What does this mean? (relationship question)

[PryncessChrysty]

I think it's totally normal. Even though we may be completely in love with the person we are with, you are still you're own person. Doing what *you* like to do on your own every now and again is perfectly fine, and healthy.
Some people are more independent than others. Being an idependent person myself, I've come across quite a few people down the road that just don't understand how in the world I could even think of going to the mall by myself, or ordering in and renting a movie by myself, especially when I have DH-2-Be to come along with me. Personally, I can't imagine how *those* people can get along without ever having a moment to themselves. I find that when we have a day or so apart, we are that much happier when we get to see each other again. It sort of breaks up the monotony.

Oh, and as for his mother, try to let it roll off your back. She will always find a chance to try to make you feel bad. It's just in their nature, most of them view you as the woman taking their son away from them. To mother's, no woman is good enough for the son, no matter how well you might get along with her.
Sorry for the rambling, I just really understand your plight

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Originally posted by Maleficent13
Yes, my SO is Viggo (yeah, right!)...

Were you with him at the Four Seasons?

Time apart is very healthy and good for both of you.

 

[2bemarried]

Your future MIL is exaggerating!!!

Alone time is healthy for a relationship. My favorite time to be at the mall is when I'm ALONE....then I can browse as much as I want. He loves to have Friday night cave time when I'm out scrapbooking. It's what makes the relationship work.

I think you're right to want some alone time, tell the FMIL to mind her own business

 

[cats7494]

Completely normal!
I am still considered a "newlywed"...yes, I love my DH dearly and I am thrilled to have him in my life.....BUT I still need alone time!!

It has nothing to do with "how much I love him" or anything like that...I treasure spending time with my family, but I also treasure time to myself...

It is not healthy to not have "alone" time...as someone said earlier..you can lose who you are...

YES!!! It is ok! Now go home, spend time by yourself and do NOT feel guilty!

 

[decker96]

It's totally normal to want to be by yourself sometimes. I've been married for 8 years and have a great relationship, partly because DH and I both like to be by ourselves sometimes. I think if you feel you need to be with your SO every waking moment, you don't really trust the relationship very much.

 

[totalia]

No. Everyone needs time apart sometimes. Just don't let it go too far. If it becomes much more enjoyable to do things by yourself all the time then you have a relationship problem.