Justanopinion
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I am talking about a young(21) male family member.
This young man is learning disabled and to be quite honest just doesn't have any common sense.
His grandfather bought him a used truck early in the year and grandfather has paid for most but not all of the repairs on the truck since then. We are talking major repairs also, new transmission, tires, etc. He does do little odd jobs here and there for grandfather but not nearly enough to cover the cost of repairs.
Grandpa also lets him "work", yard work or sweeping the shop when he needs money here or there to get him by.
He has a hard time finding employment and keeping it. He quit a job at Tractor Supply earlier in the year because he didn't like a new manager, he then went back to work at Brookshires for like the 3rd time. He spent 3 days in produce before management moved him to unloading trucks, which management moved him out of again almost immediately to Sacker. He spent just a few weeks as Sacker before a manager asked him to take a week off because he seemed to be getting too frustrated. He told the manager he couldn't afford a week off and was not frustrated, so when the manager insisted he take a week off, he instead quit. This was all his words as he described what happened.
He has also spent most of this year moving between a few different homes. He moved out of relative "A" house because they weren't paying bills and partying instead. He sometimes goes to spend 2-3 days there though. He lives with the friend of relative "B" most of the time but comes and goes from there also. He spends 2-3 days or weekends with other relatives or friends whenever he wants.
He has a huge duffle bag that he keeps ALL his clothes in, that he usually keeps in his truck with him. This started because he went off to party with a friend for a few days and does this every so often.
Well, this last week, a family member called and asked him to come over immediately. He jumped in the truck and left. He had been trying to save on gas lately and had been riding with his tailgate down.
Yep, you probably guessed it, his duffle bag of clothes is now gone. It fell off the truck. He did retrace his steps but couldn't find it. He has no clothes now.
His grandfather bought him 3 pairs of jeans immediately and he did have about 3 t-shirts but that's it. He lost 3 pairs of boots, belts, ALL his clothes. He likes to dress Western which is not cheap. His shirts can run up to $60 - $80 each.
So some of the family is pressuring us and other family to buy him clothes for Christmas. This is not what we had planned. DH and I both feel that if we help replace the clothes we aren't teaching him any responsibility. DH says he needs to quit living this "Gypsy" lifestyle.
What do you think and what would you do? If you have any questions please just ask. I am sorry this post was so long, I tried to give as much info. as possible.
This young man is learning disabled and to be quite honest just doesn't have any common sense.
His grandfather bought him a used truck early in the year and grandfather has paid for most but not all of the repairs on the truck since then. We are talking major repairs also, new transmission, tires, etc. He does do little odd jobs here and there for grandfather but not nearly enough to cover the cost of repairs.
Grandpa also lets him "work", yard work or sweeping the shop when he needs money here or there to get him by.
He has a hard time finding employment and keeping it. He quit a job at Tractor Supply earlier in the year because he didn't like a new manager, he then went back to work at Brookshires for like the 3rd time. He spent 3 days in produce before management moved him to unloading trucks, which management moved him out of again almost immediately to Sacker. He spent just a few weeks as Sacker before a manager asked him to take a week off because he seemed to be getting too frustrated. He told the manager he couldn't afford a week off and was not frustrated, so when the manager insisted he take a week off, he instead quit. This was all his words as he described what happened.
He has also spent most of this year moving between a few different homes. He moved out of relative "A" house because they weren't paying bills and partying instead. He sometimes goes to spend 2-3 days there though. He lives with the friend of relative "B" most of the time but comes and goes from there also. He spends 2-3 days or weekends with other relatives or friends whenever he wants.
He has a huge duffle bag that he keeps ALL his clothes in, that he usually keeps in his truck with him. This started because he went off to party with a friend for a few days and does this every so often.
Well, this last week, a family member called and asked him to come over immediately. He jumped in the truck and left. He had been trying to save on gas lately and had been riding with his tailgate down.
Yep, you probably guessed it, his duffle bag of clothes is now gone. It fell off the truck. He did retrace his steps but couldn't find it. He has no clothes now.
His grandfather bought him 3 pairs of jeans immediately and he did have about 3 t-shirts but that's it. He lost 3 pairs of boots, belts, ALL his clothes. He likes to dress Western which is not cheap. His shirts can run up to $60 - $80 each.
So some of the family is pressuring us and other family to buy him clothes for Christmas. This is not what we had planned. DH and I both feel that if we help replace the clothes we aren't teaching him any responsibility. DH says he needs to quit living this "Gypsy" lifestyle.
What do you think and what would you do? If you have any questions please just ask. I am sorry this post was so long, I tried to give as much info. as possible.
