We're really not that close knit a family...

[kelleyrn2000]

This is just a vent. I really want to move...house is too small for a family of 5. I've felt the need to move for the past few years, and I feel claustrophobic sometimes. DH refuses to move because he loves our location. MIL lives behind us and over one house. Love my MIL, but DH has to maintain her home quite often, everything is always going wrong because it's an older house. Basically, he maintains two homes to some degree.

Now, DH comes home today and tells me that his FIL and FIL's girlfriend are going to make an offer on a house 4 houses down!! Please! Not only will this drive MIL insane (they have been cordial since the divorce, but she would never want to live near him), but would totally drive me over the edge (picture a zoo of animals running around the neighborhood). Seriously, this seems like a bad dream. Maybe I should start packing now.

Then a while ago I looked through dd backpack, and somehow, somewhere, it was decided I was going to be a room mom for her class!!?! I was seriously just feeling the relief last week that nobody had called me to ask if I would step up (it's really not my thing but I can never say no when they ask). Well apparently they didn't call me but just decided for me!!

Ok thanks for letting me vent, and now I'm hoping to wake up tomorrow to find this was just a dream ...I know worse things could be happening, so I should save my complaining, but I just needed to vent somewhere!

 

[SandrA9810]

LOL. sounds like a long day...

Maybe after you husband spends enough time trying to stop the bickering between his parent's, he'll want to give up the good fight and move too.

I can just picture, his mom calling while he's at his dad trying to do one thing, for him to go over and fix something of her's. And then the battle ensues over who's house is more important.

 

[Mom-to-2-Princesses]

This is just a vent. I really want to move...house is too small for a family of 5. I've felt the need to move for the past few years, and I feel claustrophobic sometimes. DH refuses to move because he loves our location. MIL lives behind us and over one house. Love my MIL, but DH has to maintain her home quite often, everything is always going wrong because it's an older house. Basically, he maintains two homes to some degree.

Now, DH comes home today and tells me that his FIL and FIL's girlfriend are going to make an offer on a house 4 houses down!! Please! Not only will this drive MIL insane (they have been cordial since the divorce, but she would never want to live near him), but would totally drive me over the edge (picture a zoo of animals running around the neighborhood). Seriously, this seems like a bad dream. Maybe I should start packing now.

Then a while ago I looked through dd backpack, and somehow, somewhere, it was decided I was going to be a room mom for her class!!?! I was seriously just feeling the relief last week that nobody had called me to ask if I would step up (it's really not my thing but I can never say no when they ask). Well apparently they didn't call me but just decided for me!!

Ok thanks for letting me vent, and now I'm hoping to wake up tomorrow to find this was just a dream ...I know worse things could be happening, so I should save my complaining, but I just needed to vent somewhere!

I can't even imagine!!!! {{Hugs}} to you.

 

[princessbride6205]

Sorry you're dealing with this - I would be going nuts too.

This sounds like a pitch for a sitcom. I can't believe the FIL would be moving in so close!

 

[kelleyrn2000]

Thanks, I really hope the offer falls through!

FIL is a bit off his rocker. He wanted to buy this huge house (gf wouldn't let him) and he tried to get my SIL and BIL to live there with them. He is retired and why on earth would he buy a huge house?

So of course now he found this house on our street and it's not like we live in a small town. There are plenty of houses out there, why does he want to live by us? DH will have to either agree to move or deal with me being insane, and at this point I'm already 3/4 there, so I think maybe he will move if he's smart.

 

[java]

Let him buy your house! And MOVE.

Another quick thing- if you don't learn to say no you'll be living at the school. It's simple. Send an email - "there must be some mistake, I did not volunteer to be class mom this year. Good luck with your search."

 

[kacaju]

MIL lives behind us and over one house. Love my MIL, but DH has to maintain her home quite often, everything is always going wrong because it's an older house. Basically, he maintains two homes to some degree.

This will probably not stop. If you move will you be ok with your dh going to his Mom's house still to fix it for her? It may take more time away from your family

 

[golfgal]

This will probably not stop. If you move will you be ok with your dh going to his Mom's house still to fix it for her? It may take more time away from your family

I was going to say the same thing, he will still have to help mom but will now had to add "'driving time" to that. I think it is weird that his dad wants to live so close to his mom though.

 

[kelleyrn2000]

I'm hoping MIL will step in here and tell FIL how she feels. She would sell her house in a hearbeat to move if she could, but she owes more on her house than it is worth right now. I think if MIL risks hurting his feelings, which it will, then he would take her feelings into consideration, but of course it would cause hard feelings between them. FIL just doesn't get that MIL doesn't want to be friends with he and his gf. Cordial is fine, but that's as far as she can handle.

According to dh, FIL's gf told my SIL about them going and looking at that house. FIL gf's said SIL's eyes got huge when she mentioned it. SIL asked if MIL and my DH knew they were interested in the house, and FIL's gf said no. SIL was apparently freaking out for our sake as well!! So I think that FIL gf gets the issue of us not wanting to live close by, but FIL is a different story.

Java-I like your idea! But unfortunately, DH would never do that, knowing his dad would let the house/yard go down the hill for lack of maintenance. It would drive him insane to see that happen.

Yes, he would still likely have to make repairs for MIL, but we would still live close enough that he wouldn't have to drive too far, maybe 5 minutes away. We love our schools, so wouldn't move out of district.

 

[WheresFigment?]

I hear you. We are trying to buy a house and my darling boyfriend refuses to live further than 10 miles from his parents house. Which is 500 feet from the houses of both sets of grandparents, and 1000ft from his cousins, and uncle.

I am really not behind this idea because by the time he is done mowing his grandma's lawn, cleaning her gutters, and doing other "work at grandma's" and the fact that his mother insists that someone from the family has to sleep at his grandmother's house EVERY NIGHT, our own home is going to be in disrepair.

I'm thinking moving cross country is going to be the only way to break this frankly disturbing attachment to his extended family. There's like 9 grandkids, but somehow he's the only one who ever has to help them. I'm so not OK with this.

 

[kelleyrn2000]

I hear you. We are trying to buy a house and my darling boyfriend refuses to live further than 10 miles from his parents house. Which is 500 feet from the houses of both sets of grandparents, and 1000ft from his cousins, and uncle.

I am really not behind this idea because by the time he is done mowing his grandma's lawn, cleaning her gutters, and doing other "work at grandma's" and the fact that his mother insists that someone from the family has to sleep at his grandmother's house EVERY NIGHT, our own home is going to be in disrepair.

I'm thinking moving cross country is going to be the only way to break this frankly disturbing attachment to his extended family. There's like 9 grandkids, but somehow he's the only one who ever has to help them. I'm so not OK with this.

I hear you. I tell dh all the time, jokingly, we need to move far away and not give out our address (my mom would follow us) so we can have a break for a while. We love our family, just not willing to get that sucked into the craziness and dysfunction that goes along with them. It's very stressful for both of us.