What have I got into?

[msprincess20]

I am one of those Disney addicted, wish I could go every year, been there 18+ times kinda wives... that married an I couldnt care less, have only been once when i was 4 kinda husbands...

I'm convinced that I can maybe possibly get my DH hooked on disney like me.. but it will be a HUGE challenge, and he keeps making it more challenging.
Here's my list of why; Doesnt like "hot" weather (70 degrees and 0% humidity is about his limit.. lol), He HATES crowds and lines..., doesnt like too much family time (we're staying in a room with my parents to make it affordable), doesnt like doing things he didnt plan himself (trying to get him involved, not working so well).
So we are going the first week of October, hoping this will help the crowd and heat (i think its still pretty hot but bareable?).We also are decent with timing our fast passes. We are taking our 2 1/2 year old with us, who's been before and done great. I'm hoping him seeing how much fun she has will help. But I need ideas of how to get him to enjoy disney!!! He also wants to enjoy some adult time and not all kiddie stuff.... ideas????
Am I destined to vacation with out him for the rest of our lives?

 

[chris31997]

What is he into? Does he like Star Wars? Golf? Sea World? Driving Fast Cars?

Try to plan something that he is into for him, even if it is just for him. Would be great if it is on property but, hey, if it will get him down there than take what you can get. I would also use the built in babysitters Do a date night with hubby. Go to Downtown Disney and hit the clubs down there. Good luck.

 

[glammadiva]

My husband sounds just like OP. He was there once, in MARCH no less, for one day and refuses to return and tells me I should just move to Orlando. For him it's too hot, too many people, too boring (yes, you read that right). I have given up, but I hope you can find something that works. I always get sad that he is not there, especially when I see couples our age. Oh, and his other reason is he doesn't like rides. Sigh. . .

 

[jazz0007]

There is hope for you!!! My husband comes from a family who never went anywhere but "up north to the cabin." Doesn't like to vacation with family...doesn't like his trips planned out or planned for him...doesn't like sweltering heat! When he started dating me 22 years ago I took him to Disney....just us, no kids, one day. He was immediately addicted!! We have now raised our kids as Disney addicts!

So....here is where I see this going. The parent thing is a problem. Not sure what to do about that!! Otherwise, October is good. Watching your 2 yo daughter's eyes light up is great!! I think you have a good shot at this!!! Good luck!!

 

[MsLeFever]

It was the good food that won my DH over - maybe a couple of good dinners would help yours!

 

[readytogotodisney]

My DH had never once gone in all of his life and still decided that he didn't like it! How can you decide you don't like it if you've never been?
So when he was down in Tampa for work, I flew down one weekend and we drove over to WDW for the day (this was before we were even engaged).
I wouldn't say he fell in love, but now he sees how excited I get about it when I'm there. Now he'll go if I ask, and as long as he doesn't rain on my spectro-magic electrical parade I'm happy with that.
Plus he always gets to go play golf 2-3 during our trips and he loves that! Especially since we we go in January and back home the courses are covered in snow and will be for another 2+ months. He gets his golf fix and I get my Disney fix.

 

[OhThePain]

Go to Downtown Disney and hit the clubs down there.

There really are no more clubs in DTD, but I do agree with having a date night or 2.

If your DH is into piano bars, Jelly Roll's at the Boardwalk might be up his ally.

Given the time you are going, a nice date night for you 2 would be to enjoy F&W just the 2 of you. Pick a night, don't make any ADR's and just enjoy what the different countries have to offer. Lots of food, lots of wine and lots of beer to be tried.

 

[GovieMom]

Well for starters, the first half of October is still VERY hot and humid. Take plenty of sunscreen for the little one. And I think a married couple sharing sleeping quarters with someone's parents is just ... awkward. No privacy, having to share one bathroom, etc. I would recommend getting connecting rooms at a value resort myself. But honestly, September (and at least half of October) are still summer in Florida. Very miserable for those not tolerant of high heat.

 

[dragonfly57005]

Take advantage of the grandparents and go on a date night or two. Get out and enjoy a nice dinner. Maybe a romantic walk around the Poly beach for fireworks.

 

[jsgrand0]

I am one of those Disney addicted, wish I could go every year, been there 18+ times kinda wives... that married an I couldnt care less, have only been once when i was 4 kinda husbands...

I'm convinced that I can maybe possibly get my DH hooked on disney like me.. but it will be a HUGE challenge, and he keeps making it more challenging.
Here's my list of why; Doesnt like "hot" weather (70 degrees and 0% humidity is about his limit.. lol), He HATES crowds and lines..., doesnt like too much family time (we're staying in a room with my parents to make it affordable), doesnt like doing things he didnt plan himself (trying to get him involved, not working so well).
So we are going the first week of October, hoping this will help the crowd and heat (i think its still pretty hot but bareable?).We also are decent with timing our fast passes. We are taking our 2 1/2 year old with us, who's been before and done great. I'm hoping him seeing how much fun she has will help. But I need ideas of how to get him to enjoy disney!!! He also wants to enjoy some adult time and not all kiddie stuff.... ideas????
Am I destined to vacation with out him for the rest of our lives?

LOL OMG I was when I read this! this is MY situation...to a tee! My DH went to Disney when he was like 4 for one day duringa beach trip, and supposedly he and his sister didnt even like it much and just wanted to "go back to the beach"!! Guess what...I finally convinced him we NEED to go and take the kids..and we are going Oct 1-8!!!!!!! It is MY mission to get him to enjoy (ok, LOVE) it, so that he will WANT to go back!! I made ADRs at Yachtsman and Le Cellier in hopes that the food would win him over, other than that...well, I'm hoping Disney will work its magic on him! We have season passes to Six Flags this summer (bought them last October) and we went the other day...and he said "I just can't imagine doing this day after day!" He is NOT excited about DIsney..it took me about 8 years of trying to convince him we need to go! Same complaints...heat...definitely LINES and CROWDS he cannot stand, has to do with all the WAITING....so I am planning to make rope drop a couple times. And planning to come back to the hotel during the afternoon (hottest, most crowded times) to relax and swim. I have also looked into the Richard Petty Driving Experience, however, he would not be interested in the "ride-along", he would want to drive himself, and that is pretty costly ($400-$500!), so it may be out. He doesn't play golf so that doesn't help.

Good Luck! And I'll be right there with you!!

 

[PoohsFan1]

Since you have grandparents that will be with you, then I would suggest doing a "Date Night". Go to a Signature restaurant somewhere on the Monorail line and then afterwards I would do the monorail crawl. At each of the different monorail resorts, stop off and get a drink at the bar and then get on the monorail and go to your next destination (minus MK of course). Then when Wishes is about to start, head over to the Poly beach and sit there (maybe with another drink in hand) and watch with your honey. My DH and I did this a few years ago and had a blast. We had dinner at California Grill, did the monorail crawl, then ended back up at California Grill to watch Wishes. It was an amazing and romantic night.

 

[DaisyMaisie]

I'm sorry you totally lost me on staying in a room with your parents. You can't swing for two value rooms? maybe have the kids stay with your parents at least one night so you can share some alone time.

 

[TandLMommy28]

My hubby was just like yours. "I went once when I was 6, why do I have to go again?" Convinced him to take the kids just once. He agreed, but he dragged his feet. By the end of the week he was talking about "next time" and having more fun than the kids.

He agreed to every other year. I was thrilled! Considering we started at "once", every other year was awesome. But then yesterday I tried to throw a trip at him for this fall and he said no way. He said going every year is frivilous and ridiculous and there are far better uses for our money than annual trips and every other year is enough and I need to learn to accept that because it's a lot more than most people get.

Sigh. At least I got him to every other year... Maybe someday, right?

 

[jsgrand0]

I'm sorry you totally lost me on staying in a room with your parents. You can't swing for two value rooms? maybe have the kids stay with your parents at least one night so you can share some alone time.

Not trying to be rude by any means, but not everyone can afford much more than a value room...it's possible that they ARE staying in 1 value room, as 4 adults and 1 child under 3 are allowed too. If not, then yes, it would be worth checking into 2 values, but would still be more expensive. It all depends how important the hotel amenities are to an individual.

I can only dream of staying in a Deluxe. (Although, if we rent points, AND register kids in YES program, it might work! But not at the current $13/pt it costs right now, and don't really know if it's worth the stress to rent from an individual...but if we go back, I may try!) While we MIGHT be able to swing a mod, I haven't seen anything in them that makes me feel they're worth the upgrade from a value. And of course, I don't mean without discounts...we couldn't go if we weren't getting a discount...we are on kids play free, which saves us about $500. Our grand total (without airfare, which will be about $900, and without spending money), our package price was $2371 staying at a value for 8d/7n. I figure since we may not be going back (my DH is NOT excited) we should stay for as long as possible. Although I still have been considering shortening our trip to 5 nights and upgrading the resort as we plan on going back to pool in the afternoons...big NO NO I know(shortening the trip)!

Ok, sorry I kind of went off in my own little world there...but seriously, some of us have to take Disney as cheap as we can, or not at all. Better to go on a tight budget than not at all!

 

[MsPeggySue911]

If your husband doesn't like the heat I would rethink going at the beginning of October and reschedule for late October early November when the temps drop down below the mid 80's.

I did a lot of research on the Orlando weather before I scheduled our trip because I am the one who hates any kind of heat and could not see myself enjoying any of our trip if I am hot and sweaty.

The temps in late October/early November are mid 70's to low 80's. Cool enough to not be DYING and warm enough to swim still.

If you can change your dates, I would. Especially if you want your husband to ever want to go back.

 

[WDSearcher]

I am one of those Disney addicted, wish I could go every year, been there 18+ times kinda wives... that married an I couldnt care less, have only been once when i was 4 kinda husbands...

I'm convinced that I can maybe possibly get my DH hooked on disney like me.. but it will be a HUGE challenge, and he keeps making it more challenging.
Here's my list of why; Doesnt like "hot" weather (70 degrees and 0% humidity is about his limit.. lol), He HATES crowds and lines..., doesnt like too much family time (we're staying in a room with my parents to make it affordable), doesnt like doing things he didnt plan himself (trying to get him involved, not working so well).
So we are going the first week of October, hoping this will help the crowd and heat (i think its still pretty hot but bareable?).We also are decent with timing our fast passes. We are taking our 2 1/2 year old with us, who's been before and done great. I'm hoping him seeing how much fun she has will help. But I need ideas of how to get him to enjoy disney!!! He also wants to enjoy some adult time and not all kiddie stuff.... ideas????
Am I destined to vacation with out him for the rest of our lives?

I really think that the first thing you need to do is get past the thought that you can make him love Disney as much as you do. The harder you try to do that, the more he will stand his ground. Make sure he understands that YOU understand that he's not going to Disney because he loves Disney. He's going to Disney because he loves you and your child. Let him know it's okay if he never ever becomes a Disneyphile -- you just want him to have fun on vacation. And if that means cutting out a park day or adding a day at the beach or something, then make that compromise. If it means he stays back at the resort for a day to get a break from "family time", then great. Compromise. There is nothing worse than dragging someone through Disney who doesn't want to be there.

And honestly? If you can swing two rooms -- even if it means going off-property -- do that. It will be worth it to you all!

 

[Zhoen]

Ok, honestly, my husband loves rollercoasters, so he'll go happily enough to Disney or any other place with rides, and the fastpasses are a bonus... but a few years ago we went with a big family group, with all the complications that involves, and anywhere there were "drinks" to be had, he had one or two... he's not a big drinker, so it didn't take much to get that warm-happy-feeling that I can get just seeing my kids looking at the castle. One of our last days, he got a frozen lemonade at AK, and my sister thought it was something else, like a margarita, I guess, and was ready to do an intervention. It was hilarious!

But I agree with the PPs, datenight if you can manage it, but if you can't, a little "liquid magic" probably wouldn't hurt here and there. (But only a little!)

 

[HersheyKisses]

Im sorry but there is no way i'd share a room with another set of grown adults ,please tell me you're talking about a suite of some sort I can not imagine laying in bed next to my husband with my parents laying in a bed right beside us in one room lol

 

[DaisyMaisie]

"Better to go on a tight budget than not at all! " I was not judging, but this post is about how to get a husband who does not like a lot of family time to enjoy the trip.

So it lost me on the staying in a room with the in-laws. If its not a value room, I suggested going value instead. Frankly if it is a value with inlaws a couple and a toddler. I am not sure that I agree that it is better to go now than not at all. I think I would rather save up.

Michelle

 

[hookedonears]

I am one of those Disney addicted, wish I could go every year, been there 18+ times kinda wives... that married an I couldnt care less, have only been once when i was 4 kinda husbands...

I'm convinced that I can maybe possibly get my DH hooked on disney like me.. but it will be a HUGE challenge, and he keeps making it more challenging.
Here's my list of why; Doesnt like "hot" weather (70 degrees and 0% humidity is about his limit.. lol), He HATES crowds and lines..., doesnt like too much family time (we're staying in a room with my parents to make it affordable), doesnt like doing things he didnt plan himself (trying to get him involved, not working so well).
So we are going the first week of October, hoping this will help the crowd and heat (i think its still pretty hot but bareable?).We also are decent with timing our fast passes. We are taking our 2 1/2 year old with us, who's been before and done great. I'm hoping him seeing how much fun she has will help. But I need ideas of how to get him to enjoy disney!!! He also wants to enjoy some adult time and not all kiddie stuff.... ideas????
Am I destined to vacation with out him for the rest of our lives?

I agree with him on alot of those issues. The best way around many of them as you know is to get to the parks early and leave no later than 12:30 PM. Allow plenty of rest time around the pool where ever you stay. Everyone should do their own thing, meaning, plan to only meet up with the family for meals and he should be good. We'd usually go back to the parks for a few hours after an early dinner each evening, but usually only to ride a few rides and do the parades and fireworks. Just put him on RR Coaster and he'll be hooked, just like you.