What is a "soccer mom"?

[WDW2002]

What exactly is a soccer mom?? Does having your kids play soccer automatically make you a soccer mom?? My kids play basketball but I have never heard anyone referred to as a "basketball mom." So tell me how does one become a "soccer mom?"

 

[preshi]

IMHO.... from what i have experienced around here. A "soccer mom" or as we alos have around here a "tennis mom" is a SAHM who has a ton of money. Who most likely has a nanny. Who has nothing better to do than go to lunch with her friends and worry about whether or not thier kids are WINNING and ACHEIVING rather than having fun with the game.

Now I have to say I was a SAHM for 2 years I really wish I still could be. I know what real SAHM's without Nannies (although I could understand a nanny if you had like 5 little kids but to have 1 or 2 kids and not work...come on) do all day... and it isn't what there women do...

 

[peg2001]

Hmmmm. . .and I always thought of a soccer mom as an upper-middle to upper class mom who doted on her children (no nanny) and ushered them to and fro to their various programs and activities. . .a mini-van is mandatory, as is an ever-present cell phone.

BTW, my DD5 just started soccer this term but I don't consider myself a soccer mom!

Peggy

 

[CamColt]

You forgot the Dunkin Donuts coffe in hand at all times.

 

[Sharon A.]

In our neighborhood we have a different kind of soccer mom. Many of us PLAY soccer ourselves. I've played my whole life, but we've recruited maybe 12-15 newbies from our local elementary school moms.

That's much more fun than driving the kids around. And the minivan or SUV is still required.

 

[Dodie]

I think that the term is usually used n the media in a mocking/derrogatory sort of way. AS IN: Someone who can afford to stay home with her kids because daddy is making so much money. She spends her day taking them from place to place in the expensive SUV, but still finds time for manicures, pedicures and perfect hair.

 

[ChiTownZee]

So why exactly is a soccer mom a bad thing?

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by ChiTownZee
So why exactly is a soccer mom a bad thing?

because we are jealous...

 

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

OK I'm not a "soccer mom" , but I bacame a SAHM about a month ago, I do have a son who play basketball, I have a daughter who loves to shop, I love to shop, I don't like pedicures because they tickle, I do have the husband who makes "ALOT OF MOOLAH" I don't have a nanny, ds9 dd13 , I HATE TO DO LAUNDRY(but it do it anyway) I have the SUV, I transport the kids to their functions, "sigh"

I'll accept the title of "SUPER MOMMY" anytime

 

[DaveH]

My understanding of soccer mom. Is a woman who has kids, drives a SUV or mini van. They tend to be pro gun control, pro choice, care about issues such as good schools safe play and living areas for thier kids. Not always active in politics, too busy. Mostly moderate in thier views.

 

[ChiTownZee]

Soccer Moms have specific views on gun control and are 'pro abortion' ???(which, by the way, I think is termed pro-choice) pretty funny considering they all have kids!

I am SO glad my daughter isn't into sports yet, Lord knows what everyone would be thinking about me!!!! When my daughter wants to join a team I'll have to think twice "Sorry dear, we already have a minivan, we don't want to go over the edge into the evil soccer-mom land"

 

[Spinning]

Camcolt...around here it is WAWA coffee and for the very elite, Starbucks! LOL!
I just see a soccer mom as the one with the car/van/SUV that holds all the kids! going to games and have a ton of snacks (you know kids play 1/2 hour and then have to eat enough sugar and junk to get through the next 1/2 hour)

 

[preshi]

Some of the "soccer moms" we have around here are snotty to the hilt. No manners...whatsoever. These are the ones I think of when I think "soccer mom".

I do realize there are very normal parents whos children are in soccer or tennis or whatever.


The Origin of the "Soccer Mom"


soccer mom

(SOK.ur mawm) n. A white, suburban woman who is married and has children.



One last word before we file The Year of the Soccer Mom into the political calendar of cliches.

Somewhere along the way, the stressed-out, minivan-driving juggler of lives and roles was awarded the title of MVP in the competition for voters. She became the icon of 1996, nearly running over the Angry White Male of 1994 in her new Dodge Caravan.

But in politics, as in soccer, you have to use your head. A trip through the postelection world is a reminder that her role was a touch inflated. Suburban, married moms with kids at home were never more than 6 percent of the voters. Gary Langer at the ABC News Polling Unit calls them simply the "group du jour." He fairly sputters at the idea that they could swing anything but a headline.
—Ellen Goodman, "Meet the worried woman," The Boston Globe, November 10, 1996

 

[d.kurz]

Originally posted by peg2001
Hmmmm. . .and I always thought of a soccer mom as an upper-middle to upper class mom who doted on her children (no nanny) and ushered them to and fro to their various programs and activities. . .a mini-van is mandatory, as is an ever-present cell phone.

BTW, my DD5 just started soccer this term but I don't consider myself a soccer mom!

Peggy

This is my definition as well. Plus she really ENJOYS doing this
(this is where I get off the bus. I never enjoy the chauffering or watching the games....bad mommy!).

In our area she's drinking a Wawa (local convenience store) coffee or cappucino.

 

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

SOK.ur mawm) n. A white, suburban woman who is married and has children.

Well since I'm a caramel skin black women what does that make me
BTW,what are the other White suburban women with children called


This is my definition as well. Plus she really ENJOYS doing this
(this is where I get off the bus. I never enjoy the chauffering or watching the games....bad mommy!).


Me either. I don't think anyone ENJOYS doing it all the time. Sometimes this mom want's to soak for 2 hours or more
while reading my Harlequin Romance novel and sipping on something nice and cold


Oh yeah I think if a person has to look down on someone because they can afford the exspensive clotes, live in a bigger home, drive the exspensive vehicle, and HAS TO BRAGGG ABOUT ANY AND EVERYYTHING are simple snooty ninnys who are looking thru rose colored glasses. These are the type of people who "CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THEIR WAY" I can say this because, I see these types at my son's school. And yes there are some black women who are snooty also. They are all sickening. They tried to lump me in the "SNOOTY NINNY SISTER GROUP", but I declined They asked my why. I told them without mincing my words that they are SNOOTY AZZ WOMEN WHO MUST NOT BE USED TO ANYTHING. Each year I pick a name off the christmas tree at my son's school. These are the names of children who are less fortunate than others. Their families will ask for help during Thanksgiving and Christmas because they can't afford to buy food nor presents. I "LOVE"helping these families. On the other hand the SNOOTY NINNYS will give a can of veggies

I'm not attacking the women who enjoy the "SOCCER MOM" title ,but I must say people better be careful how they treat people When I lived in Racine, WI there was a family who thought their footprints were gold. This family had stock out the wazoo and their kids were little snooty brats also. The wife had the minks, diamonds and fine car. The kids made fun of the kids who had to ride the bus , and who did not dress like them. This family lost everything. From what I hear they are on "skidrow"no money no nothing and the socialites completely disown her. God giveths and he takeths away

 

[Buckalew]

Hmmmm. . .and I always thought of a soccer mom as an upper-middle to upper class mom who doted on her children (no nanny) and ushered them to and fro to their various programs and activities. . .a mini-van is mandatory, as is an ever-present cell phone

This is my opinion also, Peg2001. But I'll add that most of the ones I have run into are snobby. DD just finished taking tennis lessons and I had to sit with these women while DD practiced! We have a lot of them in this town (I guess everyone does). There was this attitude that they were better than average & seemed to sit there and brag on themselves more than I have ever heard in my life!

I knowing I'm lumping them all together & that probably isn't right but as a rule, they all seem the same to me. I have a sister who is one in fact. I am too much of a rebel to become a "soccer mom" myself. It definitely reminds me of high school.

Sharon, I think "soccer moms" play more tennis (which I love) than soccer. I can't imagine you (from your posts) as being the typical "soccer mom" that I think of with this term.

 

[minniecarousel]

I think the typical "soccer" mom around here either plays tennis or rides horses (got A LOT of them here!) That's not saying that all Moms who play tennis or ride are "soccer" Moms.

I was a SAHM when my kids were little. I drove carpools (in my mini-van!), went on field trips, was a Scout leader, team Mom, etc. Since the term became really popular once my kids were grown - I don't think I could be called one. For one thing, DH doesn't make that much $$ and I'm just not snobby enough!

 

[CamColt]

Ok, Im dying to know...am I a soccer mom or not? And if I am is that a good or a bad thing?

I drive a mini SUV
Im a SAHM
DS plays soccer at the Y and will be in a city league in the spring
He also takes skating classes.
I am a white suburban happily married woman with 2 kids

I dont drink coffee(Ill take diet coke)
I dont ride horses or play tennis
DH doesnt make tons of money(unfortuantely)
I dont consider myself snobbish(I dont know what I would be snobby about).
I do my own nails
My hair definitley isnt perfect...ever.

 

[mickey4ver]

Nah, you don't qualify, you are just a good ole stay at home Mom who loves her kids/family and shows it!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Some of us SAHMs have taken over soccer mom and redefined it.
We are a hardworking bunch.
The "other" group of rich, nanny-cared for children needs to get a new name.
JM2C