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[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by minniepumpernickel
This is the second time today that I've noticed one of your posts. You must be a special person. You explain things so well.

I hope that your son is doing well also .

Either way, I feel sorry for the poster that we are analyzing too.

Just had to jump in and add that Amazing Grace is one of the nicest, sweetest most amazing people on the DIS.

I don't really know much about the poster being analyzed. I just really hope she was not using her baby to try and scam people. On the other hand, I'd rather that than to find out a 4 year old girl just got diagnosed with cancer.

 

[DopeyRN]

Meowww! The claws are flying.

OK...I'd like permission to post. As soon as I read it I knew it was not right...was very very obvious. I feel bumbles was sorta attacked here. I would be one who tended to post here if something bad happened. I would not, however be worrying about how can I still pay for my WDW trip.

 

[TeresaNJ]

So true DopeyRN. For as much as I love WDW, I can't even IMAGINE thinking about a Disney trip after finding out my child had any kind of cancer or serious illness. I didn't read this person's posts about her child's cancer, but I find it extremely odd that she would still be posting on the cruise board late today asking questions concerning the Disney cruise. Very odd.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Well said, Loriann.

 

[Hillbeans]

I saw the OP earlier today and it really sent up a red flag with me. She wasn't asking for money for health insurance donations, she said that her ex DH didn't have health insurance and he was supposed to through their child support agreement.

Then she said her daughter was sitting on her lap and she didn't have the nerve to tell her she couldn't go to WDW, oh and that she also had Cancer.

The post was gross....she specifically asked if there was any way to set up a fund to pay for her WDW trip and she "said" she made calls to Make a wish and World wishes.

If my DS was diagnosed with Cancer, I doubt my next phone call would be to Make a wish to find out how I can get to Disney for free. I specifically didn't post because I thought it was an extremely poor taste post and i'd not be any part of it.

I'm not trying to judge here, but seriously...some people are not well.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Originally posted by Divamomto3
This is called Munchaussen's Syndrome by Proxy. Someone makes up symptoms and elaborate illnesses in their children to get attention.

I think in some cases it's just called FRAUD!

 

[zurgswife]

I went back tonight perused her posts for the past month or so...she is really flakey and obsesisve(sp).....and since her post was totally removed..she has continued to post like there is nothing wrong....there is something really wrong with that....

 

[shelbyjosh]

She also said that they had to do further "tests" to see if it was benign or malignant. So, she really doesn't even know what's wrong with her DD..if anything. When I read the 1st post I smelled a rat right away.

Just another flake on the DIS!!

 

[PigletsPal]

Originally posted by Feralpeg
I think the whole thing is sad (true or not). However, before we make quick judgements. My doctor called me on the phone to tell me that I had breast cancer. Yes, it was a shock and hard to take since I was home alone. It does happen.

I was also called on my cell phone with my dx. of breast cancer last year and I was out in a scrapbooking store also alone. So I'm sorry to say yes it does happen.
I feel very sad for her little girl if what she said is true. I'm hoping that she may have been in shock and thought she could come here to talk about it. Sometime its easer to talk with strangers so it doesn't have to feel real.

 

[tink2]

Get out of town!!!! I was the first poster after the OP. I didn't catch that the trip was 2 years away...oh well, call me gullable! That makes me so angry! As a mother- my heart was breaking for her and they were on my mind the rest of the afternoon. I can't imagine making up a story like that about my children- or any children. Wow, I guess that is the state of the world today!
I, too, would love to know what she said on her apology! I wonder if all the posts about prayer bothered her conscience any?

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by Bumbles
With all due respect to Disney lovers, but if I found out today that my child had brain cancer....the last thing on my mind would be a WDW trip

Heck, I'd be so devastated I couldn't function enough to even post on a message board

When my godson was diagnosed with cancer, after the initial crying the first thing I did was plan a trip to WDW with him. He was only 2 and had never been there before, I wanted to make sure he got there just in case he died. He made that trip and about 5 or 6 others I took him on there before he did die. When you hear your child has cancer people all react in different ways..though in order to diagnose his brain tumors he did have to have a CAT scan, not just blood work. For someone to lie about their child having cancer is one of the sickest things I could ever think of....living though it is hell and I can't imagine even saying my child had it and didn't...very very bad Karma!!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Well, having never read the post , I don't really know. I don't know her, and I don't know how she deals with grief, everyone copes differently. From what Sandra said here, it sounds like she was concerned about paying for medical bills, and that she'd have to cancel the trip that her DD was excited about?

I could be wrong. I don't know.

I think most if not all of us are in agreement that if this is true, and a 4 year old child has just been diagnosed with cancer, we are sending our prayers and good wishes and hoping for her to survive.

I also think most of us are in agreement that the poster may have come across as looking for money. Now, if she was doing this because she was concerned about her DDs health, I think in time, when she calms down, she'll find out more info and contact a group like Make a Wish. If it's true that her DD is ill, than who knows what was going through her head.

She could have just been rambling on, random thoughts and pressing "post" without really thinking about how she might be percieved? If she's somewhat flaky anyway, maybe with the added stress of finding out this news, she just really was not thinking.

However, if she really was trying to scam people, which for all I know she could be, I think we all agree that that is sick. To use a child for financial gain to take a trip is horrible.

Really, will we ever know 100% for sure?

IMO, I *hope* she was trying to scam. Because I'd rather that than to find out that yet another child has cancer.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Amazing Grace--This is the first I've read about your son. What an awful thing for you to go through! I'm certainly hoping (praying too) that he's doing well now.

ElizabethB--I totally agree with your point about not knowing how you'll react to a crisis or tragedy. (Very interesting story about 9/11 BTW.)

My father had a form of brain cancer that eventually killed him. It took 8 years, during which time we had lots of ups and downs.

I was always a real daddy's girl, and whenever things didn't look good for him, I imagined that if the worst happened, I'd be a blubbering, hysterical mess.

It was a solid week after he died that I could finally cry. Me--who cries at the drop of a hat normally. I've been known to get broken up over telephone commercials.

Yet, when Daddy died, I was either so shocked, no tears could come out, or I was heartbroken beyond tears.

I don't know which to this day--but I'll tell you guys this. When it happened, I did NOT react the way I thought I would.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Originally posted by zurgswife
I went back tonight perused her posts for the past month or so...she is really flakey and obsesisve(sp).....and since her post was totally removed..she has continued to post like there is nothing wrong....there is something really wrong with that....

I read through her posts too, and I agree with you. She does sound very flakey and obsessive. I'm surprised people kept responding to her.
Does she really think she can just keep posting like that?

 

[Pam]

Just another flake on the DIS!!

HEY NOW!! I resemble that remark!!!!

 

[Trish5768]

Well said EsmeraldaX.

I did get to read the posts before they were pulled and I have to admit that I just did not know what to make of it.

 

[year2late]

I can fully understand folks having different reactions of shock regarding that kind of diagnosis. I have been a nurse for over 20 years and have seen it all. What I cannot understand is asking for money for a trip that is two years away from 60000 strangers the day you find out the news. She was resistive to Make a Wish.

It also appears as if she had a cruise in the works for this December with her boyfriend - seems a no brainer to cancel that one and apply the money to the WDW trip.

It is sad that we have to second guess folks' intentions.

But haven't we been burned by this before?

My humblest of apologies to the OP if her child is truly sick.

 

[kimbac3]

When my nephew(also my Godson and used to call me his "daytime mommy" when I babysat him) was diagnosed with AML (a type of Lukemia) we didn't think of anything past "He's gotta live." Several months down the road and right before his bone marrow transplant someone from the hospital approached my sister about the Make A Wish Foundation. They all did go to WDW. It had to be done pre bone marrow transplant because he had to be kept fairly isolated after the transplant.. The trip was sad for my sister. She couldn't really relax with the transplant looming over her and the trip while nice wasn't what she planned
(Kind of a sad reason for a trip).
The last thing SHE thought of was a fundraiser. However people are amazing and kind and all their needs were met.

By the way this all happened when my nephew was 9. He's 18 now and a senior in H.S. and doing extremely well

Kimba

 

[janette]

One of my nephews had bone cancer when he was 8, it took about 2 weeks to get the diagnosis. My sister looked at the MRI sheet that she was told to take to a different Dr and looked up the words on the internet so she had an idea of what they suspected even before the Dr told her.

As with Kimba's nephew Make-A-Wish contacted them, the hospitals here that treat children with cancer will refer them.

It isn't a new DIS policy not to allow soliciations for that type of thing. Disney also has a policy of not working with individuals but with organizations like Make-A-Wish also.

If you'd like to help kids with cancer we can by donating to give kids the world .

There is nothing wrong with asking for donations in your child's name but a DIS post isn't how it's done. Read http://www.scotthousehold.com/ , a beautiful example of parents that are dealing with their child's illness but also realizing that even if she doesn't win her battle maybe she can inspire people to help others.

 

[kbeverina]

Yikes. When I lived in southwestern Virginia, they had a saying--"Don't paint the devil on the wall". Yikes.

When my 4-year-old was diagnosed with diabetes, there really was no sense of future at all. I was thinking completely in the present.

There was a booklet for "Make A Wish" in his hospital paperwork--I was horrified. Who can think of that when you're in those first days of diagnosis.

I can see posting here if you've formed bonds with people, but for support, not for trip-planning.