What crowd were you in High School?

[tiggerlover]

....a jock, a brain, a nerd? Were you in the "in-crowd" or the burnout crowd or what? I just finished watching an episode of CSI and this was a question they asked everyone and it got me to thinking.

......what "crowd" were you associated with in high school?

 

[Doctor P]

I was a brain, and was part of that crowd to some extent, but I was also very much part of the jock crowd as I was sufficiently athletic to compete and was also a longtime friend and classmate and teammate of most of the jocks (though I only played high school sports for one year--I played more sports in college!!!).

 

[snoopy]

I've always been very independent, even as a kid, and never fit into any one clique. I was a cheerleader in high school, but I was also very artsy, so I had friends that were a little unusual and eclectic. This caused so much pain for about half of the cheerleading squad, since they never wanted to accept anyone into their crowd who wasn't exactly like them. I think I used to bring people around who were different just to irritate them.

The funny thing was is I went to my 20-year high school reunion, and these women who were in the cheerleading clique were just these miserable women who could never get over the fact that they were no longer cheerleaders. It was the "ugly ducklings", so to speak, who went on to become swans. It made going to the reunion all worth it.

 

[snuggles]

I was in the band group. We spent so much time together that it was hard not to be friends. Snoopy I agree with you about the reunions. Ours have all been that way too. Funny how life turns things around isnt it?

 

[KaterBell]

It's hard to say -- definitely wasn't a cheerleader (I have NO coordination and no fashion sense ), wasn't exactly a "Brain" but I had classes with the brainy kids. Just didnt' hang out with them. I wasn't a Band kid... but I hung out with some of them. (and then married one) And I wasn't the Grunge kid...but I hung out with them.... I was just ME! It's hard to express yourself wearing a catholic school uniform, so I wore the same thing every day, and hung out with the kids that didn't do drugs, were funny enough to crack me up on a daily basis, and listened to similar music as I did. I guess I was a "normal" kid.

 

[Disney Doll]

I kind of hung out with everyone, except for the real druggie kids. I played sports, worked on the school play, was in the honor society, so I kind of fit with everyone. I tended to be pretty easygoing, and didn't make too many enemies. There were kids I hung out with more,but I could talk to any group.

 

[glo]

hmmmm....I was in the average group. Not the nerds....definitely not the cheerleadrs, though I did cheer for one sememster, and loved the cheering hated the girls. Definitely not the smart group...So I dunno....kinda hung with our own weird group...who enjoyed theater, traveling, volleball...and BOYS!!!!!

 

[Lynn CC]

I was in the "Miss Priss" group.
Or atleast that's what the others said.

We didn't like anyone, but one another.We just went out shopping, movies, out to eat, vacationed,and worked A LOT...together of course!
We never let anone else into our small circle.
We only see one another every 10 years now.

There were a lot of jocks, brains, burnouts in our H.S. too

 

[Blondie]

I wouldn't say I was w/the "in crowd" as most of those were the brainiacs and I didn't want anything to do w/those girls because most of them had their noses so far up in the air that they wore clouds for hats!

I fluctured between the regular (non-jock/business majors) and the stoners (or as you put it "burnouts")--they always had way more fun!

The "jocks" in my school scared me! The girl jocks were bigger than some guys, and they looked like they ate nails for breakfast!

At our 20th HS reunion, the Miss Priss types didn't even bother to show up. Their loss!

 

[Princess_Aurora]

Snoopy...you give me hope for my reunion. My only motivation in life is to become sucessful so I can go back to my reunion so people will notice me.

I wasn't in any kind of crowd. I was a loner. I had three friends in high school and they all dropped out before graduation. Even now people tend to just ignore me like I'm not here. Sometimes I think I must be invisible.

 

[ShuisFan584]

I was a brain and an athlete, but I was definitely an outcast. I was nowhere near the in crowd.

 

[snoopy]

Awww, Princess Aurora, you are NOT invisible! I notice you, I think you are a sweet person and I like your posts.

And besides, I think loners are usually very interesting people. They have the ability to entertain themselves without the benefit of other people. Nothing wrong with that.

I've told this story before here, but its worth reiterating. When I was a kid there was a little girl that I went to school with named Alice. She came from a poor family on the other side of town, and her father had abondoned her mother and her and her brothers and sisters when she was a baby, which was kind of unheard of back then. Anyway, the mean girls used to pick on her, she was very gawky and quiet and didn't have any friends. My mother, the most compassionate person on the face of this earth, invited her to our house one day, which started a life-long friendship. I realized there was so much more to Alice than the shy girl who was afraid to look a person in the eye. She was funny and smart and likeable, but if my mother had not initiated that first play date, I don't think I would have ever known. She became my little pal, and I got into more of my share of scraps defending her. And the greatest part about this little story is at our reunion, it was Alice who was the swan song. She went on to be a journalist, working for the New York Times - a very confident and amazing woman. Her biggest nemesis, a girl named Susan who lived and breathed being mean to Alice, went on to become absolutely nothing but a miserable, frumpy, nasty woman who never got over the fact that she was no longer homecoming queen. A living example of what goes around comes around.

 

[antnee]

Oh well High School lets see the State has asked me to plead "No Comment" when asked that question. But in college I belonged to a fraternity called 'GDI'



GOD DAMN INDEPENDENT

 

[Mickeyfaniam]

well there was a brain crowd.....that wasn't me
a beautiful crowd....not me again
athletic crowd....not me either
and a drug using crowd....no again

then there was the leftovers...that was me the group of kids that didn't belong to any of the groups and we did have fun and some great friendships

some of those others...from the cliques...included some of the cruelest girls I have ever met.....they were responsible for some of my most painful memories...they picked on my sister and myself for no good reason other then they knew my dad was an alcholic and beat on my mom i guess they saw that as our fault I wonder if they ever recall those times now as adults...and feel shame

 

[Mickeyfaniam]

snoopy...I didn't see your post before I posted mine...that is a heart warming story....thanks for sharing

I guess I am here on the DIS, the same as I was in school. Don't like to attract attention...just blend in and mostly just hang with the small group that I know....the cheerleader thread.
I'm not a snob or unfriendly..... just more comfortable in small groups

 

[RitaZ.]

I guess if I had to choose, it would be the "average crowd". I have never cared for cliques or exclusive groups, I never will.

I had some really good friends throughout High School. I still keep in touch with one of them, she now lives in Kansas. The friends really worth having are the ones that accept you for what you are.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>I was part of a small group of friends who didn't like to get involved in anything, but tolerated my involvement in everything. I was not part of the "in-crowd" but friends with everyone in that crowd & used to also hang out with them, I wasn't athletic, but I somehow got involved with those in sports, I wasn't a brainiac, but I ended up as president of CSF (CA Scholarship Federation), I wasn't a gang-banger, but I helped tutor ESL, so I was friends with them (they probably got a kick of my round open eyes when they would tell me of their fights, etc. -- I was just glad that they liked me)... I wouldn't say that I was a nerd, but I would go to the Sci Fi club meetings (lol) - the teacher knew Rod Serling, and that was kind of cool.... I wasn't allowed to date, so I was just friends with everyone.

I think I was pretty much clueless when it came to knowing the dark side of anyone (drugs, etc) - I was pretty naive, and my MO is to look at the good in everyone, so people tended to leave me in the dark -- I was once told after we graduated that they didn't tell me that they did drugs, etc., cuz they wanted my respect - that came from someone in the in-crowd.

My kids are starting their high school years, and I try to encourage (without pushing) them to get involved. That was some of the best advice that my cousins gave me when I was going....

Uh, I think I went off tangent here, didn't I?

errr -- small intimate group of friends - lot of casual friends -- no cliques

 

[ead79]

I was part of the brain crowd, which mostly coincided with the band and orchestra people. I was never in band or orchestra though. It was a huge clique, so I'm not sure it actually qualifies as a clique. I also think it will be interesting to see what became of the popular crowd at my first reunion.

 

[A kid at heart]

I was part of the fun crowd. WE had fun wherever we went, no matter what we did. I did hang out with a few of the burnouts too. I wasn't an angel in high school thats for sure. But I passed and went on to school.
At our last 2 reunions most of our crowd was there and we had a wonderful time! We had people coming over to our table to ask us why we were always laughing.(and no we weren't doing the burnout thing LOL) It was great too see the prisses and how miserable they were. The jocks/studs and how bald and fat they were now, the ugly ducklings and how they blossemed. The burnouts were still just that, burnouts, altho a few were successful! What I noticed too was how the prisses and jocks/studs were the ones who drank the most all night.
It was nice mingling with the teachers and seeing that they really are human after all! LOL

 

[kylara]

It was strange for me to get to HS and suddenly find myself part of a group. All growing up, I had one best friend that I hung out with outside of school (but I did hang out with others in school). Most of the cliques didn't interest me. I liked a lot of the people individually, but once they got together...yikes! I found them not to be too enjoyable to be around...suddenly they got very judgemental about people who were not like them. I came from town where jocks and cheerleaders were considered the "in crowd" and that seems to be what most HSers tried to be like. It wasn't for me...I was somewhat shy and didn't like being in the spotlight. I didn't really like sports...so even though I got along with the "in crowd" I didn't want to hang around with them.

But when I got to HS, one of the girls I hung out with in school said she wanted to try out for the play, but she didn't want to go to the Drama Club meeting alone and would I come with her. I did...I told the advisor/director that I didn't want to audition but that I would like to help out. Little did I know, that one line would help me find the group of people I had unknowingly been looking for. The Drama club was considered the weirdo's of the school but that never bothered me. Often the "in crowd" hated the people in the Drama Club to the point of bullying them. But since many of the "in-crowd" still liked me, I never had that problems and they actually backed off some of the "more different" Drama clubbers.

The Drama Club gave me a place I was comfortable, and gave me some of the best friends of my life. I gained confidence. I didn't act in the shows, although I did do one small walk on for my points for the Int'l Thespain Assn. and some dancing in a variety show. But the shy girl who always spent her time with one friends before HS...became the Stage Manager for the annual muscial by her Soph. year. I went from being very unsure of myself, to literally running the show in just a years time.

The advisor/director of the Drama club is a woman I will never forget. She saw a shy, usure girl and helped me believe in myself...along with a select group of club members.

So while the word "clique" often holds negative connotations, I am proud I belongs to the weirdest clique my HS had going! Besides, the different color hair, the strange color nail polish (after all this was before blue, purple, black became the norm), the strange clothes, the Rocky Horror Picture show etc, makes for great HS memories today...many years after.