Wendy & Chuck's PJ and TR Merged 2/4/08 Escape SBP/JIKO: Updated 9/19-Pleasure Island

[MistressOfAllEvil]

My DF is OK about being with my brother the night before the wedding, his dad also doesn't want to go to our wedding. His mum will also be at the hotel so its not all bad.

He has got the attitude that if they don't want to be there it is their loss.

pass along a for your DF. He's so right, if they don't want to be there, it is there loss. AND the people who are there for him (and you) are the people who really do care, and really do matter!

 

[Kristen14]

Oh Wendy, I know exactly how you feel! I've had a breakdown like this every month since we've been planning. I've been doing everything by myself also, and you're right it isnt easy. My parents live up in Michigan, and they've been great, but can't really help from there. My future in laws have been absolutely awful... everyone laughs when I call my FMIL the monster in law, but she truly is! She screams and yells at me at the top of her lungs for no reason... even when I'm being nice to her! The other day I asked her to read a reading at our wedding and you would've thought I asked her to come dressed in a big bird costume or something! I dont know why I even bothered. Then there's my Matron of Honor, my best friend Erin who I love. She just gave birth to her second son, and wont be able to play as large a part in our wedding as I would've liked. She'll drive up the day of the wedding for pictures and the ceremony, but she can't come to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and she'll leave right after the ceremony. All this drama on top of all the endless craft projects sure is stressful, but like Desnik said, I know i'll regret not having this wedding. I'm sure everything will work out for you. Keep us updated!

 

[B2B-2008]

pass along a for your DF. He's so right, if they don't want to be there, it is there loss. AND the people who are there for him (and you) are the people who really do care, and really do matter!

You hit the nail right on the head

I hope everything works out for you both.

 

[Desnik]

MistressOfAllEvil
I feel so bad for your DF, especially after reading that email! He wrote it very well, he should be proud of himself for stating his feelings like that! I would love to hear their response.

I think all you ladies dealing with all these wedding problems need a big

I wanted to also add that your families should've had to have delt with my sister! She was BRIDEZILLA!!! Her wedding was just on Dec. 29th and she was a complete nightmare! This was her 2nd wedding and she had a huge one the first time around and wasn't that bad then. This time it was like she was possessed! By the time we walked down the aisle we were so glad to be rid of her!LOL We told her DF, take her please!!

 

[DisneyLaura]

Dump the family and invite 18 of your closest DIS friends!

I second that.

Why doesn't she come with him, and avoid the "meanie" who doesn't want her husband in the first place?

I agree. She should come too.

Wendy - I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your DF, I hope this doesn't sound mean but your best man's wife needs to grow up a little.

 

[cseca]

Oh man... that is stupid... not you of course. That little witch you're talking about.
How could someone be so selfish?!?!?!?
I mean why punish your hubby's bf when it's your own hubby's actions that was messed up... good grief...

anyways, take a real deep breath. If you can, take a couple days off from this planning and just spend time with your DF. Try to get you two to focus on the good things in your life and maybe by the time you come back to planning, it will all be not as painful.

I have to say that your DF letter is very classy... I hope you two can figure out your next plan.
If we live in FL I'd loan you my DF to be your BM... He's a quiet kinda guy but he's trainable as a BM...

Hugs to you both and if I could be of any help pm me...

 

[DisBride2007]

Aww... situations that would be stressful normally are about 1000 times worse when it's right before your wedding! Try to keep cool, it's hard, but remember, it will all be worth it when you're walking down the aisle toward your sweetie!

 

[yearbook50]

I'm so sorry about the stressing.

I can freak out on anyone you need me to starting the 5th so if people give you drama at the ceremony. I'm good at being the mean one.

 

[mcarthur205]

I'm so sorry for all the stress you're under! I've been reading your PJ - you deserve to have an amazing wedding and I'm sure you will have, in spite of the issues you're dealing with now...

 

[Lisella]

Wendy, I am so sorry that you and your DF are having to deal with all of this. I will send lots of pixie dust and good thoughts your way...

Even if part of the blame is the Best Man's fault, it was very selfish and rude of his wife to pull this now - at the 11th hour. He made a commitment to your DF to be the best man - it's just wrong for her to insist and wrong for him to agree to make all of these changes at this point.

Just try to focus on the 2 of you (you & your DF, that is). No matter what, it is about the 2 of you. I've read that there are a number of others that have also been difficult with your relationship and wedding planning...maybe they all don't completely understand what a Disney wedding is all about and they probably don't understand what a good healthy relationship & marriage is all about.

Keep your head up and make the best of it. Like Carrie said, in the end you both will be able to say that you are married and that you had a Disney wedding - both beautiful and wonderful events. Yes, let go of everyone else's problems now - you have done more than your share of worrying about making them happy. It's your turn to be happy now.

 

[Tabetha]

She's that insecure!! Doesn't want to breath the same air!

To be honest though... we can't totally blame her. Anthony did create this situation! The guy deserves some of the blame.

Humph. Some relationship!
I've got all my digits crossed for a positive outcome for you guys. Your wedding will be wonderful no matter what.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I'm so sorry about the stressing.

I can freak out on anyone you need me to starting the 5th so if people give you drama at the ceremony. I'm good at being the mean one.

This made me laugh out loud. That's for the offer, but I'm pretty sure if any freaking out needs to be done, I'll be up for it!

Humph. Some relationship!

Yup!!! It's crazy isn't it.


BEST MAN UPDATE:

So, both Anthony and his wife Erin responded to the emails that Chuck sent. Erin claims that she's been on Anthony to get all the details figured out and to book his flight, etc... Anthony backed his wife up and told Chuck that it has nothing to do with Erin, that it was his own fault for not figuring things out sooner. And that he couldn't miss that much time from work?!? So, I know they are both totally lying. But, he did change his plans and now he's going to come in on Sunday and leave on Tuesday. So, he'll be there the night before the wedding to stay with Chuck and he'll be there for the whole day monday. He still won't be there to actually get his tux fitted and he'll miss the welcome dinner. Oh well. What can you do. I'm happy he'll be there for Chuck's sake, but this has really left a sour taste in my mouth.

I can't believe we're 3 weeks out. I can't wait for this to all be over!! lol.

Oh and my bachelorette party was Saturday. Whew. It was a doozie. And I was sick. I think I still am. But, I had a good time. So now I've gotta get pictures up from that and my shower. Soon, I promise.

 

[Desnik]

Thanks for the update! Obviously it sounds to me like the were lying and he was just covering for his wife! That's really sad. I am glad for your DF that he won't have to be alone the night before his wedding and that his BM won't miss the reception. However, I'm sure this will effect there relationship in the future. Can't wait to see pics of you bachelorette party!

 

[padisneyfour]

Sorry to hear all this, but unfortunately you would think that special events etc would bring out the best in people( esp. friends) but sometimes they actually bring out the wrost. Just remeber it truly is your day with your DH and enjoy....

 

[Kristen14]

I'm so glad your best man was able to figure out a solution. Hopefully it's smooth sailing from here on out! Good luck in the last 3 weeks!

 

[Lisacope]

Ditto what MLA said!!!!

 

[figmentfan814]

I'm glad to hear that things worked out a little better with the best man situation. I can't wait to see the pictures from the bachelorette party and the shower!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Ditto what MLA said!!!!

I tried running it by Chuck. He didn't really respond. I don't think he gets that you guys get it! know what I mean?? So, he must not have realized my seriousness. LOL.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I was just informed on Saturday that my wonderful FMIL wants to "surprise" me by having as favors 5 jordan almonds in mesh (I'm assuming that means tulle) tied with a ribbon with strips of paper with our names and date.
(WHICH WE KNOW IF I DID IT, IT WOULD LOOK AMAZING, I AM THE SCRAPBOOKER AND CRAFTER... HOWEVER SHE'S DELEGATED THIS TASK TO MY FSIL... NOT QUITE AS CRAFTY AND WE DON'T AGREE ON STYLE OR FASION AT ALL.)

I hate to sound petty. And I know I'm about to right here. And no offense to anyone who likes Jordan Almonds either. But ***?!?

It is not her place to come up with favors and then "surprise" me with them. The only reason I know about them is b/c FSIL told me b/c she's actually been put in charge of making this happen.

Last time I checked it was still my wedding. Therefore, I should be planning it. Things shouldn't be done to "surprise" me in the arena of guest favors. And you know what, I personally HATE HATE HATE Jordan Almonds.

I would just like to reiterate that this is not her wedding. She already had a wedding!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[mla1977]

And you know what, I personally HATE HATE HATE Jordan Almonds.

I would just like to reiterate that this is not her wedding. She already had a wedding!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I so absolutely agree with you. I think they are the most disgusting thing in the world (and I'm Italian). I told my BFF that they are expressly forbidden from any event thrown in honor of me. If I were to arrive at my bridal shower and they were there, I would leave (taking the presents with me though )

I am completely on your side with this one.