What does "She's sure let herself go" mean?

[DisneyBeagle]

In the past few weeks I have had a couple of friends mention that a classmate has "sure let herself go." What exactly does that mean to you?

 

[Sgt Mickey]

Maybe gained alot of weight and not cared about excercise.
Not cared about what they wear. As far as maybe used to dress up now only wearing dirty sweats.
Maybe stopped wearing make up.
Dosen't bother with hair or wear it up.
Not care about hygene.

 

[cmariew]

I would guess that it means the person has gained some weight and maybe doesn't wear a lot of makeup or have a trendy haircut.

 

[LuvOrlando]

It tells me that the people saying those things are mean-spirited, vacuous and shallow. If you consider them to be friends I'd be careful.

I wonder, did any of these viper tongues check to see if this person was going through something terrible? Could be sick? Lost a loved one? Family in financial trouble?

Not cool at all in my world.

 

[wvjules]

Maybe gained alot of weight and not cared about excercise.
Not cared about what they wear. As far as maybe used to dress up now only wearing dirty sweats.
Maybe stopped wearing make up.
Dosen't bother with hair or wear it up.
Not care about hygene.

I would guess that it means the person has gained some weight and maybe doesn't wear a lot of makeup or have a trendy haircut.

What they said.

What do you think it means?

 

[Mermaid02]

It means they think she is unattractive and it's all her own fault.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

It tells me that the people saying those things are mean-spirited, vacuous and shallow. If you consider them to be friends I'd be careful.

I wonder, did any of these viper tongues check to see if this person was going through something terrible? Could be sick? Lost a loved one? Family in financial trouble?

Not cool at all in my world.

I don't know if it is always mean. It could mean a person is suffering from depression and it is a sign their friends are worried

 

[TiggerTails57]

Means they are secretly jealous and mean spirited.........

 

[Carly_Roach]

It tells me that the people saying those things are mean-spirited, vacuous and shallow.

Exactly. That comment says much more about the person making it than the person they're judging.

In all cases, when someone I know makes these kinds of comments, I start closing down those relationships. They become acquaintences rather than good friends because if they'll say that about her, then they'll say that (or worse) about me.

But, to answer the question, when the mean-spirited, vacuous and shallow say, "She's let herself go", they probably mean that person has gained weight, or doesn't wear makeup anymore, or has some other physical attribute that they are judging negatively.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

What they said.

What do you think it means?

That's what I imagined they were saying, but I was wondering at what point does someone say that? I guess I have never thought about using that phrase. We all have moments when we have gained weight or wear sweat pants more than we should. I just can't think of anyone that I know that I would say that about.

 

[luvmy3]

I think it means that a person has a noticable negative change in their appearance compared to what they used to look like. I don't think it always means the person who said it shallow or mean spirited, who knows if the person that they are talking about was always dressed to the nines, hair was always clean and styled and make-up perfect and suddenly they were dressing in sweats, hair unkempt and maybe even sometimes dirty and clearly not caring about appearances anymore.

 

[Ember]

I've always heard the phrase in terms of someone who spends their days putting everyone else first in their lives. I know the phrase has negative connotations (there's been a debate about it on here before), but I guess I've just never taken it as such. Though I'm sure there are people who yield the words as a way to be mean.

Right now I feel like I've really let myself go. Since June, when I moved home to care for my mum, I simply haven't had time or money for the luxuries of life I used to enjoy. I haven't been to the gym in six months and I feel yucky (I try to use the dinky one downstairs but it's hard take any time away). I used to get my hair done every four months or so and I've resorted to cutting my own bangs. I still try to dress nicely for work, but in my personal like I don't dress nearly as nicely as I used to.

There are people who will tell you that caring about your looks is shallow. But I think that when you looks good it makes you feel good and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Anyway, that's just my opinion.

 

[momrek06]

"let herself go" = to take less care of your appearance. Found this meaning when googling it.

I do not think it means to be jealous or mean....I really think it means to have maybe gained some weight. Maybe stop wearing make-up or styling her hair.

 

[Rora]

IMO it means she's stopped caring about her physical apperance- maybe gained weight, doesn't bother with makeup like she used to, a noticable change in her clothing, overall style and attitude.

 

[pearlieq]

It tells me that the people saying those things are mean-spirited, vacuous and shallow.

Exactly. It means "I am a catty, mean-spirited person who is insecure enough to need to put other people down. Watch your back."

 

[WeLoveLilo05]

Is this classmate ok? As everyone mentioned if could mean any of those things. But you have to think to yourself is something going on at home? is she going through some difficult times? financial troubles? does she have a family? I know that ever since I had my daughter (5 years ago) I don't fuss over myself anywhere near as much as I used to. Maybe she is just busy running kids her or there, getting them up early, etc. Maybe she's got a crazy routine at home and is tired? broke up with a boyfriend? family member sick?

I hope everything is ok with your classmate, and I know that you are not saying anything negative about her, but I hope your other classmates are more worried about her well being then her looks.

 

[DisTeach1]

I think it means that a person has a noticable negative change in their appearance compared to what they used to look like. I don't think it always means the person who said it shallow or mean spirited, who knows if the person that they are talking about was always dressed to the nines, hair was always clean and styled and make-up perfect and suddenly they were dressing in sweats, hair unkempt and maybe even sometimes dirty and clearly not caring about appearances anymore.

Thank you, I also don't think it means the person is always being mean. I've said it before, I've had friends say it...Am I supposed to cut everyone out of my life who says a mean or nasty comment? I've said mean and nasty things, and so have most of the people that I know at one time or another. No one is perfect, except for the some of the posters on the DIS who have never done or said one wrong thing in their entire lives.

As far as what the comment means...I've said it recently about my sister, when talking about her to two of my best friends who have known us our entire lives. And what I think it means...To me, it means that the stress of her life is really, really taking a toll on every aspect of her being, including her looks. It's showing that what is going on inside is being reflected on the outside. It's not mean, and was said in concern, but all my friends have noticed and commented on it, again not in a mean way.

I've always been well put together. If I gained 50 lbs, wore sweats, no makeup, and dirty hair, I would expect people who know and love me to comment and be concerned, because it would be a total change.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I think letting yourself go just means you can visually tell the person that used to put an effort in to how they looked just doesn't anymore.

On What Not to Wear there's always women on there that have "let themselves go" because (their excuse) they're Mom's and Stacy and Clinton show them that you still should take care of yourself and care what you look like and it can be comfortable and not take a lot of time. I'm amazed at my one friend who has two girls under the age of 2, works full time, and always looks put together and takes good care of herself and her family.

 

[Willa]

I've always heard the phrase in terms of someone who spends their days putting everyone else first in their lives. I know the phrase has negative connotations (there's been a debate about it on here before), but I guess I've just never taken it as such. Though I'm sure there are people who yield the words as a way to be mean.

Right now I feel like I've really let myself go. Since June, when I moved home to care for my mum, I simply haven't had time or money for the luxuries of life I used to enjoy. I haven't been to the gym in six months and I feel yucky (I try to use the dinky one downstairs but it's hard take any time away). I used to get my hair done every four months or so and I've resorted to cutting my own bangs. I still try to dress nicely for work, but in my personal like I don't dress nearly as nicely as I used to.

There are people who will tell you that caring about your looks is shallow. But I think that when you looks good it makes you feel good and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

Anyway, that's just my opinion.

Just wanted to give you a and tell you to hang in there. You will never regret this time that you're giving to your mother, as hard as it is right now.

 

[RitaE]

To me it mostly means weight, which leads to health problems which often leads to appearance. Although there are many overweight people who are attractive.

And in my case it could be mean spirited and catty but it would also be accurate. When I gain weight it is because I'm not controlling what I eat, not exercising, and not taking care of my health. It's all on me - I let it happen.