What happened?

[Disney1fan2002]

My Dh and I have been married for 7 years. Together for 10.5 years. Things between us have become almost scary. I have felt for a long time he does not respect me, and I have been questioning if I even love him. The bedroom has been same old, same old for years. Just going through the motions, you know?

What happened this weekend? It started Saturday night when I got home from work (no need for details ) Then yesterday, we spent the day at Foxwoods in Ct. (my former co-workers hired a bus) and I just wanted to be near him all day. If he went to check out some slot machines while I was at a table, it wasn't long before I had to go look for him. Neither one of us had a nasty thing to say to each other all day. Normally, especially when I am with my friends, I would rather hang with them than with him. We got on the bus to go home, and I discovered I was the only one who hung out with my DH all day, Everyone else went in different directions from each other and met up for lunch, then took off again.


Last night, we even snuggled on the couch....can you say DECADE? since that has happened around here.

He's at work tonight, and I can't wait for him to come home. Thinking of him puts a smile on my face. WHAT THE ?????

I have heard it can happen to couples, that they get their spark back, but I thought we were too far gone. I like it!

 

[parrothead365]

Don't know , but fan that spark into a good flame!!!

 

[hiwaygal]

I was getting prepared for a very sad post about how things were falling apart in your marriage (those are such scary posts)...

But what a wonderful thing to read!!!

Congratulations to you...and I agree with parrothead365...fan that spark!!!

 

[MagicalMom]

I'm so happy for you! Any chance you've been praying for your marriage? I've found that praying for a tighter bond & deeper love can work wonders.

 

[mtblujeans]

My Dh and I have been married for 7 years. Together for 10.5 years......

The timing is about right....takes about 10 years for things to get really good! Glad you found the

 

[luv2nascar]

I am so glad to read your post. I thought you were headed down the wrong path in your marriage. I am so happy to hear you have found that old something something. I am just shy of 11 years and it waxes and waned at times. Its always good when its good.

 

[Serena]

I'm very glad things are looking up for you.

 

[FayeW]

We've been married nearly 16 years, and together for 18. In my experience, marriage is often cyclical. You go through really good periods, and some really bad ones. Sounds like you are on an upswing, good for you!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Very nice.

 

[MAKmom]

Sometimes thing are just your state of mind. I'm happy for you.

 

[canwegosoon]

I am glad it happened for you...wish it would happen for me...

 

[Sleeping~Beauty]

I also thought the post was going in another direction. I am so happy for you that you got that spark back. Yay!

 

[dmslush]

Good for you!!!! I often say that I fall in love with Ken all over again when we go on vacation. There is just something about a trip away from the home that will make me swoon over him like never before! I think it is just the little shot in the arm that our relationship needs every so often.

 

[Duchie]

Well, this made me feel all .

Way to go!

 

[FreshTressa]

We've been married nearly 16 years, and together for 18. In my experience, marriage is often cyclical. You go through really good periods, and some really bad ones. Sounds like you are on an upswing, good for you!

Yep...if you can make it through the "downs" you get the reward of the "ups"!

I'm so happy for you guys!

 

[Nancyg56]

I'm glad that I read your post. I thought that it was going to be sad, but nice surprise! I have been with my DH for 25 years, adn can attest to the truth of the PP's who say that marriage is cyclical. Maybe fan the flame a little and enjoy this time together.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Awwww. I love love. It's so...lovely.

 

[TerriP]

Yahoo...a post about finding that "spark" again instead of another post about the spark going out!

I think what you are describing is one of the BEST parts about marriage. Sure, there are time (sometimes looooong times!) where it seems like all we talk about are bills, repairs to the cars or the house, whose turn is it to take out the garbage, etc... Pretty boring and uneventful. It will start to feel like we're roomates instead of lovers. Then, one day, one of us will get the "bug" again. Something will turn our head and BOOOOOOM! We're cuddling, giggling, calling each other all the time...we're in LOVE!

I think love ebbs and flows. I don't think you can be crazy in love ALL the time, I'd think you'd go nuts (see: Tom Cruise ). A good marriage (to me) allows you the room to have those times when other things seem to take precedent (kids, jobs, family, etc...) but then gives you a warm place to land when you come back "home".

 

[VSL]

I was getting prepared for a very sad post about how things were falling apart in your marriage (those are such scary posts)...

But what a wonderful thing to read!!!

Congratulations to you...and I agree with parrothead365...fan that spark!!!

ITA!

 

[L107ANGEL]

Thats great!!