What do you fight over?

[mommaU4]

I was just wondering when you fight with your SO/DH/DW what is it usually about? Is there one topic that is usually guaranteed to cause an arguement? Vacations? Money? The kids? In-laws? Their friends?

And does it seem to worsen this time of year with the added financial burdens, and whose family to go see, and how many presents for the kiddies, etc?

 

[NMAmy]

We don't fight very often. Usually, one of us will be cranky for whatever reason and the other one just waits till the cranky one realized they are being a pill and apologizes. Luckily, we've been together 7 years and neither of us have been cranky at the same time yet. We might disagree about something but we usually talk it out rationally with each one presenting their point of view. DH is very even tempered and I think that helps. It's hard to stay mad at someone that is pleasant and listening to you whine.

The usual topics aren't a problem--finances aren't a worry, dd is his stepdaughter so he defers to me on all parenting issues (except we do disagree on training our puppy!), and he spoils dd more than I do so he's way more likely to go overboard on gifts for her--if I say something about it, he'll tell me take it out of his allowance. His family lives in England so if we're visiting, we've planned it way in advance. And I've converted him to the WDW vacation and now HE'S the one that suggests we go there.

I'm pretty lucky--he's a great guy.

 

[anewvance]

The fact that he'll sit there on his rear and do nothing around here unless I SPECIFICALLY ask him to do something. And usually he gives me fuss when he does it. He's the worst procrastonator you've ever met too... it's horrible!

 

[barbeml]

We've never had a fight. We don't always agree, but neither of us has any problem voicing our opinions and we always come to an agreement. We've been married 7 years, we met when we were in our mid-thirties.

We have the same philosophy about money and no kids, so two big issues don't exist for us.

 

[mickeyboat]

We fight about discipline for the kids. I think he is too tough, he thinks I am too soft. That's really about it.

Denae

 

[lulugirl]

We fight about discipline for the kids. I think he is too tough, he thinks I am too soft. That's really about it.

Denae

Same here, except I'm the meanie and Dh is a big mush!

 

[SC Minnie]

We rarely fight-- I think we have had one semi big one and that was about money.

The only time we come close is when we brings work stress home and takes it out on DD or me by being short tempered and snappy.

 

[Texan Mouseketeer]

money, money and more money

other than that - just the private stuff between adults if you get what I mean

at least we agree on the kids!

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm menopausal right now so believe me I can fight ANYthing to fight about right now.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm menopausal right now so believe me I can find ANYthing to fight about.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

We fight over who's cuter.

"You are so cute!"

"No, you are! You hunka hunka burnin' love!"

"Oh, stop! You know you are WAY cuter!"

But seriously, we haven't had any arguments yet. Our relationship is too new.

With my ex-husband, our biggest arguments were over money. With ex-boyfriend, our only arguments were over his selfishness.

 

[luvmydogs]

We usually have one or two big blowups and a few pick-pick-pick squabbles a year. The big ones are usually about money, and the bickering is usually about the disciplining of our ds10.

 

[transparant]

THe fact that I want to go back to Disney World quicker than he does! LOL!

 

[Kitty 34]

Hmmm, that's interesting I have two posts, three minutes apart??? :

 

[Just2554]

My boyfriend and I don't fight too often. When we do, it's usually about what a big procrastinator he is and how he refuses to write things down, so he tends to forget when we've agreed to attend something.

Gah and his family. They are such a thorn in my side. He and I agree about everything for the most part - money, plans, our future, etc. His mother on the other hand, disagrees with everything and gives him the third degree about it all.

 

[jgmklmhem]

Fights are rare. One of us being cranky and being mean every now and then. What we have fought over: In-laws (both sides), money, housework (my wife grew up in a pig pen and still at times thinks it is acceptable) and any number of really little stupid things that have come up.

 

[ducklite]

We bicker regularly. It's like a couple two year olds, it's quick and then over and forgotten.

The most common cause of disagreement is pretty petty--one perceives that the other is ignoring them or being short with them. Often there is some truth to this--and it's two sided.

In general we get along as far as money/spending habits. I'm the spender, but I know the limits--while I can purchase a $30 filter for my camera without him blinking an eye or really caring--in fact he just doesn't even want to know, but if I want to spend $5000 for a new camera body (a topic recently broached and quickly regretted LOL!) I'd better discuss it with him.

Family--well, his make him as crazy as they make me, so that's not a problem, and he really likes mine--sometimes I think more than I do LOL!

Housework we seldom argue over, we both pitch in. There are things one or teh other of us are better at, and we tend to gravitate towards them.

Certain times of the month he knows that no matter what he says or does it's not going to be right, and he just keeps a wide berth LOL!

Anne

 

[caitycaity]

recently it's been his family

when we were in debt it was mostly about money, but fortunately that's not such an issue any more.

 

[Planogirl]

MONEY! Money (or the lack of it lately) is a big issue for us nowadays and hardly a second goes by when we're together that we aren't bickering. Stress has a lot to do with that unfortunately.