What did you used to get in trouble for, by your Mom/Dad?

[Silent1CB]

And can I tell you, when she passed away, one of the (MANY!) thoughts I had after she died, was that she would FINALLY know, I hadn't wiped my hands on those damn towels.

Glad to know its sort of normal to think that way. My parents are still alive, but I already know I'm going to be having thoughts like this when they go & wonder if I'll feel guilty for them.

 

[ilovepcot]

I was bad to lie and talk back.

I'd gotten in trouble for something I no longer recall and was on "restriction". Because of that I was forbidden to go with the band to the state capital to perform for some sort of function. I was a majorette (baton twirler) and really wanted to go. So....I put on my majorette outfit, school clothes over the top, boots were already in school locker...I was set. Train took the band to the event and I'd return home by the end of the school day. Easy. Not a soul would know.

Train was late returning us back home. As I walked into the house, my parents were seated at the bar in the kitchen having dinner. They looked ticked! Seems there had been a "close up" of me on the evening news hurling my baton into the heavens and strutting across a field as the band played on!!!!!

 

[Meggielu]

My parents got me in trouble if I read too much...I tended to put everything off in lieu of reading . Also, though I wasn't required to shake the shower curtain off, I DID get in trouble for letting water run out the side of the shower and behind the toilet.

 

[Cinerbelle]

I would get in trouble for putting potato peels down the garbage disposal... Dad would get soooo mad when he had to climb onto the roof and "snake" the drain.

Not cooking dinner to my Mothers liking... One time she pissed me off so I put a TON of pepper into the hamburgers... neener neener... ruined dinner that night! Fogetting to put the potatoes in the oven when I got home from school.. if we were having baked potatoes I would have to put them in when I got home so that they would be ready for her to eat the minute she walked in the door. One time I forgot to put them in and had to leave to go to work... she called me at work and yelled at me because she had no potato to go with her steak. UGH.. she was a PITA.

 

[mickilee]

I also remembered - remember that colored hair mousse? It would come in like red, purple.... WTH was it called? It was really pigmented, and would work good?

manic panic?

 

[Artoo]

I got in trouble a lot for talking back, and also for not being somewhere that I said I would be at!

 

[bumbershoot]

Born in the early 60's, but raised by very Leave it To Beaver & Father Knows Best type parents but stricter.
Kids should be seen & not heard type of place.

Talking during dinner because dad wanted to be able to watch the news.
Items were not replaced if I broke them or lost them.

Basically, doing exactly as my parents wished. To this day, I still think I need to please them with everything and I'm mid-40's. This is very sad to say, but I sort of hope I'll be able to (mentally) lead my own life & not feel any guilt about some decisions after they are gone....or will this always be with me.

I'm sorry. My husband was raised in similar ways...his dad was born before the Depression, and his mom was from another country, and they were SCARY strict, and entirely unreasonable. He actually *started* lying because if they thought he was lying they would punish for it (and the offense) anyway, and any explanation was seen as talking back, which then got MORE punishment.

He actually got some good words in with his dad, including an apology, in the weeks before his dad died. Went a long way towards healing those wounds.

The losing/damaging stuff thing...that was a big one and still messes with his head. Last year he somehow lost his mp4 player on the commuter train. He walked in the door and suddenly got a funny look on his face, and I knew just looking at his face that eh'd just noticed his player was gone. He was so upset. Nowadays that sort of thing is easier to cover financially, but a year ago we were in a VERY different position with money, and this was BAD.

Even though I'm not the parent of him, I am the one in charge of finances, and it was hard to find the money to replace it with something nearly as good but much less expensive. He was SO grateful that we could replace it, because that never would have happened growing up. Just having something replaced that he had accidentally lost (his computer bag has a velcro mp3/phone pouch/holder and he must have hit the door causing it to come off...he actually had that bag replaced by warranty b/c something else was breaking on it, and the replacement had changes the company had made...much stronger, thicker, velcro on that extra pouch, so he wasn't the only one to have a problem) helped to heal him.

So you can start healing from it now, while they are alive, if you put your mind to it. And I think if you stay focused and have people that support you, you won't suddenly find yourself having to follow their rules once they are gone. The fact that you are aware of it, that you are thinking about the patterns now, shows that you don't have to continue those patterns.

Turning to many lights on -as I type this there are lights on in 4 areas of my home When my husband is home he usually follows me around shutting them off.

OMG I married my father!!!!

You reminded me of it! Although my mom always turned the lights on if we were reading and it had gotten darker, she was a stickler for turning the lights off if we left the room. But I like a bright house!

And...I married my mom, as DH will go around turning off lights behind me...

 

[Bluestars]

My parents were very strict, but they were both workaholics, so they were never home.

We could not watch TV in the daytime unless it was an educational show

We could not eat any processed food like chips

We could not eat any fried foods. I was a teenager the first time my dad let us get a meal at Jack-In-the Box to take with us to the drive-in. We would make our own french fries while our parents were working. We would wash the pan afterwards so that they would never know.

We had to eat all the vegetables on our dinner plate. If we didn't eat them quick enough, my dad would get a timer out and for every minute they would sit on our plate, we would be grounded for a day. I still can't stand cauliflower, lima beans, and brussel sprouts. Also, I have never forced my kids to eat anything.

We had to turn off lights when we left the room and wipe the counter top off when we were finished using the kitchen. We had to put things away right after we finished using them. We were not allowed to eat in our bedrooms.

Also, one time we touched the windows of my dad's car and got fingerprints on it. We had to wash the entire car. Another time I borrowed a book from my dad. The cover got ripped and I had to buy a new book for him.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Mostly, for being sassy and talking back. As a toddler, child, AND a teenager.

I got in trouble for not "wiping the shower down" after I was done. What the entailed was taking a washcloth and wiping the water from the walls and corners. Mold prevention. Unfortunately, I now yell at my DH for the same thing.

As a school-aged child, I got in trouble for not being motivated in school. I was perfectly fine with being a C-student. Funny thing is, I think I ended up better off than those "honor roll" kids. No doubt.

As a teenager, I would be grounded for being 1 second late from a date. I wish I were kidding.

 

[PatsGirl]

Wow, now looking at what other people got in trouble for I'm thinking we had it pretty good, most likely because my parents were 16 and 18 years older than I was and had all they could handle with four children and very little $$, lol..

I don't remember my mother getting upset very often but Dad did He made us wear skirts/dresses at least once a week up until I was about 16 (1977) and the last beating I got was for lying about where I was going, that happened when I was 13 and in 8th grade. He had a thing about lying and I've carried that into my parenting as well. It almost cost him his marriage but instead he got four years of Merchant Marine duty

I remember smoking, hitchhiking, dating boys much older than me and tons of other stuff that you'd think would have upset parents but not them so much. Oh yeah, we'd get in big trouble if the phone rang for us during the dinner hour (6-7 pm) or if we needed to use the bathroom when we should have been finishing the dinner dishes or other chores we were assigned And God help you if the school called!

 

[CathrynRose]

manic panic?

Noooo. Gosh. It's gonna drive me NUTS!

I wanna say it was L'oreal or Clairol. It was sold at Walgreens, Osco, CVS - those types of big chains. Came in Burgundy, Wine, Red, Purple.

I wanna say the bottle was white, with a pink top, with pink letters.

That is going to drive me nuts all night!

All I know, is it didn't come out when you washed it - but it did get on the towel just fine.