What do you think makes a date a date?

[#1 Disney Fan]

<font color=navy>This has been a big pondering question of discussion this week, so I thought I'd throw it out to everyone here. Lots of opinions, and no seeminly clear-cut answers.

So what do you think constitues a date? What makes a date a date, as opposed to it just being two friends hanging out together? If neither party specifies either way, just how exactly do you know?


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[helenabear]

I had to do it after a short while with a guy I wound up dating but he was just to shy to bring it up and finally the not knowing go the best of me.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I say it is in the mind of at least one of the two people. If one calls it a date, it is, at least for that person. Ask Lady M.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So true Dan. After being with DH for 18yrs I still want to "date" him. So my defintion is when DH and go out somewhere, just the two of us (no kids, no other people we know) to have some fun.

 

[lilboo]

In my big dating days if I WANTED it to be a date-date I'd just smile coyly and ask, "Hey, is this a date?"

If I DIDN'T want it to be a date, I'd ask sheepishly, "Ummm...this isn't a date, is it?"

Good luck and have fun figuring it out!!!

 

[DisMNagain]

What makes a date a date is the kiss at the END of the date.


If you get nothing more than a pat on the back...I'd say that it wasn't a date.

But if you get a kiss.........mmmmmmm well...YOU'VE just had a date, my friend.


*smooch*

 

[luv2nascar]

another vote for the KISS
all GOOD dates end with a kiss
and depending on how good the kiss is will determine if there is a 2nd date

another good indication is if its just two people not a bunch of people and you are not meeting anyone else out

 

[Jeff in BigD]

It's a date if one of the three things happen:
-One person pays for the evening

-A round of tonsil hockey

-You find out what they're like in the morning

 

[Nikki_Nikki]

Hi Lynne!

I'm still pondering this question! lol I still stick with the feeling of the night between the two of you and if there's touching and getting to know one another. But I also think there is a difference in the way you get to know your new friends and the way you get to know a prospect.

The kiss at the end of the night is another one I hadn't thought about! Of course if there's a kiss (opened mouthed) it was a date! Only thing with that is... I don't generally kiss on the first date, I usually end with a hug. Unless it was bad, then a simple smile and bye work fine! Call me prude, but if he's worth my time, he'll call for a second date then he'll get a kiss. But I'm a high maintenance.

Also, if there's flirting going on during the night. You don't generally flirt with your friends the way you do with a prospect either.

I think we need to hear more male opinions on this one!

 

[melk]

I hung around with a guy towards the end of high school, we would go out with a group of other kids, usually. One night he called and asked if I wanted to see a movie. When I answered the door, he was wearing shoes (not his usual Nike sneakers!!). I knew right then it was a date. Seventeen years later, and I'm still married to him!

 

[Pugsley]

I once was dating (I thought) a guy for about a year. We saw each other every weekend (dinners, dancing, movies, etc), traveled together, slept together, you name it. He then proceeded to tell me that we weren’t really dating. If that wasn’t dating, I sure don’t know what is. He had just gone through an ugly divorce and I think he wasn’t ready to be dating, so he just told himself he wasn’t. I can’t even believe I spent that much time with this guy; he was the weirdest person I’ve ever met, but we both liked Disney!

 

[JasonLyons]

Originally posted by DisMNagain
What makes a date a date is the kiss at the END of the date.

how does a real good date end

 

[JAP]

I have gone out with lots of men/boys and did not kiss at the end. I still considered those dates.

I consider a date when you are both in like, agree to do something special together, ie movies, football game, skating. I think dates are more than just the physical attraction.

 

[preshi]

A date to me... is when someone asks you if you want to do something on a certain day... You get all prepared...you have the butterflies... You go to dinner...to a comedy club or wherever and have a great time getting to know that person... (I wont say how the date should end....JASON )That to me is a date... if it's a guy friend and he calls and says wanna hang out tonight... that is not a date. That is hanging out with a friend. I dont need to get all prepped... I don't feel the butterflies... it's alot more comfortable.

I love that first date feeling...

 

[Serena]

Maybe the butterflies are the key. If you were invited out somewhere and you have butterlfies, it's a date?

 

[shep]

If it takes twice as long as normal to get ready..it's a date...