What IS IT with 11 year old boys??? - RANT

tink38

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The fun began when I picked DS up after school. He stays at "the cousins" until I get off work. Well, when I got there today. The cousins' son said that DS had been on the computer again and that he had to do a scan to erase some spyware that was on there from something DS had downloaded. Now, he knows not to get on that computer. He's been told AT LEAST three times. That is their business computer. The cousins went out of town today and he was at the house by himself for about 30 minutes. I guess he figured it was okay since nobody was home? :confused3 Where's the logic, I ask you? Is it like the philosophy question about the tree falling in the woods? Not to mention that he has been banned from the computer, PSP and Game Cube until I get a pack of test papers with nothing less than a B. (Look - he's just been pre-tested for the gifted program. He got a 96% on the OLSAT, so, I'm not putting up with C's or lower.)

Of course, when I confronted him about it, he denied being on the computer at all. What do I look like over here? A pile of bricks??? Jeez, that burns me up. I hate it when he thinks I'm that stupid. :furious: It REALLY chaps my hide. When I told him I knew how to trace the websites he looked at he looked at me like I was the wicked witch of the Mid South. Well, I told him he wasn't OLD ENOUGH to look at me like that - even if he DID learn that look from me. SO THERE.

The merriment continued after I looked down at his hands. He'd been looking down the whole time and I wanted to know what was so fascinating. Well, lo and behold - and oh my word! There it was - on the right hand pinky finger - a gold ring!!!! :scared1: What the??? "Where did you get THAT???", I asked. "Patricia gave it to me.", He said. "Why?" "Because her nickname is Jade and I gave her that jade thing that I found in the bowl (where we keep our keys, etc)." Ummn...HELLO?? You gave that to me a year ago! Do you not remember? I told him he was to return the ring 1st thing in the morning. He is 11 - NOT 20. I know y'all might think I am overreacting, but I will not have my 11 year old son accepting jewelry from girls.

Okay - rant over. Thanks for listening.


Monique :tink:
 
I HATE mothers like that! The thing is, though - they scare me. What if they try to beat you up? Oh, Lord, help me. I just got a flashback of a field trip we went on (for the Challenge students) last year. OMG. What is the deal? Am I just an over protective paret? I mean these kids werw throwing trash out of the streetcar and the parents did nothing! I , on the other hand, was monitering my sonlike he was a prisoner. Maybe that's where I went wrong? I mean, am I being too protective to think that he should not be accepting jewelry from a girl at 11?



Monique :tink:
 
Oh, goodness...I just said paret. I meant parent. Sorry about that! I don't own a parrot. :)
 
Monique...I hear you!! DS is 11 1/2 and some days I want to set him out in the road with the recycling bin. J/K...I love him.

DS just got his first kiss from a neighbor girl that we've known for the last few years. She is so sweet and, honestly, if they were 10 years older I'd tell him to marry her but I am scared to death. I'm always making sure they're not alone or that they're in earshot or my line of sight. I know we've taught him well about most situations in life but my goodness, to actually hope he'll put that into practice is frightening.

Another DISer has a signature that reads something to the effect of "Having a child is like taking your heart out of your body and letting it walk around outside of you." It's true! These boys are still kids yet on the verge of being teenagers and it's a BIG change.

Hang in there!!!
 

You're not over-reacting. I work with 11 year old boys everyday and they are a different species! At least they are pretty nice to me since I'm not their mom! :rotfl:
 
Well, I won't have an 11 year old boy for 3 more years.

But I do have an 11 year old GIRL, and they are just as scarey! And I have a feeling it only goes downhill from here. Good thing we love her so much! :love:
 
I am so glad my 11 year-old son is very different from yours....


We are nowhere near these problems. Yet. I do not envy you, and please don't take this poorly.

I have a -will be 12 at the end of Aug- but a nice boy, and we're still awaitin' on the buthead to move into our house".....

except, he's still sweet...and we still wait.....
 
TurboKitty said:
I am so glad my 11 year-old son is very different from yours....


We are nowhere near these problems. Yet. I do not envy you, and please don't take this poorly.

I have a -will be 12 at the end of Aug- but a nice boy, and we're still awaitin' on the buthead to move into our house".....

except, he's still sweet...and we still wait.....


Not taken poorly at all. Kids develop differently aand at different ages. I was a very early bloomer, but DH didn't reach puberty until he was 17. (Sorry - TMI)

One thing's for certain, though - the buthead WILL move in sooner or later.

THE BUTHEAD IS COMING! THE BUTHEAD IS COMING! :rotfl2:


Monique
 
I have an almost (in July) 11 y/o and he's a peach. Although his 14 y/o brother is a PIA - so I think he's probably either:

a) learned not to be stupid and make me MAD because of the actions his brother often does

OR

b) an amazing, academy award deserving actor - whom is JUST as bad as his brother but much smarter about letting me know.

;)
 
It's the age. God help me, I have an almost 14 year old DD, and a 12 1/2 year old DS. Life in my house is so fun sometimes :P

I do see flashes of the wonderful people they will become. But this week hasn't shown any of them, so I'm ready for the recyclers to take them too!
 
My DS will be 12 in July. I love him dearly, he is a great kid, but the looks he can give and the attitude he can up with!!!!! :rolleyes: We used to joke that my nephew (who is turning 19) was going through PMS ~ Pre Man Syndrome.
 
piglet too said:
My DS will be 12 in July. I love him dearly, he is a great kid, but the looks he can give and the attitude he can up with!!!!! :rolleyes: We used to joke that my nephew (who is turning 19) was going through PMS ~ Pre Man Syndrome.


I LOVE it! My DS is DEFINITELY going through PMS. If I had a dollar for every time he gave me a dirty look I could live at WDW. Last night I told him to lose the look AND the attitude or I'd slap both of them into next week.

Funny how creative one can get when threatening one's child with bodily harm, huh? (JK - slapping doesn't work, in my opinion. It didn't work when my mom slapped me, at least. The cayenne pepper didn't work either, by the way. It just means I love spicy food now!)


Monique
 
DH is the oldest of 11. His mom has survived 6 boys. She has always said that ages 11 - 14 are the hardest. If you can get them thru those years intact, you're set! Girls I think are harder from like 13 - 16.

I always figured you have to treat your teens the way you treated your toddlers. Don't give 'em an inch, they'll walk all over you!
 
Oh I hear ya...I have a DS11. He is also an asperger's kid so that is a whole set of other issues. At times it is hard to tell what is the AS and what is the typical pre-teen boy!

I got a real schock this morning when he was asking if he could go to the 5th & 6th grade social tomorrow night. The local youth groups put these on every once in a while as they want the kids that age to have a safe place to go to hang out with friends. They play music, have food, etc.

WELL...not only does ds want to go, but he told me that those things are better when you go with other kids so he ASKED A GIRL from his class if she wanted to go!! :faint: I told him that he was waaaaaaaaay too young for the girl-boy thing but he said they were asking all their friends if they were going. You still could have picked my jaw off the floor when he announced that..

I am so not ready for all of this...

Jill
 
I have 2 ds's one will be 11 in may and the other 8 this month...

my almost 11 has an attitude from you know where, but is not interested at all in girls...not yet anyways...and that isn't a bad thing either!! :rolleyes: :teeth:

It is my other ds who is 8 that has the girls flocking all over him...they are calling him and everything! :confused3

The are two different personallities so i am hoping that my younger son will skip the butthead stage and stay sweet...don't know if i can handle two buttheads! :teeth:

oh and i have a dd too....it is a good thing she is only 4 right now...but..she can act just like her older brother at times!



good luck is all i have to say!!! I think we all need it when our kids hit that age! :teeth:
 
My eldest, deny until he believes it too. I wish I had an answer for you but we seem to be raising the same child so you have my sympathy (mine is 8 going on 30)
 
JESW said:
Oh I hear ya...I have a DS11. He is also an asperger's kid so that is a whole set of other issues. At times it is hard to tell what is the AS and what is the typical pre-teen boy!

I got a real schock this morning when he was asking if he could go to the 5th & 6th grade social tomorrow night. The local youth groups put these on every once in a while as they want the kids that age to have a safe place to go to hang out with friends. They play music, have food, etc.

WELL...not only does ds want to go, but he told me that those things are better when you go with other kids so he ASKED A GIRL from his class if she wanted to go!! :faint: I told him that he was waaaaaaaaay too young for the girl-boy thing but he said they were asking all their friends if they were going. You still could have picked my jaw off the floor when he announced that..

I am so not ready for all of this...

Jill


Jill,

What is Asbergers? Is it anything like ADHD? :confused3
And I hear ya, girl. I am so not ready for it either. DS had his 1st social a month ago. The girl who gave him the ring asked HIM. (hussy)
The social was cute, though. There were a ton of parents there. We went out to eat and arrive about an hour before it ended. All in all, it was harmless. But I still don't like the fact that this girl gave him a ring. Jeez.


Monique
 
tink38 said:
Not taken poorly at all. Kids develop differently aand at different ages. I was a very early bloomer, but DH didn't reach puberty until he was 17. (Sorry - TMI)

One thing's for certain, though - the buthead WILL move in sooner or later.

THE BUTHEAD IS COMING! THE BUTHEAD IS COMING! :rotfl2:


Monique

:rotfl2: :rotfl2:

I am a 13yo who has reached the butthead stage but thankfully has not shown a huge interest in girls yet. He is still into hanging out with friends and playing video games. No puberty yet.

I am sure that and girls are right around the corner.
 
Add me to the club-my son will be 12 in Nov, so I'm in the boat with all of you-I'm the one with patches of her hair missing :rotfl: !!

Why-please explain this-can he all of a sudden not seem to hear me? Do they go through temporary hearing loss at this age, because when I say something to him he either ignores me or acts like it's a different language!!

And then I feel like I'm living with Sybil-one minute sweet and darling and the next I hardly know who he is because of the attitude. And if the word "dang" comes out of his mouth once more........ :furious:

We aren't dealling with girls yet -but he's starting to make comments about the ones on tv. The pizza hut commercial with Jessica Simpson just captivates him :rolleyes2 .
 
DS admires girls from afar (and beware the internet, cause he found that part really quick, got him banned for quite a while!), but he's not gotten the nerve to actually talk to them yet!

But oh, the selective hearing!! My famous line for that? "You do have those things attached to the side of your head don't you? Can you please USE them?!"
 












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