What is it about daughters......

[Beth76]

that turns parents into raving lunatics when they grow up? I am so glad that I have two boys (and to think I really wanted a girl).

 

[rascalmom]

Not sure.

Signed,

A Raving Lunatic

 

[DisDuck]

Actually, having 2 and 2 I found the girls easier than the boys. I have one from each that were nerve-racking.

 

[kasar]

I love having girls. I would not be a good boy mommy. So, I guess it's all a matter of perspective.

What do you mean about raving lunatics? Maybe you could explain a little bit?

 

[mtblujeans]

Having had 2 girls....at some point in time they take you down the road on a hormone journey!

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I have a DD and a DS.

I don't think we are raving lunatics with her more than with my son. They each have the same set of rules. I think for DH it is different with DD because she is a girl and he wants to protect her.

I don't think it has hit him yet that his "baby" is turning 16 this year.

 

[jrydberg]

People turn into raving lunatics all the time without the aid of children

 

[Keli]

I don't know if only daughters cause it or sons can as well. I only have a daughter but I might have ended up a raving lunatic either way, lol.

 

[Beastlover]

Sign me up for the raving lunatic's club...

 

[Beth76]

What do you mean about raving lunatics? Maybe you could explain a little bit?

There are two threads currently about daughters and the moms are freaking out. I started a new thread because I didn't want to single anyone out. It just irks me when I see parents who don't want their children grow up. I know it's not just girls, but it seems to be girls mostly. You know when people "joke" (oh god, I hope they're joking) about not letting their daughters date until their 30 and stuff like that. Just bugs me.

 

[suzannen]

I have 2 daughters, one 24 and one 10 and they've both been so much easier than all 5 of my nephews. I truly think it depends on each child's personality much more than whether they are girls or boys.

 

[disneyworld!]

There are two threads currently about daughters and the moms are freaking out. I started a new thread because I didn't want to single anyone out. It just irks me when I see parents who don't want their children grow up. I know it's not just girls, but it seems to be girls mostly. You know when people "joke" (oh god, I hope they're joking) about not letting their daughters date until their 30 and stuff like that. Just bugs me.

well, honey if your talking about me...I am NOT freaking out...just trying to get some info on the area..and if that is not understood......then why bother explaing it and if there is nothing to offer, why bother to open the thread

 

[tiggersmom2]

It just irks me when I see parents who don't want their children grow up.

I don't think they "don't want their children to grow up". I also do not think it makes them raving lunatics or "freaking out" because they are worried, apprehensive and nervous about their baby girl's first date......this makes them normal parents. I am sure they just wanted to post and share their apprehension and get some support....not a slap on the wrist and called names.

Hugs to rascalmom and the other "lunatic"

 

[kasar]

There are two threads currently about daughters and the moms are freaking out. I started a new thread because I didn't want to single anyone out. It just irks me when I see parents who don't want their children grow up. I know it's not just girls, but it seems to be girls mostly. You know when people "joke" (oh god, I hope they're joking) about not letting their daughters date until their 30 and stuff like that. Just bugs me.

Oh, okay, gotcha! I agree with you. My two DDs are really into sports and I can't tell you how frustrating it is dealing with parents who either don't care about their daughters' sport activities as much as their sons' or don't want the coaches to be "too intense" with their girls. It's an uphill battle just to get field space and practice time for girls. Some parents really coddle their daughters and don't let them grow up.

Can you tell it's softball season here? I'm so fed up with this attitude! Sorry for the rant.

 

[jrydberg]

My daughter won't be dating til she's 35 (30 is too young)

 

[swanmom]

IMHO, it doesn't make someone a 'raving lunatic' to make a casual joke about something that may cause you some anxiety. To make a humorous remark about your DD's dating age or raging hormones, as one way of 'lightening up' a possibly anxious situation, seems to me to be a valuable parenting tool!

Besides, we don't have to worry about dating age for our DD. We're already researching which convent to send her to!

 

[rascalmom]

!!!!!!Sorry - duplicate below!

 

[rascalmom]

I guess my tone of humor didn't come off on the other thread.

What I truly feel is a little bit of nervous apprehension and excitement for my dd. I would love it if this had been the boy next door & I knew everything about him & his family. (of course, the boy next door IS the SON of a FBI agent, so that would make my investigation easier )

I don't know the young man, but I trust dd's judgement & values. Sorry if I offended - I thought a few parents might relate to that nervous, excited, awkward, curious feeling that I'm going through.

If you knew me, you would know that I am SO NOT an over-protective parent. I want my girls to be independent, self-sufficient & BRAVE. DD is pretty reserved, very involved in many activities & just hadn't dated before now by her own choice. She would have been allowed before now if she had wanted to date. She's a sophomore in H.S., not 30!

And my guess is that the parent's of boys would like to know a little about the girls their sons date too.

 

[Sandy V.]

I don't think that posts talking about apprehension about a daughter's first date or their child moving (far) away from home for the first time make anyone a raving lunatic. They could have just as easily been about a son instead of a daughter. The posters were articulate and well-reasoned, as far as I concerned.

In fact, these are the types of threads I enjoy the most because I can relate to them. People are looking for advice, empathy, or just a place to vent. More power to them! That's why the DIS is here.

I have a DD 17 and a DS 15. Some days, my daughter is easier to raise. Some days, my son is. I cherish every day that they're at home with me because the time goes by so quickly! And if I need a place to get advice, I can always count on the folks here to give it to me if I ask.

 

[Beth76]

Like, I said, I'm not trying to single anyone out. The other threads merely inspired this one. And, I guess the term "freaking out" isn't really accurate in the case of the two threads.

And I did say that I hope people are joking when they say they won't their daughters date until they're 30. OK, so you're using that to make yourselves feel better or whatever, but it's really a sad, tired joke. It was funny the first time someone said it 30 years ago. Now, it's just old. Put the shotguns away and let your kids date already!

And I understand you have concerns for your daughters, but sometimes you make it seem like your daughters are so clueless and helpless, that they couldn't possibly get through life without you. I'm using the term 'you' generally here and not speaking to any one person in particular.