what to expect.

 

[momofrrr]

People who throw their cigarette butts out of their car windows! That just irritates the daylights out of me.

 

[Mommy2JulietJocelyn]

parents who bring their kids to the ER where I work who expect a fever to go away completely afte ronly one dose of motrin or tylenol, or the ones who don't medicate at all, or the ones who come in aftertheir child has thrown up one time is is running around our waiting room shoving cheetos in their mouth.

(granted my favorite patients are the foreign body ones - they have the best stories......)

 

[livie1205]

people on welfare driving new cars and filling up their buggy at the store with steak and soda!! WE do not get welfare and we buy chicken and hamburger for our family of 5 on a budget while they are getting steak for FREE and driving a new lexus!!
I also can not stand to see parents that act like their perfect little timmy is better then others while letting him run all over the store,knock things over,scream and yell and just be rude...and say" well he is just 5 and we do not want to change him by punishing him" !! or parents who let their 8 yrs olds tell them to shut up! I would have seen the backside of a flip flop or picking up my teeth if I EVER treated my parents like that! AND I AM OK WITH THAT...amazing that I turned out good with no arrest record after my parents did the unforgivable and punished me when I acted stupid...

 

[WDWorBUST]

Mine is when I see kids (and adults too, actually) riding bikes without helmets. Makes me crazy!

It's interesting to read all the adoption comments-we are in the beginning stages of researching international adoption and it's good to know what to expect.

Just had to comment on this. DD has had to wear a helmet since she was riding a tricycle....my mom finally told me recently that she thought I was going a little overboard on that one although she always respected my wishes and had her wear it. My cousin's daughter had a horrible bike accident that included time in ICU and follow up therapy because she wasn't wearing a helmet - my mom told me she understood why I was so crazy about dd wearing a helmet. The other day I was SHOCKED to see what I presumed was a mother and daughter riding bikes - the mom was wearing a helmet and the daughter wasn't....WHAT ON EARTH??

 

[tinkermom23]

parents who bring their kids to the ER where I work who expect a fever to go away completely afte ronly one dose of motrin or tylenol, or the ones who don't medicate at all, or the ones who come in aftertheir child has thrown up one time is is running around our waiting room shoving cheetos in their mouth.

(granted my favorite patients are the foreign body ones - they have the best stories......)

My sister works in an ER and she has had some doosies!! For the life of me, I cannot figure out what motivates a person to put that, there!??