What is the etiquette of offering your seat to the disabled, elderly, or people with small children?

[gap2368]

. The people who put their backpacks,etc on the sear beside them!
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I do this some time because there are time with my disability I can not have anyone tuch me at all parents friends sinifican other no one at all can touch me and do sitting next to the wall with my bag next to me is sometimes the only thing I can do. I think a lot of times we see other people behaved as rude but until we know the person we can not know why they do XYZ. like the person that look young and health my have a real need for a set the parent that takes there child out of the stroller might have a need to do so.

 

[DisneyMim]

Gap you are right. I stand corrected. Sometimes people are not being rude they are just doing their best. I still believe that the strollers should be folded up if there are no children in them. This is why though I really believe that people have to take responsibility for themselves. If it means that have to wait for another bus, rent a car, take a taxi or uber then that is what has to be done. Yes in a perfect world there would be enough seats for everyone, but the reality is it does not happen.

 

[DisneyOma]

I do this some time because there are time with my disability I can not have anyone tuch me at all parents friends sinifican other no one at all can touch me and do sitting next to the wall with my bag next to me is sometimes the only thing I can do. I think a lot of times we see other people behaved as rude but until we know the person we can not know why they do XYZ. like the person that look young and health my have a real need for a set the parent that takes there child out of the stroller might have a need to do so.

But doesn't the bag have the chance of touching you too? I would think a family member would have better support not to touch you - the bag would be loose, unless you were holding it, and then it would be touching you, as would the wall?

 

[gap2368]

But doesn't the bag have the chance of touching you too? I would think a family member would have better support not to touch you - the bag would be loose, unless you were holding it, and then it would be touching you, as would the wall?

it is people touching me not things. and I go a lone quiet a bit.
I am in my phone so this will be short

I was exsplaning that some people have a disability that they have to do something that others might think is rude so no one can say if that person is being rude with out knowing them

 

[DisneyOma]

it is people touching me not things. and I go a lone quiet a bit.
I am in my phone so this will be short

I was exsplaning that some people have a disability that they have to do something that others might think is rude so no one can say if that person is being rude with out knowing them

How does that work - the difference between people/objects touching? Is it an anxiety thing or a sensory thing? Is it that the people are capable of moving independent of your control? Just trying to understand how being alive/being inanimate makes the difference?

 

[gap2368]

How does that work - the difference between people/objects touching? Is it an anxiety thing or a sensory thing? Is it that the people are capable of moving independent of your control? Just trying to understand how being alive/being inanimate makes the difference?

this is getting way off topic and the only region why I replayed to the PP was so that she would know that some people are not being rude, to answer your question and this really will not answer it ( because I have a hard time even telling someone infant of me and typing is harder for me) but for me thing touching me dose not better but people touching me dose. some times things just do nt make since and for me and my disability that is the best way to explain it.

 

[married2mm]

I was taught many things by my parents-and few of those things stick with me 40+ years later
however-always say please & thankyou, excuse me ,etc.. (basic manners) have stuck with me.
Some folks seem to have never learned these basic values or they've simply dipped by the wayside.

Giving up your seat to women or the elderly is definitely not a given.
It is simply not possible to 'see' if someone needs a seat...
My parents are classed as elderly and travel on local buses all the time.
I do not.
I need a seat and therefore utilise alternative methods of travel.

The only time I ever use a bus is at wdw.
And if the bus is filling up-I state I require a seat and wait for the next one.
We hire a car-so the majority of time this is how we travel-but on MK days-it is much easier.

 

[piccolopat]

I do this some time because there are time with my disability I can not have anyone tuch me at all parents friends sinifican other no one at all can touch me and do sitting next to the wall with my bag next to me is sometimes the only thing I can do. I think a lot of times we see other people behaved as rude but until we know the person we can not know why they do XYZ. like the person that look young and health my have a real need for a set the parent that takes there child out of the stroller might have a need to do so.

I'm sorry about your disability but frankly you are not entitled to take a second seat if someone is standing. If you really can't have anyone touch you, you should consider another mode of transportation. I also wonder how you deal with lines when people bump into each other all the time and with ride restraints.

 

[maxiesmom]

I'm sorry about your disability but frankly you are not entitled to take a second seat if someone is standing. If you really can't have anyone touch you, you should consider another mode of transportation. I also wonder how you deal with lines when people bump into each other all the time and with ride restraints.

I don't agree.

 

[piccolopat]

I don't agree.

Care to explain why you think someone should stand when there is a backpack on a seat? What if that person had an infant or was disabled themselves?

 

[gap2368]

I a man so small that most of the time I take up one set and about 2 inch of another one I always tell the gust next to me and if I feel like there is a problem I will stand or ask to get off and wait ( only had to get off one time one time I was going to when a mom said he child had the same problem and she sat next to me it was a little tight but this mom was amazing unlike some people on here that just because they do not understand a disability they feel the need to say what disability should take what. You guys do know people in wheel chair take up how many sets no one is complaining about them because most people can understand there disability

 

[gap2368]

Care to explain why you think someone should stand when there is a backpack on a seat? What if that person had an infant or was disabled themselves?

I do not sit but stand up were the white line is I put May bag on the ground by my feet when I put my bag beside me there normily is no one standing and the one time there was a mom and I guess her husband that had a child with similar proble as mine the man did stand but said he was ok I tried to stand and give him my set and he refused

 

[Angel Ariel]

It's sad to me to see the amount of second guessing and questioning of others disabilities and needs that I've seen here recently. Maybe I'm alone in feeling that way, but it definitely makes me feel less open to posting here.

 

[gap2368]

It's sad to me to see the amount of second guessing and questioning of others disabilities and needs that I've seen here recently. Maybe I'm alone in feeling that way, but it definitely makes me feel less open to posting here.

I am with you all I did was tell a PP that someone with a bag on a set might have a disability since I have put my bag on a set ( the 3 or 4 times there was a small child next to me who was not even taking up a full set to being with

 

[maxiesmom]

Care to explain why you think someone should stand when there is a backpack on a seat? What if that person had an infant or was disabled themselves?

If someone needs (not wants, needs) 2 seats on the bus to be physically ok on the bus, then they need 2 seats. To me it is no different than if someone was bigger than typical and needed 2 seats. If the other person was unable to stand on the bus I would hope they would not stand, and wait for a different bus or get a taxi if they were in a hurry.

 

[bbak30]

Personally, I always offer unless I'm holding a sleeping child. When my kids were younger, there were many many times that I stood on a bus holding a sleeping baby while many young people sat and looked at me. Flame me if you want, but that is just unacceptable. It's rude. It really is. It's just plain rude.
The first time we stayed at POP and this was the normal there. I didn't even want to go back to Disney for a while because of this. Next time we went, we stayed at POR and had a much different experience. I don't know if the resort has anything to do with it, but in my head it totally does. We probably won't stay value ever again unless we have a car.
Yes, there are many people that look able bodied, but aren't. But on the flip side, there are many many more just plain rude people.
Now that my kids are older, we don't have to worry about holding them while they are sleeping. We will always give up our seats to someone who looks like they need it. My kids will also, even though I try and get them to just share a seat.
So to answer your question, I don't know the answer. I will always try and do what I think the right thing is and what I want to see my children do. My expectations when we take the bus are that we will stand, and then sometimes I get surprised and we get a seat.

 

[BadPinkTink]

oh, I would just love some of you to do a few days on the buses with me, commuting to and from work, which can be anything from from 40 to 90 minutes, depending on which bus route I am on. I bet that just one day of overcrowded buses in a major city and you would all see just how farcical the complaining about Disney buses is to us us mere mortals who dont have a car and use public transport in daily life!!

 

[DisneyOma]

I a man so small that most of the time I take up one set and about 2 inch of another one I always tell the gust next to me and if I feel like there is a problem I will stand or ask to get off and wait ( only had to get off one time one time I was going to when a mom said he child had the same problem and she sat next to me it was a little tight but this mom was amazing unlike some people on here that just because they do not understand a disability they feel the need to say what disability should take what. You guys do know people in wheel chair take up how many sets no one is complaining about them because most people can understand there disability

While we might not agree that taking up a seat with a backpack is a good way to deal with a disability, that doesn't mean we don't understand a disability. It means the accommodation may be inappropriate, or that a better accommodation would be more acceptable.

 

[LilyWDW]

Personally, I always offer unless I'm holding a sleeping child. When my kids were younger, there were many many times that I stood on a bus holding a sleeping baby while many young people sat and looked at me. Flame me if you want, but that is just unacceptable. It's rude. It really is. It's just plain rude.
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Then why did you not wait for the next bus or have other means of transportation if standing on the bus was an issue? Why didn't you take the steps YOU could take to be sure that didn't happen? Honest questions and I am curious of the answer because I simply do not understand it. I do everything in MY power to make sure I have a seat if I am in need of one. I guess I would just expect others to do the same for themselves.

 

[bbak30]

Then why did you not wait for the next bus or have other means of transportation if standing on the bus was an issue? Why didn't you take the steps YOU could take to be sure that didn't happen? Honest questions and I am curious of the answer because I simply do not understand it. I do everything in MY power to make sure I have a seat if I am in need of one. I guess I would just expect others to do the same for themselves.

Because I chose to just roll with it. I know my options. This is simply my opinion. I was certainly capable of holding my child and standing, so I did.