What do you think of this gift request? Update...No Wii

[DarthKTrava]

Another update, I have been hearing through the family grapevine that this is not a "group gift", as in, not from the whole family but strictly from the parents and we would just be anonymously helping the parents out.

My cousin (who is the sister of the rude e-mail person) sent me an email (with liberal use of swear words, lol) saying she couldn't believe the tackiness. It was hilarious. And she did go ahead and send them an email saying that she had wanted to buy her kids laptops but could not afford them, so she would just keep the $20 she'd have sent for the Wii and consider it their donation to the laptops and they're even, lol.

Seems like aside from my mom and one aunt, there is not a lot of takers.

If they had just gone about this properly, and much earlier, they probably would have scored okay.

If ya can't afford it yourself, don't go asking everyone else to donate for a gift that they wouldn't even be acknowledged for in the first place. Your cousin did right.

My sister mentioned gift ideas for her and her daughter (and bf) to have for their house awhile back. It wasn't expensive. Although I couldn't get sis what she wanted due to low funds. Maybe for her birthday next month....

 

[Halloweenqueen]

I have a similar story.

I usually spend about $75 on my sister's christmas gift. I had spent about $30 on one gift when I received a call from her. She was in the Coach store, waiting in line to buy another purse. As she told me about her new purchase she said you came up with the perfect gift for me to buy her. She said how she couldn't afford to get her hair dyed.

She asked for me to call the salon and get a gift certificate. I told her I had already bought her something. She then asked what it was (which I didn't tell her), then asked if I would return it.

I called the salon the next day and found that her treatment costs $150. I paid for a gift certificate of $50 and had the stylist hold it for her. I live 2500 miles from the place and it was too late to get it sent to me, just to send it to her.

I emailed her the information and she called me back the next day. She was very rude and asked how she was going to use a $50 gift card for dying her hair. I told her that was my budget and I was sorry.

She hasn't talked to me since. It's been a week now. I know this shouldn't matter, but she never gives us gifts, not even the kids. She is single, with a very nice profession. I'm just amazed at this response.

I sent her the other gift btw. With the gift receipt. She can return it.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I have a similar story.

I usually spend about $75 on my sister's christmas gift. I had spent about $30 on one gift when I received a call from her. She was in the Coach store, waiting in line to buy another purse. As she told me about her new purchase she said you came up with the perfect gift for me to buy her. She said how she couldn't afford to get her hair dyed.

She asked for me to call the salon and get a gift certificate. I told her I had already bought her something. She then asked what it was (which I didn't tell her), then asked if I would return it.

I called the salon the next day and found that her treatment costs $150. I paid for a gift certificate of $50 and had the stylist hold it for her. I live 2500 miles from the place and it was too late to get it sent to me, just to send it to her.

I emailed her the information and she called me back the next day. She was very rude and asked how she was going to use a $50 gift card for dying her hair. I told her that was my budget and I was sorry.

She hasn't talked to me since. It's been a week now. I know this shouldn't matter, but she never gives us gifts, not even the kids. She is single, with a very nice profession. I'm just amazed at this response.

I sent her the other gift btw. With the gift receipt. She can return it.

I guess it didn't occur to her that if she bought her purse that it would limit her resources to get her hair done.

I might have apologized and suggested she return the purse and she'd have plenty of money to get her hair done.

 

[RangerPooh]

It just shows that every family has someone who lacks class.

 

[DarthKTrava]

I have a similar story.

I usually spend about $75 on my sister's christmas gift. I had spent about $30 on one gift when I received a call from her. She was in the Coach store, waiting in line to buy another purse. As she told me about her new purchase she said you came up with the perfect gift for me to buy her. She said how she couldn't afford to get her hair dyed.

She asked for me to call the salon and get a gift certificate. I told her I had already bought her something. She then asked what it was (which I didn't tell her), then asked if I would return it.

I called the salon the next day and found that her treatment costs $150. I paid for a gift certificate of $50 and had the stylist hold it for her. I live 2500 miles from the place and it was too late to get it sent to me, just to send it to her.

I emailed her the information and she called me back the next day. She was very rude and asked how she was going to use a $50 gift card for dying her hair. I told her that was my budget and I was sorry.

She hasn't talked to me since. It's been a week now. I know this shouldn't matter, but she never gives us gifts, not even the kids. She is single, with a very nice profession. I'm just amazed at this response.

I sent her the other gift btw. With the gift receipt. She can return it.

"She is officially advised to get over it".

Her and her privileged butt can go get her hair done with the money she wasted on a coach bag.

Honestly, after acting like that, I wouldn't have gotten her a freaking thing.

My new BIL acted like a total butt on Thanksgiving Day. Ruining not only my holiday but everyone there. He got knocked off the Christmas list.

 

[Wall-E1]

I would turn these emails over to the proper authorities. This sounds like one of those Nigerian email scams.

 

[Stacerita]

I have a similar story.

I usually spend about $75 on my sister's christmas gift. I had spent about $30 on one gift when I received a call from her. She was in the Coach store, waiting in line to buy another purse. As she told me about her new purchase she said you came up with the perfect gift for me to buy her. She said how she couldn't afford to get her hair dyed.

She asked for me to call the salon and get a gift certificate. I told her I had already bought her something. She then asked what it was (which I didn't tell her), then asked if I would return it.

I called the salon the next day and found that her treatment costs $150. I paid for a gift certificate of $50 and had the stylist hold it for her. I live 2500 miles from the place and it was too late to get it sent to me, just to send it to her.

I emailed her the information and she called me back the next day. She was very rude and asked how she was going to use a $50 gift card for dying her hair. I told her that was my budget and I was sorry.

She hasn't talked to me since. It's been a week now. I know this shouldn't matter, but she never gives us gifts, not even the kids. She is single, with a very nice profession. I'm just amazed at this response.

I sent her the other gift btw. With the gift receipt. She can return it.

I can't believe the nerve of her. She is mad because you bought her a gift AND a gift certificate???

I would turn these emails over to the proper authorities. This sounds like one of those Nigerian email scams.

 

[okeydokey]

I have a similar story.

I usually spend about $75 on my sister's christmas gift. I had spent about $30 on one gift when I received a call from her. She was in the Coach store, waiting in line to buy another purse. As she told me about her new purchase she said you came up with the perfect gift for me to buy her. She said how she couldn't afford to get her hair dyed.

She asked for me to call the salon and get a gift certificate. I told her I had already bought her something. She then asked what it was (which I didn't tell her), then asked if I would return it.

I called the salon the next day and found that her treatment costs $150. I paid for a gift certificate of $50 and had the stylist hold it for her. I live 2500 miles from the place and it was too late to get it sent to me, just to send it to her.

I emailed her the information and she called me back the next day. She was very rude and asked how she was going to use a $50 gift card for dying her hair. I told her that was my budget and I was sorry.

She hasn't talked to me since. It's been a week now. I know this shouldn't matter, but she never gives us gifts, not even the kids. She is single, with a very nice profession. I'm just amazed at this response.

I sent her the other gift btw. With the gift receipt. She can return it.

Why in the world would she expect a gift from you if she never gives any? Maybe next year you should reciprocate in kind!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Why in the world would she expect a gift from you if she never gives any? Maybe next year you should reciprocate in kind!

Well...b/c she is broke of course!

I have a relative like this--only she did give us gifts b/c that is what DH's family did. Until this year--this year there is no gift exhcange. Cancelled b/c fo the economy. She even admitted to feeling pinched.

But that didnt' stop her from giving out her Christmas list. Nor did the economy affect her ability to do a number of things she ahs posted on facebook. Like her weekly girls night outs--Cheesecake Factory, Melting Pot...or her shopping excursions--though frugal, she shops a lot! If you are pinched, bragging about all that you do means you are busted!

Hey--I dont' mind not getting a gift--but dont' fake it and lie to me and cry poverty when you are doing just fine. It is just irritating that I got a copy of her list and her DF's list--just in case we were wondering when there is absolutely zero intention on her part of getting us anything since the exchange was cancelled.

So I'm all for repaying in kind.

We are reconsidering our gift giving since DH did find a job and we now finally know what his paycheck will be. But I'll be durned if I'm shopping off of her stinkin' list.

 

[Katy Belle]

My SIL pulls this stuff all the time. Rude. I always make sure to have the gifts purchased well in advance and she always waits until about 3 days before the holiday to ask...so I just tell her, sorry, I've already purchased his gift. BUT some other family members give the gift they've already purchased and pitch in cash. Irriatating.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i can't believe they emailed the entire family asking THEM to pay for THEIR kids Wii system!! what!?!? there's no way i'd be giving them any money! it's their kids, they should be paying for it!

 

[Skywalker]

I also found out that they didn't just email my side of the family, but also the husband's entire side of the family, and their friends as well. WTH? Are they planning to contribute ANY amount for it themselves?

 

[DSNY4ever]

Blech that is pretty bad.

My husband's family can be like this sometimes. One year we got a request for specific gifts from our SIL/BIL for our nephews and I had already bought their gifts. My husband went out and bought all of the things they said we should get them and I said "no way are we giving them both gifts"- and I had already wrapped the other gifts...we saved them and on their birthdays they each got a gift wrapped in Christmas paper.

I didn't care I was mad and I put my foot down after that.

 

[Wall-E1]

I also found out that they didn't just email my side of the family, but also the husband's entire side of the family, and their friends as well. WTH? Are they planning to contribute ANY amount for it themselves?

I don't even know them and I just received an email from them asking me to contribute. Have they no shame?

 

[Piglets Mommy]

Hey, you all just gave me a great idea....

I want to take my kids back to Disney for Christmas. But it is 3 days before, and there are no rooms available. So what I need form you is this: I need one of you to cancel your trip, so I can have your room. Oh, and I can't afford it, so I need everyone who has posted on this thread to give me $100 towards the trip. If you don't I'll reply back with a snarky email wishing you a Merry Christmas.


Really....that is no more assinine than the email the OP got. If you want to get something nice for your kids, plan ahead, and within your budget.

 

[Wall-E1]

Hey, you all just gave me a great idea....

I want to take my kids back to Disney for Christmas. But it is 3 days before, and there are no rooms available. So what I need form you is this: I need one of you to cancel your trip, so I can have your room. Oh, and I can't afford it, so I need everyone who has posted on this thread to give me $100 towards the trip. If you don't I'll reply back with a snarky email wishing you a Merry Christmas.


Really....that is no more assinine than the email the OP got. If you want to get something nice for your kids, plan ahead, and within your budget.

If you pm me, I'll be more than happy to ship our refillable mugs for your family to illegally use on your next trip.

 

[cheermom1]

Hey, you all just gave me a great idea....

I want to take my kids back to Disney for Christmas. But it is 3 days before, and there are no rooms available. So what I need form you is this: I need one of you to cancel your trip, so I can have your room. Oh, and I can't afford it, so I need everyone who has posted on this thread to give me $100 towards the trip. If you don't I'll reply back with a snarky email wishing you a Merry Christmas.


Really....that is no more assinine than the email the OP got. If you want to get something nice for your kids, plan ahead, and within your budget.

I am LOL and my kids think I'm nuts but that was funny


I agree I have never ever (even when i was a single mom and had NOTHING) done something like this -- I couldn't imagine thinking about doing this let alone doing it...

there was several times when I got surprises when they were younger --one time I found brand new coats for all of us hanging on my door, I have NO idea where they came from but I was standing there crying my eyes out b/c we really did need those coats ....

but to come right out ask for people to give you LOTS of money for a very expensive gift b/c either you blew your money or b/c you didn't save or what ever reason is wrong..IF you really NEED something ask for the needed item but not an expensive want????

 

[Piglets Mommy]

If you pm me, I'll be more than happy to ship our refillable mugs for your family to illegally use on your next trip.

Great, thanks!
Although I may not need them, since you all are funding my trip. Did I mention we will be doing Deluxe Dining. Then I can come back and whine that I couldn't get any ADR's for the trip I only booked 3 days out, and didn't even pay for myself. Oh, and I promise to Pool Hop too...that thread should provide a few hours of entertainment in return for your funding of my trip!

 

[whgrn]

I am absolutely blown away by what some of you have experienced! It makes me appreciate my family even more! We do things VERY differently here:

My parents, brother, sister and I do not exchange gifts. Instead, we each choose a charity, and we all donate to each other's charities, in whatever amount we feel comfortable with. My parents welcome ideas for the kids, and in fact I often buy the stuff myself, ship it to my mom, and she just pays for it. Makes it easier for her. But the big gift from them each year to all the grandkids is to choose one item from the World Vision catalog, to be given to a poor child or family somewhere in the world. This year my kids picked a pig and a goat, and my nieces picked a year of school for an African child, and a therapeutic food. The kids really get into making their choices each year, and they learn something about giving to others.

Merry Christmas everyone!

 

[thefirebuilds]

wanna be passive agressive? buy them a WII yourself just to spite the parents. $200 is cheap revenge to me