What do your children's bf/gf call you

[Tiggeroo]

my kids are in their early 20's. Two of them have very serious bf/gf's. Do they call you mr./mrs...... or by your first name? When did you switch to your first name if you did? Does it seem normal?

 

[Magic Mom]

DS's last long term girlfriend called me *****. Of course not to my face. To my face she refused to call me anything. But she was psychotic so she doesn't count. Other girlfriends call me Mrs. "Lastname".

 

[Agri]

Mine have always called my mom Ms. XXXXXX. Unless I marry them, I'd be miffed if they thought they could start calling her by her first name. It's rude and overly familiar for my tastes. (One ex called my mom by her first name in conversation with me and I promptly told him that we weren't engaged so he needed to refer to her as Ms. XXXXXX.)

Of course, I'm the sort of person that anytime an adult said to just call them by their first name as a child I never did it - it creeped me out that an adult wanted me to address them they same way I would a peer. I either felt that they were facetiously trying to gain my trust (like a school counselor) or they were just...creepy. I was raised to call my elders Mr/Mrs/Ms so that's what I did.

(Of course, I had an ex that said I should call his mom by her first name, but she never told me that herself. Apparently that was one reason she never liked me - because I called her Ms. XXXXXXX - even though she never said ANYTHING to me about it. That family was so messed up though, I was so grateful to escape in a lot of ways.)

Now that I'm almost 30, I've just now started calling some family friends by their first name - it started out as being mostly for my mom's benefit as she didn't always remember their last names right after her surgery.

 

[dsny1mom]

My last name starts with G so the kid's SO's call me Mama G.

dsny1mom

 

[Acklander]

We're pretty casual here, so the kid's friends have always just called us by our first name. No one seems creeped out by it.

 

[LBAK]

My last name starts with a "B" so they call me Mrs. B.

 

[quasar4legs]

I'm a first name kind of gal.
I have always encouraged all my son's friends to call me by first name.

 

[BeefJerky]

I called my MIL "Mrs.So and so" while we were dating. I still call her that until she tells me different. My SIL calls her by her first name but I can't do it until she tells me.

 

[jennyf2]

Pretty Casual here.....We have kids over ALL the time & it varies...either First Name or Ms. F (first letter of last name)

 

[Jennasis]

Both DH and I referred to each other's parents by their first name when we were dating and it continues now that we are married.

 

[SadieDog]

We are casual here as well. I have always had my kids friends call me by my 1st name.

 

[bigbabyblues]

When I started dating DH, his parents both introduced themselves using their first names, and that's what they told me to call them. His grandma told me her name and then told me to call her Grandma if I didn't mind because everyone my age called her that whether they were her grandkids or not.

When MIL calls now, or signs a card or whatever, she calls herself Mom. It doesn't bother me at all.

 

[laurafergie]

My last name starts with G so the kid's SO's call me Mama G.

dsny1mom

I am known as Mama Ferg to all. Though DS24's long time GF calls me by my first name.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Regardless of what they do call you, what they should call you is Mr. or Mrs. Lastname...until you invite them to call you otherwise.

 

[Pembo]

Regardless of what they do call you, what they should call you is Mr. or Mrs. Lastname...until you invite them to call you otherwise.

I agree!!

 

[DMickey28]

Looking back, I can't remember any boyfriend's in HS or college that I spent enough time with the family to call their mom's anything! LOL.

Everyone called my mom, Mrs. Lastname. When I met my DH she introduced herself as her first name but I didn't feel comfortable calling her that until a few years ago. We have been together for 9 years. Before that, I think I waited until I had her attention to speak with her! LOL. My DH calls my parents by their first name. Not sure if it was always like that.

 

[java]

My ds is 16 so there have been only 2 long term ones. Both called me Mom and I was fine with that. I fed them so often they felt like my own kids.

 

[meeshi]

My dd's fiance calls dh and I by our first names. Actually most, if not all of their friends call us by our first names.

 

[Feralpeg]

Some of them call me by my first name. Others call me Ms. I don't tell them what to call me, although I always introduce myself as Peggy. I leave it up to them to decide what makes them comfortable. Either way is fine with me.

 

[Robinrs]

At first Miss Lastname, then Miss Robin.